Quote from: Strivexwolf on April 25, 2019, 01:11:46 AM

1. Please let me know how Hrt Was for you please?
2. And Most importantly what should I do?
3. Should I Confess All This To My Mental Practitioner?
4. And Most Importantly What Would A Professional Say To This??
(I have intense Anxiety about this, and I really need support to do this for myself.)

5. Please Help Me What do I Do? 6. What Happens after coming out to a practitioner like this? u_u

I've been stealthly following this thread and decided if I'm going to chime in, I'm going back to the beginning.

1. Please let me know how Hrt Was for you please?

Your milage may vary, but I've found peace with myself.  That's all I ever wanted.

2. And Most importantly what should I do?

I can't answer that directly, but I can say you need to start thinking about the woman you love.  When you come out, she's going to start grieving.  Your best chance at keeping the relationship is going very slow with your transition, making sure she has access to counseling and support, and involving her in your counseling.

3. Should I Confess All This To My Mental Practitioner?

Yes!  And if they're uncomfortable, or not skilled in working with clients with gender identification concerns, ask for a referral to someone who is.

4. And Most Importantly What Would A Professional Say To This??

A true professional will say nothing but simply try to provide, or find you the help you need.

I live in nowhere Oklahoma.  I had already found a very good transition coach (therapist).  I needed, and was ready for HRT.  For me that meant coming out to my PCP.  I was terrified.  The conversation went amazingly well.  It turned out I wasn't her first trans patient. (Just the second.). She helped me find the endo I needed for HRT.

5. Please Help Me What do I Do?

I can't tell you what to do.  I can only tell you that there are caring professionals who will help you achieve what's best for you.  You only need to find them.

6. What Happens after coming out to a practitioner like this? u_u

A caring practitioner will guide you and help you access the resources that are appropriate for you.   The will be mostly non judgemental. They may however feel their expertise is lacking and refer you to a colleague.  This is all goodness.   

Take a deep breath, swallow, and reach out.

Finally, going back to your love:   She's probably going to be overwhelmed by her emotions when she discovers the depths of your pain.   She may feel the person she loved is dieing.  She may feel deeply betrayed.   She may fear what her family will think.  She may feel challenged about her own sexual orientation.

What ever you decide, help her find a support system and go slow.  Go very slow!  That will be the best thing you can do for the two of you, and give the best chance to you relationship.

With sisterly love
Kate




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When I was 18 I saw a therapist...it ended really badly for me and mostly because it was the early 1980's so little was known about being Trans. My therapist gave me the book Conundrum by Jan Morris and in that book I recognised myself. It scared me almost to death.. I knew I could never tell anyone. I was going to take this to my grave.

For the next 20 years I spent much of my time destroying myself. Eventually I got so tired of constantly feeling so crappy and always thinking about suicide I eventually went and saw a therapist. That day my life changed forever. My only regret is that I didn't do it sooner.

Please talk to your therapist, don't run, don't hide...eventually you will have to deal with this. The long term effects can be very bad for you and I am a walking advertisement for exactly that.

I understand how scary this can all be but please talk to your therapist.

Liz

I think you will find externalising and discussing the issues with  therapist will settle the circular," what if ? "thought process.

If angst, unease, discomfort and self harm thoughts persist, then take action on your terms. Discussions with therapists can go on & on.

If you know (or suspect) what you need request it from the psychologist. Treatment can have major positive quality of life effect.

If the likes of HRT proves unhelpful it can easily be stopped.

From my humble experience, Kirsten.

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