Just be careful with the deodorant after!!! ouch ouch Don't know how I know that---------

Quote from: imallie on January 24, 2024, 06:59:34 PMI just think things will continue on this gradual path naturally until there's a tipping point.

I walked the fence rail between male and female longer that I'd have liked and longer than it felt safe. When I was still presenting as male, I attended a conference with some colleagues. One of them was privy to my journey.

So, I told her, talking about our non-colleagues at the conference, "They see me as female."

"Nuh-uh," she said.

"Listen. You'll hear."

So, she did actually listen and she did hear and she came up to me astonished and said, "You're right, they do!"

She couldn't see it, so she was amazed that others could. I think it'll be similar for you, Allie.

Did you have similar moments, Sara, Davina, Ellen, and others?

If I didn't already take you at your word O&C, I'd also very much trust the experience of those who have come before so I very much believe you.

The only caveat in my situation is the hair of it all: until I address THAT I don't imagine any misgendering will occur.  But it's something that's very high on my list once we start spreading the word.

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on January 28, 2024, 03:59:15 PMI walked the fence rail between male and female longer that I'd have liked and longer than it felt safe. When I was still presenting as male, I attended a conference with some colleagues. One of them was privy to my journey.

So, I told her, talking about our non-colleagues at the conference, "They see me as female."

"Nuh-uh," she said.

"Listen. You'll hear."

So, she did actually listen and she did hear and she came up to me astonished and said, "You're right, they do!"

She couldn't see it, so she was amazed that others could. I think it'll be similar for you, Allie.

Did you have similar moments, Sara, Davina, Ellen, and others?

O&C

I walked the fence as well for a very long time as my late wife came to terms about my GD. There were times when I was still living as a male, when I was either Mam'd or the two of us were greeted as Ladies. I think the tipping point was having my ears pierced and wearing nail polish.

Ellen

Just a quick aside, with the snowfall here today scuttling our Sunday plans, we took the opportunity to (finally) watch "Killers of the Flower Moon."  It's been hard to find a 3:30 window!

It was excellent, but both me and the wife felt it did not need to be that long. It wasn't one of those "where did the time go?" films. You noticed it was LONG. Still, very good and worthwhile if/when you find a three and 1/2 hour time gap in your schedule.

That concludes a pretty busy movie month for us:

The Holdovers (in theaters/but streaming soon) - HIGHLY recommended

Iron Claw (in theaters/but streaming soon) - Excellent

Maestro (Netflix) - fine. A bit disappointing, to be honest.

Aftersun (Prime) - ditto

May/December (Netflix) - ditto

American Symphony (Netflix) - Excellent. Some folks don't enjoy documentaries and/or music... so I wouldn't make this a universal endorsement. But I personal love process stories of people at the top of their field, and when you add in human interpersonal drama...and music. I am there. My wife as well.

Nyad (Netflix) - fantastic. Two Oscar nominated performances, but not the film... but it's something. Whether you know the story at all or not.

Rustin (Netflix) - One Oscar nominated performance... otherwise the rest of the above is exactly the same, LOL

We also watched the series - Beef (Netflix) and really enjoyed it. It has won a bunch of Emmy's, but we honestly thought every time they were talking about it, people were mispronouncing "the Bear" (which we love). And then when we found out they weren't, we assumed the show was about MEAT. It is not. So... going in blind, we really enjoyed it.
It is a dark-comedy, at best. Definitely not for everyone. Watch the trailer, if that appeals, you'll enjoy it. It is not misleading.

I think that was our month. Just thought I'd share. People are often looking for things to watch.

Love,
Allie

I want to watch Curse of Oak Island that had been showing on Blaze on "normal" TV but the last series was only on Sky Discovery as far as I could tell and I cant afford £30 a month just to watch that. Internet is poor here at the moment anyway, will be lucky if this posts!

Quote from: davina61 on January 29, 2024, 04:48:49 AMI want to watch Curse of Oak Island that had been showing on Blaze on "normal" TV but the last series was only on Sky Discovery as far as I could tell and I cant afford £30 a month just to watch that. Internet is poor here at the moment anyway, will be lucky if this posts!

Wow, spotty internet - that's awful in this day and age. It's when the little things stop working, the basic, everyday things we take for granted, that things normally are most annoying.

Is there any hope of a solution in the future?

Where I live the mobile signal is rubbish as well, some areas (and my mums bungalow) have no signal at all. Rang the internet providers, its working better now.

When I traveled in Europe I was shocked by the lack of cellular internet (and cellular coverage generally).  We are spoiled in the U.S..

There was plans for a repeater station but the locals had the "we will all die from brain tumours" mentality, now they all complain about the lack of signal!!

Quote from: davina61 on January 30, 2024, 04:22:40 AMThere was plans for a repeater station but the locals had the "we will all die from brain tumours" mentality, now they all complain about the lack of signal!!

Wow, sounds like some of them probably don't need to worry about being so precious with their brain tissue - it does NOT seem to be serving them very well to begin with. 😉

We are experiencing colony collapse in Bee's, and it is my understanding that the problem was identified as being caused by cell phone towers.  The mainstream media hasn't published this, so either they aren't excited about it or it isn't good science.  Hard to say which is the case. 

An NIH study seems to suggest that the science demonstrates at least a theory that this is what is happening.  https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6563664/ The study doesn't seem definitive on the issue.  https://www.thestatesman.com/lifestyle/cell-phones-play-key-role-decline-bees-1503035017.html

Maybe we don't need cell phones after all.  Or, maybe this is hype and the bees are fine.  By the time we find out, it may be a bit late.

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on January 28, 2024, 03:59:15 PMSo, I told her, talking about our non-colleagues at the conference, "They see me as female."...

...Did you have similar moments, Sara, Davina, Ellen, and others?

People in the trans community often speak of this as a difficult or uncomfortable time, but I welcome it. I don't feel my face will ever allow me to be read as female, but maybe between HRT-induced changes and my soon-to-be full head of hair, it will happen. In the meantime, it's something I dream of.

Quote from: REM.1126 on January 30, 2024, 11:06:24 AMMaybe we don't need fossil fuels after all.  Or, maybe this is hype and the climate is fine.  By the time we find out, it may be a bit late.

I edited your quote in order to match my thoughts.

Well when I was on holiday with my mum a few years ago we sat at a table with 2 other ladies from our group and they didnt twig me.

Quote from: Courtney G on January 30, 2024, 11:24:16 AMI edited your quote in order to match my thoughts.

Yeah.  I see.

Obviously, I care about the environment.  Obviously, I recognize that things we do can be very detrimental.  I think we simply assess the risks differently.

I think the biggest environmental problems are the man made chemicals that are now EVERYWHERE and the man made substances that effect our biological systems.  We don't know what effects they will have on the environment.  In all honesty, I wonder whether they played a role in all of us being transgender. 

The oceans are dying.  Over fishing and our downstream chemicals are killing it. 

But, at present we are hooked on some of it like an opioid addict.  We can't quit fossil fuels even if it is killing us, because without them billions of people would die. 

Electric cars as an alternative are a pipe dream.  We can't presently make enough electricity to power them, and they don't handle cold weather.  Danielle would be stuck at home 6 months out of the year without internal combustion engines.  Maybe she get a sled team?

People probably won't give up their cell phones.  But, that would be easier than giving up internal combustion engines.  We may be painting ourselves into a corner in all of these ways.  I don't know.  But, given the ability of people to discount future costs, nothing dramatic is about to happen. 

But, I get what you are saying, and I concede that you may be right.  Assuming so, what course do you recommend?

Quote from: REM.1126 on January 30, 2024, 12:38:37 PMElectric cars as an alternative are a pipe dream.  We can't presently make enough electricity to power them, and they don't handle cold weather.  Danielle would be stuck at home 6 months out of the year without internal combustion engines.  Maybe she get a sled team?

That's incorrect. In 2022, Norway, Iceland, Sweden, Denmark and Finland were the top-five users of electric cars. It get cold in those places. Maybe we won't see as many electric cars in Alaska as in other places, but that doesn't make adoption of electric cars a "pipe dream." Also, it's not an either/or equation, which is a good thing.

Quote from: davina61 on January 30, 2024, 12:07:23 PMWell when I was on holiday with my mum a few years ago we sat at a table with 2 other ladies from our group and they didnt twig me.

Well done, You!  I do so like a "pass."

A British company have found a way to make "petrol" out of ethanol without any ethanol side effects, they take the ethanol out somehow . At the moment its only available as a race fuel but it could be the future .

The problem with electric vehicles isn't the vehicles, it's the infrastructure.

Want to know why it's difficult to get food/medicine distributed in third world nations? It's not (primarily)cost, nor government greed, it's infrastructure - there aren't enough roads to get things where they need to go.

I have no idea if it's electric that is the future of the automotive industry, or what alternative power source will replace our fossil fuel dependency, but whatever it is, it will not be feasible right up until the moment it is, just like all things.

Quote from: Courtney G on January 30, 2024, 02:27:49 PMThat's incorrect. In 2022, Norway, Iceland, Sweden, Denmark and Finland were the top-five users of electric cars. It get cold in those places. Maybe we won't see as many electric cars in Alaska as in other places, but that doesn't make adoption of electric cars a "pipe dream." Also, it's not an either/or equation, which is a good thing.

So, you are going to ignore the fact that we can't make enough electricity to charge them all?  LOL
https://www.nbcchicago.com/news/local/electric-vehicle-owners-face-huge-challenges-amid-chicago-cold-snap/3328085/