Hi Alana You wrote in a reply to me:
Quote from: Alana1990 on May 22, 2024, 01:23:58 PMHi Sarah B,
I'm excited, and apprehensive to finally talk to a professional about being transgender. My dysphoria is a minor inconvenience to me at this point. I'm just slightly uncomfortable being male. Gender envy is a bigger issue for me. As appealing as transiting is to me, it would cause far more problems for me than it would solve. I have a very comfortable life, and don't want to go messing around with it. I hope that makes sense.
Thank you sharing your story it was really appreciated. I understand where you are coming from and there is nothing wrong with that. I was never uncomfortable with my body before I changed my life around, the only thing was that I wanted or longed to be a female.
As for gender envy, I'm just another female and there are always going to be other females that I will admire and desire that I have some of their features, long hair, facial features, color of the eyes and of course the body features. This is just normal attribute of being a human!
Hormones and surgery can only achieve so much and there is nothing wrong going down this path to achieve those characteristics as long as it makes you happy. Just one thing, to note, don't allow 'gender envy to become an obsession'. It could become very unhealthy to do so.
I understand that you don't want to go messing around with ones life. I have been there, I had a good job, I had wonderful friends and of course family life as well. I was widely known around town for my swimming exploits and my mum was also widely known. However, several things were coming to a head, that were going to change my life completely forever.
Although at the time that I changed my life around, I did not realise that I was sacrificing my way of life, regardless of what problems it would cause around me. My happiness, not that I knew at the time was more important to me and that I wanted and longed to be a female, well I certainly took care of that problem by having surgery.
So I packed up my bags and left everything behind and nobody knew what I was going to do. In the end I achieved far more in the next 35 years than I did in the previous 30 years before and to top it off my family accepted me for who I am, unconditionally. You could say I gambled every and I was prepared to lose everything, however I was extremely lucky and I have been very successful in everything I did since I changed my life around.
Take care and whatever you decide to do with your life as long as it makes you happy then go for it and we here at Susan's will support you no matter what you do.
Love and HugsSarah BOfficial Greeter@Alana1990 PS I have deleted the double post, how that happened I do not know, it must be the gremlins in my computer system.