What's one piece of advice you wish you could give to your younger self? Could be trans related or not... really open ended.

I'll start:

The cemetery is FILLED with "indispensable people". Pay more attention to the work/home balance no matter how high profile and/or high stress your job is and always make time for those who are the most important you.

Never pass up an opportunity to make more money.
Money cannot buy happiness, but it is a necessary tool to get what you need to make things happen.
Very few personal issues cannot be solved with plenty of money available.

Quote from: Lori Dee on September 13, 2024, 10:11:41 AMNever pass up an opportunity to make more money.
Money cannot buy happiness, but it is a necessary tool to get what you need to make things happen.
Very few personal issues cannot be solved with plenty of money available.

With that said, save for what is important. 

Don't allow others to define your life.

Love always -- Jessica Rose

Be kind.

"Don't feel like you have the rest of your life to live the rest of your life. Don't procrastinate and think you can put things off. If you feel like you want or need to do something... do it. Don't look for reasons why you can't, or don't want to. Tomorrow may never come."

Try to be your authentic self so people do not think you are two faced.  Like Janus!

When you are unsure, ask a wiser person for advice.

Noe that does not necessarily mean a more intelligent person.

Quote from: Sephirah on September 13, 2024, 02:26:13 PMDon't look for reasons why you can't, or don't want to. Tomorrow may never come.

That is my philosophy. I never think, "I can't do this."
Instead, I ask myself, "How can I do this?"

No excuses. Make it happen.

You'll only have the strength and stamina to foray into the wilderness for so long...and then it's gone. So, go while you still can.

Be nice

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on September 14, 2024, 04:28:38 AMBe nice

And you are.

I really don't have any advice for my younger self. I feel I did my best in my circumstances.

Hugs,

Allie

"Everything will happen just as it is supposed to. You will do great things. All in their own time"

Take each day a day at a time.  Do plan for your future though.

Consider a ROTH IRA and/or other post tax retirement plans.  Enjoy the benefits of compounding with interest free earnings.  Time is with you!

The true value of a life is it's impact on other lives. Look for small ways to have positive impacts on the lives of others. Most of the time they cost you nothing but a bit of time.


I actually learned this as follows:
When I started my job in collegiate athletic communications — I was an "unconventional" hire. These jobs were coveted and hard to get, and I had, in the eyes of many, jumped the line. Grumbling and some resentment in the industry, for sure.

Well one of the old hands in the field, a very well respected and connected director at another school wrote me a very warm welcome handwritten note, AND at an awards luncheon he actually called me out by name and just said nice things about me to a large industry group. Gave me instant credibility. (My sparklingly personality took it from there, of course! 🙄)

But I never forgot that, I tried to pay that professional kindness forward as often as I could. And in other ways in my life too. It's addicting once you try it.

Sorry for the long one. You know me once I get going... *sigh*

You do give good advice. Now we know your secret! 

Master the basics of anything first.  Then grow from that.

Hi Everyone

How can one go past this:

Be who you want to be.

Do not let other people try and stop you, except to give advice in the best way to achieve it.

Secondly:

Never stop learning.

Allie says it best when she says:

Quote from: imallie on September 14, 2024, 07:25:41 PMWell one of the old hands in the field, a very well respected and connected director at another school wrote me a very warm welcome handwritten note, AND at an awards luncheon he actually called me out by name and just said nice things about me to a large industry group. Gave me instant credibility. (My sparklingly personality took it from there, of course! 🙄)

But I never forgot that, I tried to pay that professional kindness forward as often as I could. And in other ways in my life too. It's addicting once you try it.

Sorry for the long one. You know me once I get going... *sigh*

^^^Exactly This^^^

When I help someone, they often ask how they can repay or thank me.  My response is simple: "There's no need for repayment.  Just do a good deed for others, and in doing so, you have thanked me more than enough." and yes it's addictive in saying it.

I know what you mean, once I start typing I cannot stop.  I think I need to go and see a 'therapist' about it. 

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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