Congrats on the progress, Allie. How was your night?

Quote from: imallie on September 12, 2024, 09:33:57 PMe under separate cover, and in as long as 4-6 additional weeks. No rush here, just a surprising fact.)

Also my therapist finished her referral letter and is sending to my preferred surgical team, and my PCP's is done as well -- and I think he's sent to me, so I should be able to send that along probably on Monday. So looks like if everything goes smoothly, as soon as next week I could have a date on the calendar for an initial consult.

Hey Allie-- PSA time. You might get a consult date Monday. You might get an acknowledgement all the paperwork is in. You might get none of the above. My experience with programs is they all have different scheduling methods. Some do instant scheduling. Some have periodic meetings to schedule - weekly, alternate weeks, etc.

If you are sure all the paperwork is in, a call or email to confirm it is all in never hurts. Hospitals still use faxes, some prefer it over email for security reasons. You might think all the paperwork is in when someone's lost a document between fax and your medical records.

If no one's told you, waits for consults can be long. I hope you get one this year.


Good Luck,

~Jenn

Quote from: Jenn104 on September 13, 2024, 07:46:00 AMHey Allie-- PSA time. You might get a consult date Monday. You might get an acknowledgement all the paperwork is in. You might get none of the above. My experience with programs is they all have different scheduling methods. Some do instant scheduling. Some have periodic meetings to schedule - weekly, alternate weeks, etc.

If you are sure all the paperwork is in, a call or email to confirm it is all in never hurts. Hospitals still use faxes, some prefer it over email for security reasons. You might think all the paperwork is in when someone's lost a document between fax and your medical records.

If no one's told you, waits for consults can be long. I hope you get one this year.


Good Luck,

~Jenn

Oh yeah Jenn, I know it'll likely be months. And then months again until I can get cued up for surgery — although some I've spoken to have said things are loosening up a bit right now on both fronts.

But with us planning a two-week trip in April next year, and then four more weeks of vacation when we return from it? I'd be completely fine if we're not talking about getting on the surgical calendar until next Summer or early Fall.

Either way, I have no expectations of expediency. 😉

Scenes from a trans marriage #5943:

We had a morning appointment at the bank (yes, going to an actual bank branch!) in order to facilitate getting my name changed on our bank accounts, get me a new credit card, debit card, and us some new checks.

(For the purposes of the scene, I shall refer to myself as Allie, and my wife as Mrs Allie)

INTERIOR, THE BANK

BANK MANAGER: Good morning!
MRS ALLIE: Good morning! We have a 9:00? Mrs. Allie and Allie?
BANK MANAGER: Ah yes... right this way.

MRS ALLIE AND ALLIE ENTER BANK EMPLOYEE'S CUBICLE

BANK EMPLOYEE: Good morning
MRS ALLIE & ALLIE (in unison) Good morning

BANK EMPLOYEE (to Mrs Allie) Nice to meet you Allie
MRS ALLIE: I'm Mrs Allie
ALLIE: I'm Allie
BANK EMPLOYEE: Oh, ok. (To Allie) Nice to meet you both!

INTERIOR CAR, AFTER ALL BANK BUSINESS WAS CONCLUDED

ALLIE: Um... I'm not sure what happened in there.
MRS ALLIE: What do you mean?
ALLIE: You told them in advance why we were there, right?
MRS ALLIE: Yes
ALLIE: And that I was trans and changed my name?
MRS ALLIE: Yes everything so it would be easier
ALLIE: So... why did she call YOU Allie?
MRS ALLIE (laughing) Well, because, AGAIN, you look really good and she couldn't tell you were trans.
ALLIE (looks at Mrs Allie silently)
MRS ALLIE:... which means she thought I was trans. FANTASTIC. Well, congratulation to you, I guess.

MRS ALLIE GIVES ALLIE A FIST BUMP, BOTH BREAK OUT IN LAUGHTER

- END OF SCENE -

 
I love it!

I am shaking with laughter !!!

Quote from: imallie on September 13, 2024, 09:18:46 AMScenes from a trans marriage #5943:

We had a morning appointment at the bank (yes, going to an actual bank branch!) in order to facilitate getting my name changed on our bank accounts, get me a new credit card, debit card, and us some new checks.

(For the purposes of the scene, I shall refer to myself as Allie, and my wife as Mrs Allie)

INTERIOR, THE BANK

BANK MANAGER: Good morning!
MRS ALLIE: Good morning! We have a 9:00? Mrs. Allie and Allie?
BANK MANAGER: Ah yes... right this way.

MRS ALLIE AND ALLIE ENTER BANK EMPLOYEE'S CUBICLE

BANK EMPLOYEE: Good morning
MRS ALLIE & ALLIE (in unison) Good morning

BANK EMPLOYEE (to Mrs Allie) Nice to meet you Allie
MRS ALLIE: I'm Mrs Allie
ALLIE: I'm Allie
BANK EMPLOYEE: Oh, ok. (To Allie) Nice to meet you both!

INTERIOR CAR, AFTER ALL BANK BUSINESS WAS CONCLUDED

ALLIE: Um... I'm not sure what happened in there.
MRS ALLIE: What do you mean?
ALLIE: You told them in advance why we were there, right?
MRS ALLIE: Yes
ALLIE: And that I was trans and changed my name?
MRS ALLIE: Yes everything so it would be easier
ALLIE: So... why did she call YOU Allie?
MRS ALLIE (laughing) Well, because, AGAIN, you look really good and she couldn't tell you were trans.
ALLIE (looks at Mrs Allie silently)
MRS ALLIE:... which means she thought I was trans. FANTASTIC. Well, congratulation to you, I guess.

MRS ALLIE GIVES ALLIE A FIST BUMP, BOTH BREAK OUT IN LAUGHTER

- END OF SCENE -

Allie,

I love the relationship that the two of you have. Although my late wife accepted my transition she could never laugh about it.

Ellen

Yeah, Allie and Mrs. Allie aren't just a power couple. They're a superpower couple and their superpower is mirth.

I'm just glad that Mrs. Allie "passed". But not surprised. She dresses nicely. 

Quote from: EllenW on September 14, 2024, 02:05:28 PMAllie,

I love the relationship that the two of you have. Although my late wife accepted my transition she could never laugh about it.

Ellen

Acceptance is an incredible gift, Ellen. Don't have to tell you that. ❤️

For us, I just sort of knew once we started joking about it, everything was REALLY back to normal. And once we started... we just haven't stopped.

But to be honest, I'm an easy target.  Most jokes about me are low-hanging fruit.

Come to think of it though, I am having those removed...🤔

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on September 14, 2024, 02:32:00 PMYeah, Allie and Mrs. Allie aren't just a power couple. They're a superpower couple and their superpower is mirth.

My parents had a long, and wonderful marriage — and the house was always filled with music, laughter and love.

For my wife and I, laughing together has always been our love language. My gender was never going to change that.

Saturday was salon day.  First time dyeing my bio hair since my initial topper fitting in May (sheesh, it was ONLY May? Seems like YEARS ago!)

Also, my stylist colored my topper a bit darkening the highlights that had gotten so blonde over the summer in the sun, so now I'm back to more of a dirty blonde for the Fall.

The things they can do...

Shoot me a pic of your new dirty blond 'do, okay?

My hair is my one good feature. It also takes no care to look good. No brushing or using a hair dryer or curling.

I should have "It's all downhill from here." tattooed on my forehead.

Quote from: Oldandcreaky on September 15, 2024, 08:30:46 AMShoot me a pic of your new dirty blond 'do, okay?

My hair is my one good feature. It also takes no care to look good. No brushing or using a hair dryer or curling.

I should have "It's all downhill from here." tattooed on my forehead.

Will do. We're meeting some college friends for lunch today (first time they've seen me in person... although we've been in contact a lot online, so it FEELS like we've seen them). So imagine photos will come out of that!

Quote from: imallie on September 15, 2024, 09:13:42 AMSo imagine photos will come out of that!

Looking forward to them!

Quote from: imallie on September 15, 2024, 01:17:17 AMMy parents had a long, and wonderful marriage — and the house was always filled with music, laughter and love.

For my wife and I, laughing together has always been our love language. My gender was never going to change that.

My parents were always fighting. One time they said it was my fault and they might end up getting divorced, because of me. I envy you growing up in a household like that.

Quote from: Gina P on September 15, 2024, 12:00:53 PMMy parents were always fighting. One time they said it was my fault and they might end up getting divorced, because of me. I envy you growing up in a household like that.

My heart breaks hearing that. Good for you learning to rise above and break the cycle. ❤️

Quote from: Gina P on September 15, 2024, 12:00:53 PMMy parents were always fighting. One time they said it was my fault and they might end up getting divorced, because of me. I envy you growing up in a household like that.

Gosh, Gina, you sure have taken some gut punches.

















And you're still standing.

Ok... so in the last week I have:

Got my passport
Got my passport card
Got my PCP referral letter for bottom surgery
Got my therapist letter for same
Sent both letters to my preferred surgeons to begin the process for initial consult
Updated name on bank accounts
Have new credit card and ATM based on these accounts coming
Got Medicare name updated
Got new Medicare card sent
And made an appointment to sign up for TSA Precheck on Tuesday morning

I feel as if I've been going at this at such a high speed that there's an Allie-shapped hole in the transition wall.

So I think, other than that Tuesday appt... I'm going to let myself have this week to breathe a bit. I mean, if things come up (if I get a call to schedule an initial consult, for example) fine -- but otherwise, I think a little break to recharge is probably warranted.

Honestly, once you start making analogies between yourself and the Kool-Aid man? You REALLY need to slow the heck down.

Love,
Allie

Quote from: imallie on September 15, 2024, 10:31:26 PMOk... so in the last week I have:

Got my passport
Got my passport card
Got my PCP referral letter for bottom surgery
Got my therapist letter for same
Sent both letters to my preferred surgeons to begin the process for initial consult
Updated name on bank accounts
Have new credit card and ATM based on these accounts coming
Got Medicare name updated
Got new Medicare card sent
And made an appointment to sign up for TSA Precheck on Tuesday morning

I feel as if I've been going at this at such a high speed that there's an Allie-shapped hole in the transition wall.

So I think, other than that Tuesday appt... I'm going to let myself have this week to breathe a bit. I mean, if things come up (if I get a call to schedule an initial consult, for example) fine -- but otherwise, I think a little break to recharge is probably warranted.

Honestly, once you start making analogies between yourself and the Kool-Aid man? You REALLY need to slow the heck down.

Love,
Allie

Allie, step away from the espresso. Slowly.