Tanya, I think you nailed the keyword that joins both sides, "advocate". I like this meaning:
"Advocacy means getting support from another person to help you express your views and wishes, and help you stand up for your rights."]
Davina, I know what you mean. I was a victim of 12 years of Catholic education, the first eight years by the Sisters of Mercy, who showed anything but. My high school was taught by the Christian Brothers. Like the Sisters, many were great, a few were drill sergeants, and some were sociopaths.
In other words, it was a normal education experience at that time.
Thankfully, that world has moved on.