Okay, this is more just to satisfy my curiosity than anything. To see why you folks think the way you do, and what kinds of things you come up with.

What I would like you to do is list the top three things you like about yourself. There are no rules. No justifiers. Just put down three things, maybe top to bottom, maybe bottom to top, of the things that you see in yourself that you feel proud of and that you like about yourself. I mean if there are more than three then feel free to let loose, but ideally your top three of what makes you feel good about who you are and why you're in this world.

Go. <3

Quote from: Sephirah on October 19, 2024, 05:21:14 PMOkay, this is more just to satisfy my curiosity than anything. To see why you folks think the way you do, and what kinds of things you come up with.

What I would like you to do is list the top three things you like about yourself. There are no rules. No justifiers. Just put down three things, maybe top to bottom, maybe bottom to top, of the things that you see in yourself that you feel proud of and that you like about yourself. I mean if there are more than three then feel free to let loose, but ideally your top three of what makes you feel good about who you are and why you're in this world.

Go. <3

I am not pretentious.  I am kind.  I realize that GOD is good and I owe everything to Him.

Chrissy

And number 4. You're kind of awesome, Chrissy. <3

Quote from: Sephirah on October 19, 2024, 05:52:14 PMAnd number 4. You're kind of awesome, Chrissy. <3

I would not say that but thank you for your compliment as it would not be gracious for a lady to not thank and accept a compliment.  With you, a special person and woman here, I know it is not flattery.

Chrissy

Brave, clean and reverant

I am happy that I got the surgery and I love my beautiful blue eyes and not much else. I have a very low opinion of myself. I feel that if I was in a beauty contest with Danny Trejo and the elephant man I wouldn't even come in third.

I try to be helpful and respectful.
My spirituality has brought me much peace and I try to share that with others.

Hi Everyone

I love my long hair, without which I would never have been able to be me.  Second, I love the surgery I had a long time ago, which finally gave me the peace of my mind without which I would not probably enjoy the life I now lead and finally the third item on my list, I love passing on my knowledge to others.

Best Wishes Always
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I'm in my mid 60's and while I do have some regrets, I like that I have done nothing that I am ashamed of.  I like that I have taken care of my body and I'm in good health.  Mostly, I like my Judeo-Christian values.

I'm kind, open-minded, and empathetic.

Sephirah you started the post; I'd like to hear yours too.

Three things: hmm....

Well, one time a counsellor at a weekend retreat told me I was the kindest person she knew.  (I'd been to many of these retreats, so it wasn't a one-time thing.)  If I'm only remembered for treating people kindly, that would be enough.

Another: someone online quoted some celebrity as saying "don't be a dick."  IMHO, this is harder than it sounds, and is evidently more than a lot of people can manage.  Anyway, I try to do this, and I think I succeed a lot of the time.  I don't know if I will have left the world a better place when I'm gone, but I think I won't have made it a worse one.

Finally, I have two children, and I think I've done a creditable job of raising them with love and care.  I've always tried to understand who they are and deal with them as they are (and not who I want them to be or think they should be.)  I think they feel safe with me.  (I didn't feel safe at home or at school when I was growing up.)

I judge people on who they are and what they say and do - not their relationships, gender or colour of their skin..

I would give you my last quarter.

I work hard, some called me a 'workaholic'.. maybe <shrug>

Things I am most proud of though - being a mom/wife/daughter and my daughter calling me mom. Changing my social gender, moving continents and integrating in a new culture. Surviving a childhood of trauma without resorting to drugs or alcohol.   And.. just last week, I passed my driving test in the USA. 36 years after I passed it in the UK to the day!.. both first time - and I am kinda proud of that!

Hi! This is a good question for me to answer, especially at my stage of my journey! Let's see...

I love the fact that I now know how to make my own choices without influence. I've worked really hard to untangle decades of brainwashing by those close to me, and by society at large. My decisions are now my own, and that has helped me build trust in myself, which, in turn, has helped me build love in myself. There's just something really enriching about knowing that a choice you worked so hard on paying off.

I love that I've found the true me, and she's someone I love deeply. By focusing so much on empathy and focusing on how I affect those around me, and being someone people want to be around, I've found so much internal validation and meaning.

I love that I've been able to recognize the part that the old me has played in this life, and honor that part of me with deep appreciation and grattitude. By giving myself compassion and grace, I've been able to see what I've truly been missing, and its been such a freeing practice.

Here's a 4th, because there are just too many. I love that I continue to seek knowledge and guidance from the experiences of others. While book learning is crucial, I feel that I've gained so much more empathy and understanding of life and myself by reading the stories of others, especially trans women who've been where I am. I feel like the wealth of human knowledge is in our perspective, and how we guide one another.

This is awesome. Thank you so much for responding. I would have asked for top five, but I know that can be a struggle for some people. Reading through what you've posted, yeah... you all reflect the beauty of the human soul. And sometimes, we need to remind ourselves of that. For our own sanity! In a dark world, sometimes it helps to turn on the light.

Quote from: brie1978 on October 20, 2024, 12:09:33 PMSephirah you started the post; I'd like to hear yours too.

Thank you for asking, sweetie. I admit I am far better at giving than receiving, when it comes to stuff like this. I keep the dark part of myself locked in a little box, lol.

But okay...

Firstly, I don't judge people. Not ever. On anything. I don't really have that part of my brain. Even when it comes to attraction. I don't see looks. So it'll never be love at first sight for me, lol. I never really feel anything about anything until I know someone from actually getting to know them. Sometimes it makes me come off as icy, but I'm really just a big snowgirl. Once I melt, it's a whole different story

Secondly... I would like to think I am easy to talk to. I like that I can listen to people. I like that... over the years, I have spoken to a vast amount of folks from very different backgrounds, all with different stuff going on. And I'd like to think I've never made them feel awkward or out of place or like they can't talk to me about things. I may not always have all the answers but I pride myself on being a good listener. Even if all you want is someone to vent to.

Lastly... hrm... I am stubborn. And I know this can go either way. It can be either a bad or good thing, depending. But once I've decided to do something, nothing on heaven or earth will stop me from doing it. Or dying trying to do it, lol. That's served me well so far. I'm still here. I'd call that a win. Sometimes it's easy to lose sight of what you want, or think you can't get it. Think the world is right with what it's telling you. It's easy to drown when all you want to do is stay afloat. I stubbornly refuse to conform to what everyone around me tells me. Which probably makes me vastly annoying to a lot of people but hey, I'm still here.