After you have transitioned, regardless if you are done transitioning in your eyes:


Is your life more satisfying for you?  Or less than you envisioned?

Will you transition further or are you where you think you will end up at?



Chrissy

I am a much happier person now.

I still have a long way to go before I will feel complete. But once I accepted myself for who I am, and stopped pretending to be something that others expected me to be, I dropped a lot of the daily stress that affected my life.

Quote from: Lori Dee on October 21, 2024, 02:01:16 PMI am a much happier person now.

I still have a long way to go before I will feel complete. But once I accepted myself for who I am, and stopped pretending to be something that others expected me to be, I dropped a lot of the daily stress that affected my life.

I understand.  I may say more later but I need to focus on work.  Some days that is harder. I seem to not be able to keep my fingers out of my hair most of the day.  I need my brain in high gear to get something done too.  I think I may benefit from taking a walk and think about this, it is work related and perhaps the walk will do me some good.  It is nice out.

Chow for now.  Not food, but "bye for now!"

Chrissy

Transitioning addresses dysphoria, it doesn't guarantee a happier life. I suffered badly with dysphoria, but I still had a full and rewarding life. Transition has relieved my dysphoria, but I am now on my own, and my life is nowhere near as rewarding. My transition is finished and I exist comfortably.

Hugs,

Allie

Hi Chrissy

I'm unable to comment on this, as I keep saying I never transitioned, yes I understand the term, but no it never applied to me.  There was no difference before or after, all I did was change my clothing, took care of some medical treatment and finally had surgery.

I had no partner to consider, I did not want my family or friends to be hurt, by what I was going to do, nor did I want them to know what I was going to do.  So I changed my life around, because I wanted to live as a female.  Not even knowing why, I did not even care, I just did.  So I sacrificed everything and left.

The two Christmas before I did, I just wanted more of it, that was just it, plain and simple.  Never questioning what I was doing.

So my question to you is, do you want more of it?

As Lori said and I quote:

Quote from: Lori Dee on October 21, 2024, 02:01:16 PMBut once I accepted myself for who I am, and stopped pretending to be something that others expected me to be

I cannot emphasise the above more than enough.

To this day, I'm extremely happy that I had my surgery and I never ever, have I regretted what I had done, given that I did not know at the time, that surgery would give me the peace of mind that I have now.

Chrissy I hope you find the happiness you deserve.

Love and Hugs
Sarah B
@ChrissyRyan
@Lori Dee

Sarah,

All in all I think I am doing fine and I thank you for asking and your commenting about this topic.  Time will tell for me about future happiness. 

Chrissy

Self acceptance is quite important, yes it is, to happiness.  You are what and who you are.

Chrissy

Yes my life is more satisfying. Am I done with transition? Mostly. I've got one more surgery, and it's only kind of a transition related surgery. Really the last surgery I had, vaginoplasty revision, felt like my final transition related surgery.

Anywho, I find life to be more satisfying as things in my life actually align. Like I am me, and everyone knows it, and I don't have to pretend to be anything but who I am. That's really nice.

I am finished whatever you would call as transitioning, because I am living as me now.. and have stopped pretending to be someone else. Luckily for me that 'me' is a hetero-female and living that life is indeed 'me living my best'.. I can honestly say that I have never been happier than I am now. I am a lot poorer, I live in a foreign country and I work at a fairly menial job for low pay.. nothing like my previous life as a director with a good salary - Transition has allowed me to find my happy, it is not the cause of my happy - in being able to love myself as me and be me in the world, it allowed me to find 'the one', that person whom you are meant to spend your life with - and that relationship, my social acceptance as me in the world (without any baggage of being 'trans' or other label other than white female) have been key - Money and beauty are not what makes happiness - true love and self acceptance are.

Yes my life is a lot more satisfying and I am very happy. Well my life did a 180. I went from a shy, recluse male, with no friends to an outgoing life of the party female. When I embraced my female side, i came out of my shell and grew in confidence.

Now, many years later, i have close circle of friends, I have a husband and 3 wonderful kids (Adopted). I love been a mother and I find motherhood very rewarding. Since the kids, I work part time and I enjoy been a housewife. The only negative, I do really wish I could conceive and birth a baby with my husband.


Am I done with transition? Yes. I have had bottom surgery over decade ago, I am happy with the effects my hormones have had on my body, I always looked more like my mother than my father and female Pubity gave me the same body shape as her. I actually love my female body, especially my D cup breasts (natural). I do later in life intend to get breast surgery, just to firm things up, once gravity catches up with my breasts. My mother had hers firmed up a few years back, she only went up one cup size, but she looks good.

 

I am 100% much happier after I transitioned although I decided not to have the GRS. I have no plans to have the GRS to this day still. Was a ticking time bomb before I transitioned with an unhappy life. Now, I live a much happier life married to my husband of 23 years that 100% fully loves and accepts me for who I am. He sees me as a very beautiful and gorgeous woman

I am much happier and I am at my final point already and have been here for several years now. These days I truly focus on living and enjoying my life while getting an opportunity to help others. Each of us has a different journey and for each of us that end point maybe at a different point. Hugs
Mariah

It is nice to see so many positive comments.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 24, 2024, 07:50:39 PMIt is nice to see so many positive comments.

Chrissy

Me, the anger was gone after I started transitioning and knew I was going in the right direction. Saw the real person come out of me and the old unhappy me was gone

I very much like working as myself and being treated as an intelligent woman.
No blonde jokes said to me, but I am not blonde!

Chrissy

In most respects, my life hasn't changed much.  Some stuff is happy, some is unhappy.  That's life.

But the big change is that the constant feeling of acting a role in a play where the other actors have read the script but I haven't is gone.  That was how dysphoria manifested for me, and it is completely gone.  I get to be myself without worrying whether I am getting it right.  I can buy clothes because I like them, not because I am worried about how others will perceive me.

I have transitioned as much as I wanted to.  If someone offered me a free boob job, I'd probably say no thanks.  I am comfortable with who I am.

Quote from: KathyLauren on October 31, 2024, 07:36:15 AMIn most respects, my life hasn't changed much.  Some stuff is happy, some is unhappy.  That's life.

But the big change is that the constant feeling of acting a role in a play where the other actors have read the script but I haven't is gone.

Similar to my experience, you said it perfectly.  I too felt like the lead actor in my play that I was writing based on what I thought others expected. I have just begun on my true life and the first steps are liberating.  It is so fun that we are all unique. What needs to be common is to be true to ourselves.

Many hugs,
Leigh

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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on October 21, 2024, 01:56:09 PMAfter you have transitioned, regardless if you are done transitioning in your eyes:


Is your life more satisfying for you?  Or less than you envisioned?

Will you transition further or are you where you think you will end up at?



Chrissy

I guess I am a little different than most in that I fully transitioned but I'm still not completely happy. I completed the "social transition" aspect but it's not as easy to be a girl as I thought. This is especially true if you are sexually attractive, you sometimes get the wrong kind of attention. Sometimes it's amazing sometimes it's absolutely dreadful.

I still desire bottom surgery and maybe to one day get into a relationship with the guy I want to be with. I think maybe then I might find that "complete happiness" I'm looking for.

Quote from: CosmicJoke on October 31, 2024, 09:18:24 PMI
I guess I am a little different than most in that I fully transitioned but I'm still not completely happy. I completed the "social transition" aspect but it's not as easy to be a girl as I thought. This is especially true if you are sexually attractive, you sometimes get the wrong kind of attention. Sometimes it's amazing sometimes it's absolutely dreadful.

I still desire bottom surgery and maybe to one day get into a relationship with the guy I want to be with. I think maybe then I might find that "complete happiness" I'm looking for.

I hope you find your complete happiness.

Chrissy