Hi Gaydave,
I'm a mature, closeted CD and the "change" that I enjoyed recently was "nail polish". I was on vacation in an urban area so the "closet" aspect was not as limiting as usual and I went to a (busy, Vietnamese) salon and had my fingers and toes done. It took a few minutes after the manicure/pedicure for them to understand that I also desired "color polish" (the "mature" aspect?) but after some initial uncertainity, they were professional about it.
Then, as I walked out into the larger world, came my uncertainity - but I relaxed into it and it was ok for the week or so I had left on my vacation. During that week I received various "looks", a few negative but most were merely curious (with even one complementary from a younger woman). As the vacation ended, it was with some regret when I took the polish remover and cotton balls and slowly closed the closet door again.
Love, Carolina