Sephirah, I agree with Chrissy, the security is to protect the children, not to keep them in, so I accept the need and appreciate the safety that the children and staff feel. It is a sad reality of the world but a necessary one.
O&C, my wife knows and supports me doing the subbing. I go as a guy because, given social media, I don't want to be outed. I am still protecting my wife, and it is part of our compromise. We have come a long way in six years.
I still believe that the joy I have being with her is still far greater than the joy of being fully out as Emma without her. I ask myself if she came out as a transgender male, how would I feel seeing her in a beard?
Could I kiss a man with a beard?
I honestly don't think so.
I can't expect her to kiss me in makeup.
As we all know, transitioning requires a lot, from ourselves and the ones who love us. Society gives us all so little room to breathe.