Hi,

My name is Megan. I am 55 and live in the UK.

I have enjoyed dressing as a girl/woman since I was young (9). I've had times when I was quite open about it with some (as a student and again most of the time aged between 25-35). I've never been full-time or anything like that but would often dress whether going out or just at home watching TV, or doing house chores. I've dated men and had "boyfriends' but not for a very  long time now.


My wife doesn't know and that bridge to cross terrifies me.


I've been married for 15 years with no kids. In this time  I've kept Megan pretty much bottled up and hidden away but there's a strong desire that's suddenly hit me to change that.


I'm not happy as I am and spend a lot of time thinking about being a woman. I *think* I have gender dysphoria. I *think* I'm probably trans. I just don't *know* and I know it's holding me back from making important decisions I know are overdue.

Megan xxx

Hello Megan,

I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you for that wonderful introduction.

We strive to make this a safe place to find information and share your thoughts and comments. Our members come from all over the world and have a wide range of experiences. No matter who you are, you are always welcome at Susan's Place.

It does sound as though you are experiencing dysphoria, but I would strongly suggest that you seek out a therapist or psychologist who has experience in gender identities. First off, they can help you understand what it is that you are experiencing, and how to deal with it. Second, if you have gender dysphoria, having an actual diagnosis opens doors for you. It is difficult to do any form of transition (if you desire) without a diagnosis. Next, the therapist can help you learn about this well enough to explain it to your spouse. If a transition is something you wish to pursue, it will be very important to include her in your decisions. Having her participate in therapy with you can help her get answers to her questions and help her understand what you are going through. She can be a very powerful ally in this if she is willing to understand and try to accept it.


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Welcome Megan!

Chrissy

Welcome  from  Lancashire 

Hello Megan

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

First of all, I just want to say that I really like your name, it has a warmth to it.  I want you to know that you're not alone in how you feel and many of us here at Susan's have walked similar paths.  Whether you are just beginning to explore these feelings or have been carrying them for years, we are here to support you.  Many members have those same fears and doubts.  It's okay to take things one step at a time.

At Susan's, we want to help you find your way forward, whether it's talking through your thoughts, offering support as you explore your identity, or simply letting you know that you are accepted and understood.

If you're uncertain about whether you have gender dysphoria, it might be helpful to talk to a therapist.  A professional who specializes in transgender care and informed consent can help you to explore your feelings and guide you through this process.

Whether you choose the private route (which might be quicker) or go through the NHS.  These feelings you have seem to be getting stronger.  They will not go away unless you do something about them.  Whatever you decide to do, ultimately, the decision is yours and we respect whatever you choose, is always up to you.

You deserve to feel at peace with yourself and together, we can figure out how to make that happen.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.  I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

In addition members of Susan's will more than likely will discuss problems or issues that are similar to yours as most have experienced these issues as well.

Take care and all the best for the future.

Once again, Welcome to Susan's Place!

Best Wishes Always
Sarah B
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@MeganStephens

Welcome to Susans Megan,

This is a good place to be able ask those questions and just help as you decide where to go from here. Your not alone when it comes to many of those questions. Those questions themselves sometimes determine the choices you make over time. As others have mentioned it maybe very helpful to find a therapist who can also help you along the way. Hugs

Mariah

Quote from: MeganStephens on December 17, 2024, 08:29:01 AMHi,

My name is Megan. I am 55 and live in the UK.

I have enjoyed dressing as a girl/woman since I was young (9). I've had times when I was quite open about it with some (as a student and again most of the time aged between 25-35). I've never been full-time or anything like that but would often dress whether going out or just at home watching TV, or doing house chores. I've dated men and had "boyfriends' but not for a very  long time now.


My wife doesn't know and that bridge to cross terrifies me.


I've been married for 15 years with no kids. In this time  I've kept Megan pretty much bottled up and hidden away but there's a strong desire that's suddenly hit me to change that.


I'm not happy as I am and spend a lot of time thinking about being a woman. I *think* I have gender dysphoria. I *think* I'm probably trans. I just don't *know* and I know it's holding me back from making important decisions I know are overdue.

Megan xxx

Do come back here often Megan!

Chrissy