Hi,

I think I've decided that I need to get properly assessed for gender dysphoria and so will find a recommended UK specialist and self refer.

That feels like progress, right?

It leaves me with a terrible thought though. What happens if they say I don't have it? I've spent so long building up this vision of myself that I'm not sure what I'll do if they say "no, you don't think you are a woman and are happy as you are" or something else like that.

Thanks,

Megan

Quote from: MeganStephens on December 17, 2024, 04:27:39 PMIt leaves me with a terrible thought though. What happens if they say I don't have it? I've spent so long building up this vision of myself that I'm not sure what I'll do if they say "no, you don't think you are a woman and are happy as you are" or something else like that.

It is perfectly natural to second-guess yourself throughout this journey. In my own story, my psychologist and a few therapists before him told me I had it but I rejected it because I did not understand what it really meant.

Nobody knows you better than you. They are not privy to your deepest darkest secrets. They do not know what your desires are. They do not know how you see yourself. As you talk to them about these things, they get to know the real you and they will not question what you tell them. The key then is this: How well do you know yourself? You have an image of yourself, the way you feel that you are deep inside. Listen to that person. That is who you are and no one can tell you different.

Your conscious mind will try to be logical and explain things with excuses. But deep down, your subconscious mind knows the truth and it runs on emotion, not logic. Don't second-guess yourself or you will stress out and run around in circles. Listen to that inner voice.

Thank you Lori, that is so helpful not just to my specific question but to so many other things on my mind.

xxx

I am a retired hypnotherapist, so I have training and experience. But when it came to diagnosing myself, I failed. Don't try to diagnose yourself, just be honest about how you feel. You are going to be okay. 

The fact you're concerned about not having it is a good sign that you do have it. I would say you're on the right track by getting seen in regards to it. When comes down to it you and you alone determine if you have it or not. It's their job to help assist you with your journey. Hugs
Mariah

Quote from: MeganStephens on December 17, 2024, 04:27:39 PMHi,

I think I've decided that I need to get properly assessed for gender dysphoria and so will find a recommended UK specialist and self refer.

That feels like progress, right?

It leaves me with a terrible thought though. What happens if they say I don't have it? I've spent so long building up this vision of myself that I'm not sure what I'll do if they say "no, you don't think you are a woman and are happy as you are" or something else like that.

Thanks,

Megan

Visiting the gender therapist can be quite helpful.

I still go but not often.


Chrissy

When I did my assessment I stated objective facts and I left nothing out! I am so glad I did it that way, if I hadn't I would have had regrets.