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Started by Lori Dee, February 23, 2024, 09:53:26 AM

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Since the election, I have spoken with several people who voted for Trump. Every one of them denies that Trump has specifically targeted transgender rights and they all claim they did not see any of the attack ads that were run on TV.

Last night, I was talking to my dad (a strong Trump supporter) and got the same response. He didn't understand why I felt that I needed a passport. I asked if he watched the news. He said he watches the news every day and Trump never said any of these things. For reference, the only news outlet he watches is OAN (One America Network).

He then began to tell me about all the "fake news" outlets spewing lies about him. I stopped him right there while he denied that Trump had said any of these things. He was seated in front of his computer, so I directed him to go to Trump's website (donaldjtrump.com), click on "Agenda 47," scroll down, and click on the second page.

https://www.donaldjtrump.com/agenda47/president-trumps-plan-to-protect-children-from-left-wing-gender-insanity

I told him that he could watch the video later and watch as this man actually speaks the words, but for now, let's read the transcript together.

1. Revoke Joe Biden's cruel policies on so-called "gender affirming care" ...
2. Sign a new executive order instructing every federal agency to cease all programs that promote the concept of sex and gender transition at any age.
3. Ask Congress to permanently stop federal taxpayer dollars from being used to promote or pay for these procedures. ...
5. Declare that any hospital or healthcare provider participating in the chemical or physical mutilation of minor youth will no longer meet federal health and safety standards for Medicaid and Medicare—and will be terminated from the program. ...
9. ... Ask Congress to pass a bill establishing that:

The only genders recognized by the U.S. government are male and female—and they are assigned at birth.


He said, "Okay, but how does that apply to YOU?" What?  ???

All of my medical care is through the Veterans Administration (a Federal Agency). My only health insurance is through Medicare (a Federal Agency). If those two agencies are prohibited from providing "gender-affirming care", that means that I lose my health insurance coverage and can no longer receive medical treatment, including mental health services. If I can't get therapy and medicine in this country, I will need to go somewhere that I can. This is not the country that I gave 14 years of my life to defend. "All men are created equal." "Everyone has the right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness." Ring a bell?

Dad said that he doesn't believe that any of this will happen. So I asked him if that meant that Trump was lying. He is here on his website saying he will do these things. He was in Arizona recently where he said he would do these things "on Day One". Was he lying? Are you saying that he is a liar? He said no, he wasn't lying but people can interpret this to mean different things.

I said, "If I show up on your doorstep with a loaded gun pointed at you, and said that I will pull the trigger in fifteen minutes, would you be concerned?" Maybe I am lying. Maybe you misunderstood what I said.

He finally admitted that I have good reason to be concerned, but for any of this to take place would take a long time, maybe even years. I agreed.

So what do I do in the meantime? If Congress and the courts agree that "The only genders recognized by the U.S. government are male and female — and they are assigned at birth", where does that leave me?

My citizenship in this country is based upon the fact that I was native-born on U.S. soil. But the document that proves that no longer matches my current identity documents. The name and gender are different. Does this mean that I am no longer a U.S. citizen? Does this mean I am an undocumented alien and subject to deportation? To where? If I have no country of origin, will I live in an airport terminal like Snowden did?

What if the "Federal Agencies" "cease all programs that promote the concept of sex and gender transition at any age"? Does my Social Security account get reverted to what was on my birth certificate? Does that mean I would no longer qualify for any of my pension income or Medicare insurance?

We don't know the answers to these questions. Will it take a long time for any of this to become a reality? Probably. There are numerous civil rights organizations ready to file lawsuits "on Day One" and will probably hit the courts before the ink is dry on these Executive Orders.

But that is not the point.

It is the fact that this man is even willing to try, with the power of the U.S. Government.

I wish I had gone to Law School. I would mount the largest class-action lawsuit in the history of the world. I would bury the courts in paperwork, from medical studies and Supreme Court cases to statements from 26 professional medical associations that support gender-affirming care as a medical treatment for gender dysphoria. I would demand reparations of $1 million for every transgender person who has been openly discriminated against by an elected official.

Prohibit taxpayer funds for gender affirming procedures?

Nope, you just financed all of them. Up yours.

Merry Christmas, everyone.  ;D
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Hopefully he will get whats coming to him!! Anyway dear HAPPY CHRISTMAS XXX
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Merry Christmas Lori!

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Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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I am bored with all of the usual "holiday classics". I refuse to watch "Home Alone" or "It's a Wonderful Life" even one more time... ever!

So for tonight's entertainment, I will be watching the ever-popular "Elf" (Will Farrel) and then I will watch "Fatman" (Mel Gibson). These are my new "holiday classics".

Have a wonderful night, everyone!

Big Giant HUGS!
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I actually like Tim Allen in 'The Santa Clause'. My favorite holiday show is 'Charlie Brown'.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, Lori.

Love always -- Jess
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Santa the grammarian has subordinate clauses.
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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Quote from: Lori Dee on December 24, 2024, 06:22:37 PMI am bored with all of the usual "holiday classics". I refuse to watch "Home Alone" or "It's a Wonderful Life" even one more time... ever!

So for tonight's entertainment, I will be watching the ever-popular "Elf" (Will Farrel) and then I will watch "Fatman" (Mel Gibson). These are my new "holiday classics".

Have a wonderful night, everyone!


Big Giant HUGS!


I recommend these old romance films, all with at least one holiday time scene.  Plus Sleepless in Seattle actually starts on Christmas Eve!

Sleepless in Seattle
You've Got Mail
When Harry Met Sally

If you have to pick just one, go with the very nice Christmas time setting movie Sleepless in Seattle.

Chrissy

Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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Quote from: ChrissyRyan on December 24, 2024, 07:21:57 PMI recommend these old romance films, all with at least one holiday time scene.  Plus Sleepless in Seattle actually starts on Christmas Eve!

Sleepless in Seattle
You've Got Mail
When Harry Met Sally

If you have to pick just one, go with the very nice Christmas time setting movie Sleepless in Seattle.

Chrissy



The problem with older movies like that is that I have seen them a gazillion times and have difficulty staying awake watching them. They are all good movies, but I need something I haven't seen in a few years to keep me interested.

Like the movie, "Jesus Christ Superstar". When the movie first came out, I worked at a movie theater running the projectors. The theater ran the movie for a week, three shows a day. I know every word of the script and every note of every song in the entire movie. I love the movie, but I have to avoid it for a while to keep it from getting stale.

Now that I think about it, I haven't seen it in a while. Maybe I'll watch it again tomorrow.

Happy Birthday, Jesus!
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Some good new telly on tonight, Dr Who, a new Wallace and Gromit and the final Gavin and Stacy. With you on the movies, watched Ghost Busters Afterlife last night for the 2nd time.
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Quote from: Lori Dee on December 24, 2024, 10:20:59 AMSo what do I do in the meantime?

This is the question that we are relying on to keep us sane.
My wife is changing her documents as quickly as she can.
We're sending letters to our legislators. Then newspapers, maybe.
We're distracting and rejuvenating ourselves with unrelated, challenging, meaningful, creative projects.

Thank you for sharing your conversation and thoughts.
Best wishes to you!
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Lori Dee

Quote from: Jessica_Rose on December 24, 2024, 07:05:22 PMI actually like Tim Allen in 'The Santa Clause'. My favorite holiday show is 'Charlie Brown'.

I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, Lori.

Love always -- Jess

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Lori Dee

Last night, I was getting ready for bed. It was just after midnight, I was in my nightie and had just finished brushing my teeth, and I caught some fat guy trying to break into my apartment!

I was pushing him back out the door and he kept saying he needed to use the door because my apartment doesn't have a fireplace.

I kept pushing him and telling him to get out and he said he needed to put some gifts under my tree. I gave him one final shove and pushed him into the hallway and locked my door. The joke's on him. I don't have a tree. Freakin' pre-vert!

I waited a little while to make sure he was gone, then opened the door. He left a rock on my doormat! I think it is a piece of coal.

The joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.

;D

Merry Christmas, everyone!
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Quote from: Lori Dee on December 25, 2024, 09:45:15 AMLast night, I was getting ready for bed. It was just after midnight, I was in my nightie and had just finished brushing my teeth, and I caught some fat guy trying to break into my apartment!

I was pushing him back out the door and he kept saying he needed to use the door because my apartment doesn't have a fireplace.

I kept pushing him and telling him to get out and he said he needed to put some gifts under my tree. I gave him one final shove and pushed him into the hallway and locked my door. The joke's on him. I don't have a tree. Freakin' pre-vert!

I waited a little while to make sure he was gone, then opened the door. He left a rock on my doormat! I think it is a piece of coal.

The joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.

;D

Merry Christmas, everyone!


Oddball for sure, he was towards you.

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Merry Christmas Lori. Rock on!

Lori Dee

In the evenings, I enjoy watching a movie while I eat. Recently, I watched "Predestination" (Ethan Hawke) which is one that I really enjoy.

Although it is billed as a science-fiction-time-travel-paradox movie, the entire plot is based upon a woman who is born intersex. I won't give away any details if you haven't seen it, but if you step back and watch how her story unfolds, I found a lot of commonality with my own journey: knowing that you are different but not understanding why, trying to excel in things that seem to fit who you are, then the sudden revelation of why and the shock of what that means for you. If you haven't seen it, watch it.

Then last night, I watched "Bloodshot" (Vin Diesel) and I must admit that I slept through some of it. The lines that stuck with me were:

  • "But you don't need a history to have a future."
  • "Who we were doesn't have to define who we are going to be. We can choose."

This made me think about perspectives. When someone asks (about you), "Who is that?" the answers often contain keywords. "That is the ... who ..." or "That is my ..."

People can only relate what you are to them from their perspective. They cannot know who you really are, the real you.

So in the past, we may have been known as "that guy/gal" the firefighter, soldier, airman, techie, nerd, or whatever. And that changed over time. It is still YOU, but now maybe you are known as the ..., my ..., our ..., or whatever. We remain the same people but the perspective of others has changed, our acquaintances and circle of friends have changed. Even the people that I call "family" have changed.

"Who we were doesn't have to define who we are going to be. We can choose."

Be the person you choose to be.
The perspective of others will catch up. It just takes them a while to adjust.


"Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything." ~ George Bernard Shaw

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Quote from: Lori Dee on December 25, 2024, 09:45:15 AMThe joke is still on him. I love rocks and this is a rather nice specimen to add to my collection.

;D

Merry Christmas, everyone!

You'll have to break the rock, maybe it will have a gold nugget in it....

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Quote from: davina61 on December 25, 2024, 02:53:16 AMa new Wallace and Gromit


I love Wallace and Gromit. Not well known. It is fun to see the film mentioned!!

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