Very complex issue i write vague disorganised rambling long-winded essays and essays about suicide.

but long story short Im a pre transition transgender male 19 years old with CPTSD/autism and executive dysfunction, since puberty Ive had issues of tantrums in inappropriate places (e.g. public) crying very loud and as someone that makes being emotionless, detached, apathetic, inexpressive PART OF THEIR IDENTITY so much it is just beyond distressing to be the opposite, to cry like a pantomine character

i get misgendered in public constantly, like today (which triggered me massively) when shopping some old man shoved woman deodorant right into my face on purpose but he claimed it was by accident

The entire world views me as a female, not just female per se but the weakest most hysterical most illogical most childish FEMALE ever, the opposite of how I self identify personality wise, making me not just miserable but suicidal

sometimes when minding my own business walking or cycling in the town i live i havve to deal with chavs screaming at me to make fun of me

being told to "calm down" is so triggering
other people having a chiller, quieter tone of voice than i do is so triggering
BECAUSE I WANT TO HAVE A PHLEGMATIC TEMPERAMENT SO MUCH
I WANT TO BE MORE LOGICAL THAN EMOTIONAL (in addition to more intuitive than sensing etc)

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I'm Lori Dee. Welcome to Susan's Place!

Thank you for joining us as our newest member.

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It appears that you are going through some difficult times. You indicated some things that imply you have been diagnosed with some issues, so I am wondering if you are currently in therapy to help you deal with all of the things you are feeling. I see that you post often on the other forum that you mentioned, but venting on public forums is not the same as talking to someone face to face who understands and can help you with what you want to achieve.

Many of our members here are dealing with issues like gender dysphoria or other issues that revolve around their gender transition. Our advice is always the same: seek out a therapist with experience in gender identities. I have a feeling that since you have other things going on as well, all of these things are affecting each other which leaves you constantly in distress. An experienced therapist or psychologist can help you sort out the issues and suggest ways to help you deal with each one so that things can become a little less complex for you.

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@make_me_emotionless579
@Sarah B
@Northern Star Girl

Hi Make

My name is Sarah and I would also like to formally, Welcome you to Susan's Place!

I see that other members of Susan's have also welcomed you as well.

I hear you.  You are dealing with so much and it makes sense that this is overwhelming.  Being misgendered and treated in ways that contradict who you are is painful.  It is not fair that you have to experience this.

You are not weak for having emotions.  Your reactions are not failures.  They are responses to everything you have endured.  Wanting to be in control of your emotions is understandable, but please do not be hard on yourself for struggling.  Trauma, autism and stress make regulation difficult.  That does not mean you are not strong or logical.

You do not have to go through this alone.  If you are not working with a therapist, one who understands both gender identity and trauma could help.  You deserve support.  If things ever feel like too much, please reach out to someone who can help.  You matter and you deserve peace.

Lori has given you some very good information for you to use and Danielle has also listed various other organizations that can help you.

Please know that you are not alone in this.  There are people who care and who want to support you, even if it does not always feel that way.  Keep reaching out, keep holding on and remember that you deserve kindness, both from others and from yourself.

Once you feel comfortable here, it would be appreciated if you add a little bit more about yourself in the other forums and threads.   I would appreciate it very much as, I'm always interested in learning something new about new members

Take care and all the best for the future.

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