Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 02, 2025, 11:03:49 AMI am vicariously enjoying your journey and the humor with which you approach it.

Thank you for taking the time to read and stop by, Mrs. Oliphant. That means a lot.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 02, 2025, 11:03:49 AMI decided to wait at least six months before taking any major next steps (social transitioning seems quite enough for now).

That sounds like a thoughtful and measured approach. Giving yourself time to adjust and move at your own pace is important. Social transitioning alone is a huge, big step, allow yourself space to process everything without pressure is a wise choice.

Wishing you clarity and confidence as you move forward on your own terms. 🫂💗

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 02, 2025, 11:03:49 AMBut, should I choose to proceed, your blog definitely informs my decision.

I'm grateful that sharing my story can be meaningful to someone else, it means a lot as well, thank you!


~ Lilis

You do not get this with the UK.

I am massively happy for you. New York is the island of sanity amid a world of utter madness. It has always been a place that has been open and welcoming to everyone. I see that with everyone who lives there. I maintain it's because it isn't in the south, where sun overcharges deep facial hair and there's a lot of brain-boiling going on. When people get off on folks driving round in a circle and only attend events to see them crash into a wall... there's something wrong somewhere. Even if they do have the best meat preparation practices in the world.

Can I ask for more doggo pics, Lilis? I am a giant, unashamed pupper girl. And go ga-ga over your Rottie.

I didn't understand a word you said, Sephirah, but I loved it.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 03, 2025, 07:03:42 PMI didn't understand a word you said, Sephirah, but I loved it.

Hahaha, welcome to the club, honey. That's how most people feel. <3 I am the crazy dog lady

You are really kind of cool, honey. I've been looking through stuff and... thank you for being here. <3

Now should I be worried that I understood it?

Hi Lilis!

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on April 04, 2025, 02:54:15 PMHi Lilis!

Chrissy

Hi Chrissy!

It's always good to hear from you, thank you for the kind hello!

Warm hugs,

~ Lilis 💗

Hi Lilis--I'm desperately seeking someone with a sense of fashion. My daughter has agreed (after much coaxing) to help me pick out a dress online for my profile picture. I'm thinking a summer dress. Long, simple, elegant. What color/pattern would you suggest? I know, it seems silly in so many ways. But my daughter agreed to go shopping for a dress with me. To me, this is so huge.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 07:35:08 PMHi Lilis--I'm desperately seeking someone with a sense of fashion.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 07:35:08 PMWhat color/pattern would you suggest?

Hey Mrs. Oliphant,

Thank you so much for thinking of me! To be honest, I'm still discovering my own sense of fashion, so I don't quite feel confident offering suggestions, especially when it comes to colors or patterns. I'm still learning what feels right for me, one day at a time.

I think it's wonderful that your daughter is helping you pick out a dress. That kind of shared moment is something special, and not everyone gets to experience it. I hope you both enjoy every bit of the dress hunting adventure together; it sounds so meaningful.

Warmly,

~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 07:35:08 PMI'm desperately seeking someone with a sense of fashion.

That rules me out. I'm a jeans and t-shirt kind of gal.

Why not let your daughter choose something? She sees you in person and it would give you two more interactions. Trust her instincts. If it was me, after we discussed what I like and what she likes, I would go with whatever she decided. I might act like I am really not sure, but then say something like, "OK, I trust you." I think it would make her proud to know that she picked that one and that is the one you wear for your picture. Seriously, how awful can it be? It is just a dress. 

Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 09:29:57 PMWhy not let your daughter choose something?

I will, Lori. I was just blown away by her decision to assist me in picking out a dress. 'Ambivalent' doesn't begin to describe her attitude towards the changes I've undergone. It was such a big thing I went on a 'sharing' spree. Next time, I will try to be more circumspect. But today was huge. Thanks.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 04, 2025, 09:41:57 PMBut today was huge.

Make sure she knows it. Her ambivalence might change if she sees how important all of this is to you.
 

Quote from: Lori Dee on April 04, 2025, 09:49:47 PMMake sure she knows it. Her ambivalence might change if she sees how important all of this is to you.
 

This.

So, the recommended one-week gap to let my skin heal between laser and electrolysis sessions finally ended, and goodness, that break felt like an eternity!

Yesterday, I went in for another facial hair removal session by electrolysis.

About 30 minutes in, I noticed my electrologist, Bri, wasn't her usual chatty self.

So I asked, "Bri, what's wrong? I know 8 a.m. on a Saturday is a rough start. Do you need a break for another cup of coffee?"

She replied, "No, I'm doing just fine, but something weird is going on. Every time I insert the probe to zap a dark hair, it just falls out.

Did you have laser treatment done or something?"

Yikes! I hadn't mentioned it to her, but hey, at least now I know something is working!

So I explained what took place a week earlier.

She laughed and said, "Next time, give me a heads-up. Now I need a break, and a whole gallon of coffee!"

So, that's what we did for the next 30 minutes. ☕



~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on April 06, 2025, 03:07:11 PMSo, that's what we did for the next 30 minutes. ☕

Hi Lilis-- All in all, it sounds as though you had pleasant Saturday morning and an adequate quantity of coffee. I hate to sound like I don't much, but that's because I don't know much: are these treatments temporary or permanent? Fortunately, I'm at an age where I have very little hair left to zap. But I do get so tired of shaving three times a day. It's not as though I get a 5 o'clock shadow, but I can no longer tolerate the feeling of bristle.

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on April 06, 2025, 04:50:04 PMHi Lilis-- All in all, it sounds as though you had pleasant Saturday morning and an adequate quantity of coffee.

We had a great conversation. My electrologist is in her early thirties, so it's really nice to connect and chat with someone that young in the LGBTQ+ community.

It's refreshing to get insight from her perspective.

QuoteI hate to sound like I don't much, but that's because I don't know much: are these treatments temporary or permanent?

These are permanent.


~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on April 10, 2025, 06:29:36 PMMan! I Feel Like A Woman

Girl, you had that vibe ever since the first day I met you.

Quote from: Sephirah on April 10, 2025, 06:51:03 PMGirl, you had that vibe ever since the first day I met you.

Aww, Sephirah, you're making me blush! 😊

Thank You! 💗

Honey I'm serious. When you've been haunting this place as long as I have, you get a feel for people. Genuine people and... not so genuine people. You are as genuine as they come. It isn't so much what you say or don't say. How you look... it's just... it's something you can't put your finger on.

I equate people to water. It's my element and it helps me make sense of different people. You are a lifegiving, gentle stream. You don't rage and churn, you just go with the flow, accept who you are, and give life to the world around you.