Quote from: spidersandciders on April 25, 2025, 09:06:42 AMTransition was necessary for me to have a life worth living.

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I am overall pleased that I am transitioning.

Quote from: spidersandciders on April 25, 2025, 09:06:42 AMTransition was necessary for me to have a life worth living.

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Quote from: spidersandciders on April 25, 2025, 09:06:42 AMTransition was necessary for me to have a life worth living.

Welcome spidersandciders. I'm a chameleon with my transitioning depending on the social situation. The people I care the most for know my mixed bag of pronouns and about my propensity to wear a dress. But I don't answer the door when the UPS dude makes a delivery. The neighbors see me out and about in a skirt or dress but they just think I'm weird and have never questioned my gender identity. I want to present a more public facing affirmation of who I am, but why bother? I'm as content in their ignorance as they seem to be.

I do not like the occasional unkind remark or unkind question regarding my gender.

Quote from: Lori Dee on April 19, 2024, 08:01:25 PMHappy with what I have, but disappointed that I am not as far as I expected to be by now.

That's understandable, but you're getting to the point you wanted. It'll take a hell of a lot longer to get your "ideal body" but that's how it is for anyone. Even cis people have to work to get their dream body. You've come a long way from being a m*n who knew they were in the wrong body to an honestly beautiful woman who helps more people than you realize. You're doing your best, just give yourself time and it'll progress how it should

I sleep much better now than in the past. 

That is worth something, is it not?

I am happy where I am now.
I am happy of what I am achieving...but still afraid of the next steps.

Quote from: Jessica_K on April 20, 2024, 01:45:32 PMTo be honest, I would be afraid to go anywhere other than in the UK or possibly US. UK is £20k-£30k. Do not know US costs. I do not want to go to Thailand.

Surgery is a big issue and I wouldn't like to go to a foregin country, be it Thailand or Turkey, but prices are so high. So for the time being, I am saving bit by bit and will face surgeries one at a time, starting with the cheapest ones, but in quality hospitals and medical teams.
Which means...patience and enjoy every day with my achievements.

I happier now than I've ever been even been. Just being on hormones for a few weeks has helped me in so many ways. I wake up, and I feel happy and comfortable in my own skin. I can look in a mirror and not see a stranger looking back at me.

Quote from: Jessica_K on April 20, 2024, 02:17:15 AMHappy with what I have, specially for my age, but now stuck.

I want SRS, I want SRS, I will never get SRS.

I cannot afford private surgery. The toxic anti trans UK means the only option of the NHS that I have been waiting 4 years and not even on the starting blocks. Could  be withdrawn with a complete ban.

We were brought up being told the NHS will support one's health care through out one's life, free at the point of delivery. So there was never a culture of health insurance. More and more now we are having to resolve to getting it, but gender reassignment is never covered.

Hence I think I have come to the end of my journey.

Interesting question on this thread.

Yes, definitely. But aside from the wonderful children I've helped bring into this world I really wish I had transitioned when I was 15 when I first sent off for estrogen. The transition would have been a whole heap easier and the universe might have made a pretty female of me. It's harder later, although that's true for all women.

With regard to surgery on the NHS (UK), once you are approved the wait time currently for somewhere like Parkside seems to be around 3 years. I posed as both a private and NHS patient to find this out. I posted a separate thread about this here: https://www.susans.org/index.php/topic,250977.msg2305067.html#msg2305067

The idea that SRS might be withdrawn from funding is an interesting and alarming one. Does anyone have evidence for this? It wouldn't surprise me in the current climate but do we know if it's true? Depending on the result at the next General Election in 4 (?) years then it might well become a reality.

Someone mentioned the cost of having SRS in Thailand, quoting £20k-£30k. Are you sure about this? The figure I have, in writing, from PAI is half this amount. And PAI are excellent. I'm meeting up with my surgeon there in a couple of weeks to discuss it so can update you all.

xx

Quote from: noleen111 on May 30, 2024, 08:23:56 AMI suppose we all exit the transition phase somewhere down the line. what that is, well would depend on what your goals were when you started transitioning. The word transition implies starting at a point and ending somewhere.

For me, it was after I had bottom surgery, after that I considered myself a fully transitioned female. I see myself as a woman, physically I have a female body, society treats me as a woman, legally female and mentally I am female. I dont see myself as a transwoman, I see myself as a woman.

This

I've discussed this a lot with the (cis) female friend with whom I currently live. We're not partners and it's a temporary arrangement but we chat from time to time. Someone else in her family was born into a male body and sorted that out over 30 years ago. That person is a good friend of mine and we also chatted about how she moved on from being 'trans' anything.

She's a woman. No one in her friendship circle knows she was born into the wrong body, except her wife. She has many other varied interests and when she and I meet up we rarely bother discussing 'trans' matters.

Ideally transition is transitory. It's the t between M and F (or the reverse). But for me the goal isn't to live and dwell in the 't'. It's to live and be a woman.

And after an initial panic I've taken no notice whatsoever of the recent Supreme Court ruling, and nor shall I.

xx

Quote from: Tills on June 04, 2025, 11:38:24 PMIdeally transition is transitory. It's the t between M and F (or the reverse). But for me the goal isn't to live and dwell in the 't'. It's to live and be a woman.

After much discussion over in the Non-binary forum, I have realized that I don't have a t between the M and F. Yes, I exist between the M and F (more toward F than M, but not fully F). I feel like my position is static and unchanging.

My transition is less about becoming something and more about removing things (body parts, behaviors, etc.) that I have mistakenly had all my life for whatever reason.

One of my favorite quotes is:

"Maybe the journey isn't so much about becoming anything. Maybe it's about un-becoming everything that isn't really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place."  ― Paul Coelho

I continue to be pleased overall of my transitioning journey to date.


Chrissy