And she's okay with me.  She's not sure how she feels about me potentially taking T though.  She's worried about side effects because it's 'not normal' and she's afraid it will screw up my body.  I told her I was still researching it (which is true).  But she's cool with it.  For now.

Jay

That's great!

I think it's just normal for her to worry a little, most people would if they learn that a family member is going to do something like HRT and they don't really know what it does.

Congratulations!  You are already way ahead of most who take this journey,



Kristi

She's very observant and I've been sharing things but without specifically stating things about me, so today she came out and directly asked me if I thought I was transgendered, and I said yes.  Then she asked a lot of questions.  We were in the car, the perfect place to talk.

Jay

Awesome! Family are the best people to have with you. sigh, and cars!



My car is my safe place too : )

Dude, that's fantastic! I bet a huge monkey fell off your back that day! 

Letting the secret out is one of the hardest parts of the journey.  I'm serious.  It is especially hard with those who are closest.  I'm thrilled that your daughter is understanding. 

Congratulations to you!

Cindi

Thats awesome hun! I am sooo proud of you

Now I just need to find some of your strength in myself so I can do the same with my family members 

Congrats!

I wish I could come out to my mom maybe she would feel the same as your daughter does.

If you weren't an FTM, how would you react to your daughter coming out to you? (Try to be unbiased? lol)

Quote from: Brady on April 30, 2008, 11:22:29 AM
Congrats!

I wish I could come out to my mom maybe she would feel the same as your daughter does.

If you weren't an FTM, how would you react to your daughter coming out to you? (Try to be unbiased? lol)

Actually, the kind of parent that I am I'd be totally accepting.  I think it's horrible that parents can't love their kids for who they are, and who only love them if they are (or try to be) who their parents want them to be (with regards to everything, not just gender or sexuality).

My mother, OTOH, has very limited knowledge, and is very narrow minded, and refuses to educate herself on far less controversial topics, so I can't imagine she'll accept this. But then, I hardly see her or talk to her.  And, since she, like Tinkerbelle, thinks life is all about her, this will just add to her drama and woe is me mentality, lol.

Jay

My mom is pretty narrow minded, but I do know that she loves me A LOT and probably respects me more out of the rest of her kids.  I am the only kid who had a job in high school (my brother and sister didnt work, I work 30-35 hours a week) and I don't drink or smoke like them.  Being the conservative that she is, she finds this very respectful.  Plus, I help her at the house a lot more than my brother and sister ever did.

So hopefully, all of her good thoughts about me will help the blow of me coming out.

QuoteMy mom is pretty narrow minded, but I do know that she loves me A LOT and probably respects me more out of the rest of her kids.  I am the only kid who had a job in high school (my brother and sister didnt work, I work 30-35 hours a week) and I don't drink or smoke like them.  Being the conservative that she is, she finds this very respectful.  Plus, I help her at the house a lot more than my brother and sister ever did.

So hopefully, all of her good thoughts about me will help the blow of me coming out.

I hope you are more successful than I was.  I too was in the same boat:  narrow-minded mother who favored me most out me and my siblings because I acted in a manner that pleased her (always did my chores, was neat, quiet, respectful, made top 3 of my graduating class, alway brought home some kind of medal from any competition I participated in, never did drugs, in short what any parent wants from their child), but when I came out, her first words were "not under MY roof!"

Good luck, Brady.  May nature (a mother's instinctual love for her child) overcome nurture (the narrow-mindedness fostered by her environment) in your case.

sweet, so she already knew what it meant.  that's more than a lot of people.  congrats on your big step.

Thank you, it was a load off of my chest when I did it.  Unfortunately, she did not know ahead of time what a transition entails, but my mother being of a quiet and listening nature, and myself being a thorough explainer of all concepts of which I speak (and a wordy one as well), means that I explained every detail that I could cram in, being especially heavy handed in my explanations of anything relating to the medical aspect of it (since I am an aspiring biology major) and my mother sat ther soaking all this in with a pensive and increasingly upset look on her face, waiting until I finished before she delivers her ultimatum.