Quote from: Lori Dee on May 15, 2025, 10:20:42 PMThanks. I'm about to go through the process again. My appointments in June will be my "goodbyes" to my current providers, and I will start with new ones after I move to Colorado in July. I have been with my Primary physician for almost ten years. In the back of my mind is a hint of mistrust that anyone can truly replace her. But the reality is that they are professionals and they work at the VA because they want to help veterans. That gives me hope.

You may wish to try to establish new providers now and not just after you move.  But maybe you cannot with the VA.  The reason is that many providers do not accept new patients and there may be a wait to get an appointment.  If you get that time clock started now to your appointment dates, the less time passes after your move.  This new provider availability may even help you determine what city to move to. 

Good luck.

Chrissy

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 16, 2025, 06:57:51 AMYou may wish to try to establish new providers now and not just after you move.  But maybe you cannot with the VA.  The reason is that many providers do not accept new patients and there may be a wait to get an appointment.  If you get that time clock started now to your appointment dates, the less time passes after your move.  This new provider availability may even help you determine what city to move to. 

Good luck.

Chrissy

Thanks, Chrissy, that is good advice.

Until I have a definite place set up, I don't know what city I will be in. I am shooting for Pueblo, and if things work out, I will be just down the road from the VA Clinic. But I'll have to wait until I confirm the place as mine.

The waiting list could be long due to all of the veterans in the area, but not the "new patient" reasons. Once I check in at the clinic, I just have to designate that as my new primary care clinic, and they will have access to all of my records. You are correct that I might have to wait for initial appointments, though.

Since my medications are mailed to me, I can just call the clinic here and request refills to be sent to my new address. If the wait times are very long for appointments, I can still contact my old providers and do TeleHealth appointments while waiting. The Women's Health nurse here has already contacted the Women's Health Director for the Denver Region and warned them that I am coming. I'm not sure if that is good or bad. 

Quote from: Lilis on May 15, 2025, 09:50:25 PMA Bittersweet Goodbye to Dr. (S), and a Hopeful Step Forward! 💖

I will call her Dr. (S), here for privacy.

I want to share a personal update in my transition journey that carries both a heavy heart and a hopeful spirit.

As of this month, Dr. (S) is no longer my provider for gender affirming hormone therapy (GAHT).

It's hard to put into words how much her presence and guidance meant to me, especially in a world where competent, compassionate, gender affirming medical care can be difficult to come by.

Dr. (S) saw me, affirmed me, and stood by me in some of the most vulnerable and powerful steps of my life.

For that, I'll always be grateful.

The change wasn't something I expected so soon, but I also understand the times we're living in.

The political climate around transgender healthcare has created a storm of uncertainty for both patients and providers. I believe Dr. (S) is going to a better place for now, maybe somewhere safer, maybe somewhere she can do her work without as much constraint.

I wish her rest, freedom, and continued purpose.

Even though the transition is hard, I trust that the next chapter will bring good things.

My new provider is Dr, (R), she will be continue my gender affirming hormone therapy (GAHT).

From what I've seen so far, I feel she brings the same spirit of respect and dedication that Dr. (S) embodied.

It sucks starting over, I won't lie, but I'm choosing to walk forward with trust.

Here's to new beginnings. 🍷


~ Lilis 💗

"The fading light of yesterday only serves to remind us of the shining dawn which comes from tomorrow. Both are equally valuable." - Me.

Sending you all massive hugs.

<3

Quote from: Sephirah on May 16, 2025, 03:25:49 PM"The fading light of yesterday only serves to remind us of the shining dawn which comes from tomorrow. Both are equally valuable." - Me.

Such a beautiful quote, Sephirah. And apropos of all the changes shaping the lives of Lori and Lilis. I'm betting on tomorrow.

Stopping by to give one of my favourite gals a giant hug and hoping she's doing okay. <3

Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2025, 03:48:46 PMStopping by to give one of my favourite gals a giant hug and hoping she's doing okay. <3

Aww, Lauren... thank you! 💞

Hug received, and returned with love and gratitude!

I'm hanging in there, taking things one step and day at a time.

~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on May 22, 2025, 03:58:34 PMAww, Lauren... thank you! 💞

Hug received, and returned with love and gratitude!

I'm hanging in there, taking things one step and day at a time.

~ Lilis 💗

All we can do, sweetie. You know I am only a PM away if you ever want to get anything off your chest.

Go give Bobby a giant hug, too, okay?

Kinda want to see more Lilis in Boots.

Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2025, 04:02:45 PMAll we can do, sweetie. You know I am only a PM away if you ever want to get anything off your chest.

Thank you, Lauren!

QuoteKinda want to see more Lilis in Boots.

Muah 💋, thanks doll! 💗


~ Lilis 🫂

Let's have a little real life fun!

A bit of context and background:

we've been exchanging texts for a couple of weeks now after meeting on a popular transgender dating website.

Our conversations have been going really well, and things seem to be aligning naturally, so we've decided to meet in person for lunch next week!

We're planning to meet at my local LGBTQ+ center right after my weekly session with my LGBTQ+ counselor.

It felt like the perfect choice, safe, welcoming, and familiar for both of us.

From there, we'll walk to a nearby restaurant for lunch.

She's a cisgender lesbian, just a few years younger than me (only three years apart), and she knows that I'm trans.

We had open and honest conversations early on, and it's important to say, she's not a TERF. We made sure we were both clear and comfortable about that before planning to meet in person.

It's exciting... and honestly, a little nerve-wracking too.

Wish me luck, everyone!

~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on May 22, 2025, 04:56:33 PMWish me luck, everyone!

I am so jealous! In my opinion, she's the lucky one. Lilis, I hope your date goes swimmingly!

Lilis! This is so exciting!

I know it's just the beginning and that anything is possible. But also: Anything is possible!

I hope it's a wonderful experience for you both.

Quote from: Lilis on May 22, 2025, 04:56:33 PM

Let's have a little real life fun!

A bit of context and background:

we've been exchanging texts for a couple of weeks now after meeting on a popular transgender dating website.

Our conversations have been going really well, and things seem to be aligning naturally, so we've decided to meet in person for lunch next week!

We're planning to meet at my local LGBTQ+ center right after my weekly session with my LGBTQ+ counselor.

It felt like the perfect choice, safe, welcoming, and familiar for both of us.

From there, we'll walk to a nearby restaurant for lunch.

She's a cisgender lesbian, just a few years younger than me (only three years apart), and she knows that I'm trans.

We had open and honest conversations early on, and it's important to say, she's not a TERF. We made sure we were both clear and comfortable about that before planning to meet in person.

It's exciting... and honestly, a little nerve-wracking too.

Wish me luck, everyone!

~ Lilis 💗

She is very lucky. It's not you who needs wishing luck. Lilis Anyone who has you in their life is massively lucky. You are a force of nature. You've got this.

Sending you all the positivity in the world. Believe in yourself. You're worth it. Go shine like I know you do.

Make sure she's a dog person... just sayin' *massive hugs*

You've got this girl. Just be you. Because you are amazing, okay? You deserve this. Both of you. I am so happy for you. Wishing you all the best, honey. Go get em' tiger!

(as a side note... the first person I ever told was a cis gay girl. She got me to come here. I have a good feeling, Lilis.)

Quote from: Mrs. Oliphant on May 22, 2025, 05:16:41 PMLilis, I hope your date goes swimmingly!

Thank you so much, Annika. It's all still a little surreal. I'm doing my best to stay present and let it all unfold naturally, nerves and butterflies included!

Quote from: Pema on May 22, 2025, 05:25:17 PMI hope it's a wonderful experience for you both.

Thank you so much, Pema!

Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2025, 06:58:40 PMMake sure she's a dog person... just sayin' *massive hugs*

You've got this girl. Just be you. Because you are amazing, okay? You deserve this. Both of you. I am so happy for you. Wishing you all the best, honey. Go get em' tiger!

Lauren, thank you! That made me laugh and tear up at the same time. She's actually a cat person, but I think we can make that work!

~ Lilis 💗

Very Nice little Sister! 💕🤗💕

Onward!!!

A🌻

Quote from: tgirlamg on May 22, 2025, 09:17:29 PMVery Nice little Sister! 💕🤗💕

Onward!!!

A🌻

Thank you so much, Ashley! 💞

Quote from: Sephirah on May 22, 2025, 06:58:40 PM(as a side note... the first person I ever told was a cis gay girl. She got me to come here. I have a good feeling, Lilis.)

Hey Lauren,

What you shared here stayed with me. It seems I can't shake it out of my mind.

Can I ask were you nervous when you first told her?

Ra (Ra not real name) and I are meeting in person for the first time on Tuesday.

We've had some good convos so far, and I'm feeling hopeful... but also a little nervous.

I'd love to hear your thoughts, do you have any advice?


~ Lilis 💗

Quote from: Lilis on May 22, 2025, 04:56:33 PMIt's exciting... and honestly, a little nerve-wracking too.

Well hey, isn't this as all first dates should be? Just go for it, Lilis!

Just follow the universe as it puts the right things in our path.

Quote from: TanyaG on May 23, 2025, 02:53:27 AMWell hey, isn't this as all first dates should be? Just go for it, Lilis!

Quote from: davina61 on May 23, 2025, 03:28:28 AMJust follow the universe as it puts the right things in our path.

Thank you so much, Tanya and Davina, for this kind of warmth and encouragement. 💗


~ Lilis 💞

Quote from: Lilis on May 23, 2025, 01:16:43 AMI'd love to hear your thoughts, do you have any advice?


~ Lilis 💗

I have some!... Be Careful!... The guy I met on a dating site in 2013... had great conversations with... and went on a first date with... Just brought me my morning coffee and told me he Loved me! 💕🤗💕

We will celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary this year! 🎊

Onward Brave Sister!

The World Is Yours...

A 💕

Quote from: tgirlamg on May 23, 2025, 08:56:10 AMI have some!... Be Careful!... The guy I met on a dating site in 2013... had great conversations with... and went on a first date with... Just brought me my morning coffee and told me he Loved me! 💕🤗💕

We will celebrate our 9th wedding anniversary this year! 🎊

Oh wow, Ashley...

That gave me full-body chills in the most beautiful way.

What a love story... nine years! That's incredible. Congratulations! 💐 🎉

Thank you so much for sharing that. I'll carry it with me on Tuesday.

With love,


~ Lilis 💗