Hi everyone,

As some of you will know, I'm on the wait list for gender affirming surgery under the NHS (UK). I have requested this to be at Parkside Wimbledon.

Because of the long wait times, gender services now put patients on a wait list outwith the actual hospital. This is called the Gender Dysphoria National Referral Support Service (GDNRSS). They take your name and keep you on their wait list until the hospital can see you, thus sparing the hospital from having to deal with wait lists themselves. Think of it as the equivalent of an aircraft holding pattern: you know, those annoying times when you approach your destination, only for air traffic control to put you into a figure of eight circling hold before being given your final approach for landing.

On other threads I've seen various wait times mentioned from 8 months to 3 years so I thought it might be helpful to keep this thread open for people to post up their actual empirical wait time experiences under NHS UK. It can then be a reference point and a useful litmus to monitor how things are progressing.

So I'll kick things off:

Requested hospital: Nuffield Wimbledon Parkside
Requested surgeon: Dr Tina Rashid
Gender Clinic Final Approval for surgery: January 2025
GDNRSS acknowledgement of place on their wait list: March 2025
First Appointment at hospital:
Second Appointment at hospital:
Surgery:

A bit out of date but I had to wait 2 years to get referred but once I got the call up from Parkside it was just a few months to get surgery. My write up on this got lost in the site crash .

Quote from: davina61 on May 08, 2025, 03:00:59 AMA bit out of date but I had to wait 2 years to get referred but once I got the call up from Parkside it was just a few months to get surgery. My write up on this got lost in the site crash .

Thanks so much Davina. I see on your profile you had your surgery in 2021? I wonder if wait times were affected by the pandemic?

Referred to  Charing Cross  October 1989.
First appointment May 1991
Surgery December 1994

I have an update on wait times for Ms Tina Rashid at Nuffield Parkside Wimbledon, which I've managed to ascertain.

Private: 5 months wait to see Ms Rashid, then another 4 months for the operation. So 9 months. Cost c. £24,000 = USD $32,000

NHS funded: Once you come out of the GDNRSS hold, then 9-12 months to see Ms Rashid followed by a further 6-9 months for the op. The unknown factor here is how long you're held in the GDNRSS queue before they even send your name to Parkside. So basically a minimum of 18 months and likely 2-3 years. Cost free.

Parkside also added the slightly ominous words to the NHS enquiry, "if suitable for surgery". This comment wasn't mentioned when I posed as a prospective private patient. (I say "posed" but I have been considering the private option).
 

Hey Tills! My wife went through Parkside as well. In her case it was two years before referral to Dr Bellringer and about five weeks until surgery in 2019.

I think it's worth mentioning that we frequently see people who aren't aware that they may have to do a year's worth of hair removal prior to surgery. That's a year they may be waiting anyway. Of course, not all procedures and surgeons are the same. It's imperative to do the research.

The "if suitable for surgery" could mean a few things. As mentioned above, the hair removal has to be completed before a person would be "suitable for surgery". It could mean BMI. Megan says they're more flexible with private patients; when performing NHS duties they need to follow guidelines they didn't set. Private surgeons can set their own policy.

Hugs, Devlyn

Hi Devlyn,

That is all extremely helpful info for myself, and others. Thank you.

Quote from: Devlyn on May 18, 2025, 03:01:07 AMHey Tills! My wife went through Parkside as well. In her case it was two years before referral to Dr Bellringer and about five weeks until surgery in 2019.

I think it's worth mentioning that we frequently see people who aren't aware that they may have to do a year's worth of hair removal prior to surgery. That's a year they may be waiting anyway. Of course, not all procedures and surgeons are the same. It's imperative to do the research.

The "if suitable for surgery" could mean a few things. As mentioned above, the hair removal has to be completed before a person would be "suitable for surgery". It could mean BMI. Megan says they're more flexible with private patients; when performing NHS duties they need to follow guidelines they didn't set. Private surgeons can set their own policy.

Hugs, Devlyn

Hi Devlyn,

I've responded to your excellent advice and next week I'm starting a course of laser hair removal down below. I'm thrilled that my laser clinic are happy to do it because they don't normally 'go there'. I asked them politely and they said they'd be happy to do so to prepare me for surgery.

I know this may sound ridiculously impatient to people when I'm on the NHS waitlist but I want to keep my options open for possibly having the surgery privately at PAI in Bangkok at the end of this year. Whilst I don't entirely buy into the panic about the UK right now, I do think the time has come for me to get this final stage (for me) completed. It's like a siren call. I'm uncomfortable having that bulging thing below when everything else is so obviously female now. That's a recognition of how life in the UK is trickier. It's also because I'm now 61 and waiting 3 years or so for Parkside doesn't feel great.

PAI quoted me around $11,000 USD but that's because I've had two surgeries there before. And that was for MDV, whereas I'm increasingly wondering about full vaginoplasty. I am a lesbian and not into men at all, but as my Gender Clinic psychotherapist pointed out to me, 'women can enjoy pleasure down there too you know'

Right, 4.15 am and it's gel time.

xx