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Which countries are "Safe" for (trans) women?

Started by Tills, April 16, 2025, 11:41:41 PM

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Lori Dee

Quote from: Devlyn on May 19, 2025, 02:06:43 AMIceland is wild, but OMG is it expensive!

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Devlyn

I thought you were in the  upper Midwest? Cold shouldn't bother you.  :)

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Lori Dee

Quote from: Devlyn on May 19, 2025, 08:38:57 AMI thought you were in the  upper Midwest? Cold shouldn't bother you.  :)

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Hence, the reason I am moving. 30 years of Midwest weather, and I am over it. My mining site got snow last night. OVER IT!  ;D
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Tills

Yeah I don't mind the cold. In fact, I like it. Apart from how the dry arctic air affects my sinuses, which is something I've encountered every since my facial surgery in 2017.

I thought Iceland was awesome when I went but would I think so through the long dark nights? Probably not, much as I love the northern lights.

The problem I have with Ireland at the moment @Devlyn is that it's going to be so tight for me financially. I've got c. $135,000 USD to buy a place outright (I don't want a loan). Really to get a decent apartment I need another $30,000 USD. The alternative is to get a run-down place to do up but I'm not sure I've got the energy, and besides I'd have to live in it!

I might hold for 12 months and spend some of that time researching places. The reason is that if they go ahead with production of my film, which they keep assuring me IS going to happen, then my available capital would double, or more.

So I might look around Ireland and then go and spend a bit of time in Thailand and Australia without committing to anything. Maybe get a lip lift sorted that I've wanted for a while, and also have a chat with my surgeon Dr Sutin at PAI about the finishing op down below.

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Tills

Anywhere but the UK right now anyway  :D
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Devlyn

The west coast of Ireland (obviously not the waterfront homes) is really affordable. With the benefit of having some actual land, not a British postage stamp sized lot. Look around Galway, Sligo, Donegal, Roscommon.

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Tills

Quote from: Devlyn on May 19, 2025, 10:09:12 AMThe west coast of Ireland (obviously not the waterfront homes) is really affordable. With the benefit of having some actual land, not a British postage stamp sized lot. Look around Galway, Sligo, Donegal, Roscommon.

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Yes, thanks. I'm on property alerts and have been trawling through hundreds of them and saving my favourites.

It is indeed very good value compared to the UK but you're still not getting a good property in RoI in is a truly liveable condition for the price I mentioned. There are some awesome rural ones for renovating at that price but they need work.

A good apartment in a town or city is c. $150,000 USD minimum.

And do I really want to be stuck out in a remote part of County Donegal on a bleak rainy winter's day, miles from anywhere?

In both rural and town you have to be extremely careful with the Defective Concrete Block crisis. Thousands of apparently good value homes in the west and north-west of Ireland are affected:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irish_defective_block_crisis





Devlyn

Are you using daft? Quite a few move in ready houses in the range you're looking at.

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Tills

Quote from: Devlyn on May 19, 2025, 12:22:35 PMAre you using daft? Quite a few move in ready houses in the range you're looking at.

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Yes, Daft.

There was a decent 1-bed apartment in Waterford that came on the market y'day that is almost within reach.

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Tills

Well I've spent quite a lot of time weighing up pros and cons and trying to attune with the universe on a deep level.

Knowing my needs like I (mostly) do I realise that at this stage Ireland would be a step too far. There's no point sitting out there in a flat or house with no money left. It would be much better to wait 12 months and evaluate when the picture is clearer on the film production. The financial benefits from it are so great that it could revolutionise my position, not only meaning a much nicer apartment or house but also cash in the bank as a cushion.

So meantime I intend over-wintering in Thailand and Australia whilst I watch and wait. And, maybe, have my GRS surgery in Bangkok, plus a lip lift that I've wanted for a while.

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Lori Dee

Quote from: Tills on May 25, 2025, 03:03:21 AMThere's no point sitting out there in a flat or house with no money left.

I came to a similar decision regarding my move. I can afford a nicer place, but I don't need a nicer place. My primary goal is just to re-establish my residency in Colorado so I have the protections of state law. By getting a cheaper place that still meets my needs, I can save up money for other things like surgery, relocation, etc. There is also the possibility that the Orange Man and company will do something that could affect my disability or retirement income. So it is better to sit tight and stash some cash.
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ChrissyRyan

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Annaliese

Quote from: Lori Dee on May 25, 2025, 10:27:21 AMI came to a similar decision regarding my move. I can afford a nicer place, but I don't need a nicer place. My primary goal is just to re-establish my residency in Colorado so I have the protections of state law. By getting a cheaper place that still meets my needs, I can save up money for other things like surgery, relocation, etc. There is also the possibility that the Orange Man and company will do something that could affect my disability or retirement income. So it is better to sit tight and stash some cash.
Lori, I love your way of thinking. I am still stuck in Virginia pondering the right time to relocate. I do want to make my move to Colorado, but am trying to find the right timing. I don't have many possessions left, but the market does not yet favor selling here at the current time. As much as this Administration is not favorable to us, the tax cuts that are proposed will be beneficial if approved. This I am hopeful will permit me some room to move forward with my relocating. I am following you and your relocation with interest as to the area. I don't need much myself, just a place to call home.
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Remember: if you focus too much on the destination,  you'll miss all the amazing stuff in-between.

Tills

@Lori Dee your current situation sounds a whole lot better than mine. That's the problem, I do need to do something

I live in the same house as a woman with whom I used to have a physical relationship. I can't put it any more strongly than that because we were never properly partners. She tolerates my presence and we co-exist on a friendship level. But her daughters (late 20's) hate me being around and have done for a decade. So much so that I am only permitted to exist in the attic at the top of the house. When they are in the house I am literally not allowed down. I feel like Rochester's wife. I've been doing this for a year and everyone I speak to is appalled and telling me to get out.

So I know that I need to find somewhere.

@Annaliese - just seen your reply too.

Tills

Weird thing happened this morning.

I went to book a trip to Thailand and just could not do it. Instead I found myself booking a trip to Ireland, which is all now done for a fortnight's time.

I've reflected on what happened and can explain it fairly simply.

I don't want to go and live in Thailand but feel I may have to financially

I want to give Ireland a go but feel I may not be able to financially.

In such circumstances my counsellor would tell me to go with my heart and see if the universe answers. She might.

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ChrissyRyan

If you can afford Iceland, consider it.

Houses near the active volcano may be deeply discounted now.
But I would stay far away from that thing. 

Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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Annaliese

Quote from: Tills on May 26, 2025, 08:43:50 AM@Lori Dee your current situation sounds a whole lot better than mine. That's the problem, I do need to do something

I live in the same house as a woman with whom I used to have a physical relationship. I can't put it any more strongly than that because we were never properly partners. She tolerates my presence and we co-exist on a friendship level. But her daughters (late 20's) hate me being around and have done for a decade. So much so that I am only permitted to exist in the attic at the top of the house. When they are in the house I am literally not allowed down. I feel like Rochester's wife. I've been doing this for a year and everyone I speak to is appalled and telling me to get out.

So I know that I need to find somewhere.

@Annaliese - just seen your reply too.
Tillis, that's not a way to live. I can understand why you need to relocate.  I would say I'm fortunate that I live by myself,  it has tons of advantages,  but it has alot of disadvantages as well. I find myself in isolation at times. Now more than ever. It's like which is best. I am searching out for community in my area, but so far no luck. But I still search.

Being tied to this place has It's drawbacks.
Always  look forward, there's no ⏳ to look  🔙. You are the person you were always meant to be.
Remember: if you focus too much on the destination,  you'll miss all the amazing stuff in-between.

Tills

Quote from: ChrissyRyan on May 26, 2025, 08:50:36 AMIf you can afford Iceland, consider it.

Houses near the active volcano may be deeply discounted now.
But I would stay far away from that thing. 



But I don't think you can just go and live in Iceland as a UK citizen? You have to get residency.

And although I don't mind the cold and I love the northern lights, it's very dark in winter.

I think the point @Devlyn and others have been making is that a UK citizen is lucky enough to be able to live in Ireland without any questions being asked. And if you stick it out then after 5 years you can apply for citizenship, which confers an Irish passport. Meaning you could then live anywhere in the EU, or travel in the EU for more than 90 days in every 180.
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Quote from: Tills on May 26, 2025, 08:57:06 AMBut I don't think you can just go and live in Iceland as a UK citizen? You have to get residency.

And although I don't mind the cold and I love the northern lights, it's very dark in winter.

I think the point @Devlyn and others have been making is that a UK citizen is lucky enough to be able to live in Ireland without any questions being asked. And if you stick it out then after 5 years you can apply for citizenship, which confers an Irish passport. Meaning you could then live anywhere in the EU, or travel in the EU for more than 90 days in every 180.


I do not know about the requirements to stay there as a long term resident.

Chrissy
Always stay cheerful, be polite, kind, and understanding. Accepting yourself as the woman you are is very liberating.  Never underestimate the appreciation and respect of authenticity.  Help connect a person to someone that may be able to help that person.  Be brave, be strong.  A TRUE friend is a treasure.  Relationships are very important, people are important, and the sooner we all realize that the better off the world will be.  Try a little kindness.  Be generous with your time, energy, wisdom, and resources.   Inconvenience yourself to help someone.   I am a brown eyed, brown haired woman. 
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Quote from: Tills on May 26, 2025, 08:57:06 AMBut I don't think you can just go and live in Iceland as a UK citizen? You have to get residency.

And although I don't mind the cold and I love the northern lights, it's very dark in winter.

I think the point @Devlyn and others have been making is that a UK citizen is lucky enough to be able to live in Ireland without any questions being asked. And if you stick it out then after 5 years you can apply for citizenship, which confers an Irish passport. Meaning you could then live anywhere in the EU, or travel in the EU for more than 90 days in every 180.

If you do a cash buy in Ireland, your outgoings will be low. Water is free there, and the council tax is about 10% of UK rates.

Hugs, Devlyn