Hello. Ever since I was 4, I have wished I was a girl. Just this year, I have considered being genderless. I recently told my parents about it and my mom is glad that that I was willing to share, but doesn't know what to think. My dad is totally unopen to my exploring. I really want to start on Spironolactone, but no one will let me talk to my physician about it. I have started puberty, but I'm not that far. I'm already disgusted at what has happened to me (curse testosterone). My voice is very important to me; if I had to sing Tenor or Bass, I would not know what to do. I feel very strongly about this. Does anyone have any opinions to share?

.:~Icy~:.

Hey Icy42,

I understand the horror that is puberty for you, and the need to stop development as a boy. But I think it is important to remember that even if you had to wait till 18 you still have a fantastic chance of getting great results. 

My advice is to keep chipping away at your folks. Ask them for the chance to see a councillor or therapist, keep at it. Don't stop till you find someone that listens, don't stop even if the councillor backs your dads view (sometimes happens). Keep asking for help and eventually you will get some. It was a good sign that your mum was happy you shared with her, it shows that she is at least open to talking about it. Take heart from this. Talk to her about your feelings, your pain. Let her in on your world. Often people don't understand the agony it is to be transgendered and that it is not a choice. Don't just do it once, keep at it. Give them information about being transgendered, help to educate them.

Good Journey.

Hello Icy! 

I remember puberty and trust me I know the feeling of being disgusted with the changes that are taking place for you. I am glad to hear that you have decided to talk to your parents about it. At 14, you have already done something I cannot dream about doing currently at the age of 20. I started longing to be a female somewhere around the age of 10 - 12. It was always in the back of my mind and just within the last couple of months have I really decided to open up and express myself for the women I feel I am inside. My advice to you, now that you have already broken the ice with your parents, icy, is to continue to talk to them. Talk to them about what you are feeling inside. Talk to them about your concerns, your discomforts. KEEP THEM INFORMED! If you let this dwindle away and show a lack of interest in it, they will more than likely pass it off as a phase. No offense, but teens in your age range tend to go through many phases and passing thoughts, don't let them believe this to be true. HOWEVER, also keep in mind that maybe this is just a passing thought or a phase. As you can probably tell from my post, I really don't have a stance one way or the other. The biggest thing I can stress is that you stay true to yourself, whoever that person is inside, male or female, and don't compromise that. Just remember, if you make the decision, go through therapy and start your transition, its (more or less) for the long haul. I wish you the best of luck hun, and hope it all works out for you! I am interested in seeing others reply to your thread.. as their are MUCH more knowledgeable people on this board.

*hugs/kisses*
Chelsea

Wow, this is weird... I am in the almost EXACT same position as Icy...

This is the jist of it(takes deep breath:
1-I told my mom I am trans
2-She SEEMED to understand
3-We go to therapist
4-Mom says I dont know myself
5-Therapist is completely understanding
6-For over a week NOTHING happens...

And then we get to today where my mom thinks that this a PHASE...

Quote from: Unknown ID on May 03, 2008, 08:34:29 PM
And then we get to today where my mom thinks that this a PHASE...

Well, it is just a phase. I'm sure you're mom will grow out of it if you give her some time.

i wanted to come in here and wish u luck Icy. Its a longhard road and u need to take it slow. Have u booked an apointment with ur doctor and told him anything