When I came out to my fiancé in late November '99, she was obviously shocked. I din't hear from her for 2 weeks, and was thinking it was all over. She came to my house and told me that after many sleepless nights and tears, she realised that she loved both sides of me, and I had never hidden my female side from her, except to give it a title.
She produced an early Christmas present, and said I probably shouldn't open it in front of my grown children. It was a full length emerald green satin nightie, and she said I should wear it whenever we were in bed. A world which had been closed off to me for over 50 years suddenly became real, and more importantly, my soul mate and the love of my life would be with me!
25 years later, that nightie still hangs in my wardrobe, even though it no longer fits me, I can never get rid of it as it marked a turning point in my life.
Hugs,
Allie
Post Script: my wife struggled with me being trans for over 20 years, finally leaving me a month after my GRS. We are still soul mates, and both remain a significant part of each others lives. When I am sad, I sometimes reach into my wardrobe and feel that nighty, to remind myself how lucky I have been.
