Hi everyone. I'm just pondering women's body expectations a little. Personally I think they are impossible to live up to.

I'm just curious what you're feeling most insecure about. Maybe it's something you feel like detracts from your possibility as a woman or something you just wish you could change?

For me personally it's my height. I am six feet tall and often stick out like a sore thumb because of it.

I guess I just try to work with that and embrace it. I hear alot that models are tall like that.

So that's just my insecurity but is there anything about your body you often feel self conscious of?

I only dress femme when my daughter and her partner are not at home. I putter about the house or work outside watering trees and bushes, tending our tiny garden, and living as a woman mostly inside the vast expanses of my mind. In this fantasy world, I am complete and usually happy. Then I go back to being drab: blue jeans and tee-shirts, flannel shirt jackets if it's chilly. But the woman still abides in the recesses of my mind. My body is beginning to respond to HRT and I love the changes. But I am concerned about the way my daughter will respond when she can no longer pretend I'm her father.

My face and my voice. Apparently I pass though.

Quote from: CosmicJoke on August 31, 2025, 09:11:26 AMHi everyone. I'm just pondering women's body expectations a little. Personally I think they are impossible to live up to.

I'm just curious what you're feeling most insecure about. Maybe it's something you feel like detracts from your possibility as a woman or something you just wish you could change?

For me personally it's my height. I am six feet tall and often stick out like a sore thumb because of it.

I guess I just try to work with that and embrace it. I hear alot that models are tall like that.

So that's just my insecurity but is there anything about your body you often feel self conscious of?

I don't consider height an issue. As you said, lots of models are tall, many celebrities are 6 feet or taller, and I have worked with women who are taller than I am at 5' 11.5". It just means we have longer legs. 

My issue has always been with facial hair. I fought with the VA many times to get electrolysis covered, and I got it approved at least three times. But there was no one there in South Dakota who could do it.

If I am going somewhere for an appointment or something, I shave very closely, then use makeup techniques to cover the shadow. It is effective, and I do not get misgendered like that.

Now that I am back in Colorado, electrolysis is available nearby, and I expect to begin that in a month or so. Good riddance after six years.

After that, I may look into scalp hair restoration. I have a nasty scar near my hairline from facial surgery. I am pretty self-conscious about that, so I am always wearing a hat, wig, or topper. In the summer heat, hair hats (as @davina61  calls them) are very warm, so I stick to baseball caps. In winter, it is nice to wear full wigs for a change of color or style.

Those are the most visible things that are difficult to hide. The next step is also to look into bottom surgery. Also, a service that is not available in South Dakota, so now it will just be a matter of financing. I have some options to explore, but I need to consult with a surgeon to get an idea of the options and cost.

None of this will change my feelings of being feminine. It is all cosmetics from my point of view. Getting these things done means less work in camouflaging the things I hate most. That saves time for more important things like gold prospecting or rockhounding.