So.... LOL... another thread about images and relationships.

QuoteMy wife, the doll that she is, built me up the best she could.

I posted that in another thread today and it reminded me of how much my wife has
built me up. Maybe in her eyes and a lot of times in other peoples eyes. Countless
times she makes me seem "bigger than life" and super masculine even though we both
know the truth. Or maybe it's denial on her part. Or maybe it's a message to me.

And when posting that line in the other topic I realized she does that for the first time. I love
reading and posting here... I learn so much about myself and my relationships.
But it kinda made me sad... I know she is OK with who I am one on one
but my image to others is going to be the problem. She is obviously compensating for
who I really am and obviously wants me to appear masculine to others.

It's like one step forward and two back.... LOL... how DO we do this.

Anyway what image did your wife/GF want you to have?

Amanda

Quote from: AlwaysAmanda on May 15, 2008, 12:43:44 PM
Anyway what image did your wife/GF want you to have?

A lustful (for her) and adoring husband who wanted her soooo badly that I'd just have to "take" her every night when I got home and saw her.

~Kate~

Total tomboy, jeans, teeshirts, sneakers..... little to no makeup.... basically to be extremely low maintenance...

But then again my ex was a tomboy pretending to be a girly girl... and I was the other way around a girly girl trying to be a (tom)boy... I still do the tomboy thing sometimes... but generally I just go for total cute or hot...

Mine only had an image of me laying in a coffin - Dead.

She will have to wait for that.

Buffy

Laying in the bed with a cut throat oozing blood into a pool under my still warm body with a stupid confused look on my face. One hand reaching for something that isn't there or is just out of reach, eyes bulging in their sockets, gasping noises being drowned out by the blood gurgling in the back of my throat. 

Oh wait..this was before the TS thing...

I'm not really sure. She never really spoke to me about things like that. A man I guess. Just a man that didn't like girl things but girls. Certainly one that didn't want to be a girl.

Her man...her knight in shinning armour, someone to protect her (She had a abusive ex which I had to protect her from) Thats why her mind was blown to find out the truth. She from time to time picks up girly items for me, but yet can not accept the reality which make it so freaking rough at times.

gina

Loving protective husband, caring father, responsible financial person, spiritual leader, friend, and confidante.

She had dated her share of alpha males and was tired of the games and deception. On our first date we talked and talked and talked. Little did I know at the time that probably what sealed the deal for us was my ability to see things her way and understand her due to me being an androgyne. We "connected" and still do. When I brought up what I had discovered about my GID she just nodded - she already knew and to her it was no big deal, it was just me.