I've actually been to this website before - several years ago. I am post-op (10 years already; I can't believe it). I had SRS with Dr. Meltzer, back when he was in Oregon. I can't find any of my old posts - they must have been purged.
Well, I'm here because I need advice. For most of the past several years I've dated, but I've been pretty private about who/what I am. I'm passable enough that I get by in life pretty well, but I've kind of limited myself when it comes to dating. I've had a few relationships - one that was pretty meaningful, but it ended a couple of years ago. I haven't actually dated since - and partly because of the experience. I didn't tell him - and I felt more than a little dishonest. Others who I've dated, either knew already or when they did find out kind of fixated on the issue - and it was too uncomfortable.
Okay so like I said I haven't really dated much over the past few years - and honestly I've kind of let myself go after taking myself out of the dating scene. I've gained more than a few pounds and while I wouldn't say I've been depressed - it's been a depressing couple of years. Especially in retrospect. I hope that makes sense.
So over the past few months I've decided that I'm going to find a way to meet more people - but in a way that either they already know, or I know they won't do something horrible to me if/when they do find out. I just started a new job and have access to a great gym - so I've started working out and am treating myself better. I have no idea how to go about meeting people - in a way I can be honest with them, and also in a way where they aren't looking for something disgusting. I went to Craig's List and what I saw having to do with TG people was disgusting. I went to a couple of other sites, but they all seem to be about the same. I'm just not like that.
I'm not in any way trying to solicit anything on this website - please understand, I'm looking for advice about a problem that really must be shared by so many people like me.
Anyway, I think it's a difficult situation - but one I know must have solutions. I'm just at a loss.
Oh - one more thing. This is kind of amusing I suppose. One of my latest hobbies is poker. I LOVE poker, and at least I think I'm actually pretty good at it.
So one of the casinos around where I live in Wa has a great poker room - and one of the dealers is TS. It's been interesting - today I played there, and one of the other players who seems to know her (the TS dealer) mentioned that she (the dealer) had just returned from Thailand - and she had undergone surgery. I have no idea whether the player knew I was TS or not - I doubt it - but I thought it was really cool to see a kindred spirit in the poker room.
Anyway, it is now officially an hour and fifteen minutes past my bedtime. I hope this was a good introduction. It's really neat to look through the website and see how much it's changed since I last visited.
