I'm dying here guys! I can't find a girl who's willing to get me off. It seems like I always have this problem; we go to be, get a little "friendly" and they want to stop, cuddle and go to sleep. OR just make me do all the work and give nothing in return. It wasn't so bad before I started T, but now it's getting painful! 

Anyone else have this problem, or is it just me?


(rant)I'M TIRED OF NOT GETTING LAID BECASUE I'M STUCK IN THIS WEIRD SHELL!!!!!!!(/rant) 

my guess is, theyre probably scared of the bits.

Quote from: Scratchy Wilson on May 24, 2008, 03:33:23 PM
It wasn't so bad before I started T, but now it's getting painful! 

Wicked, sweetie. I suppose this clinches it that FTMs are men. Sounds like they get 'blue balls.' 



Sorry, Scratchy, I simply couldn't help myself. Hope you become more fortunate soon.

N~

Quote from: Nichole on May 24, 2008, 03:55:44 PM

Quote from: Scratchy Wilson on May 24, 2008, 03:33:23 PM
It wasn't so bad before I started T, but now it's getting painful! 

Wicked, sweetie. I suppose this clinches it that FTMs are men. Sounds like they get 'blue balls.' 



Sorry, Scratchy, I simply couldn't help myself. Hope you become more fortunate soon.

N~

It's always been bad for me (not in a relationship, not dating) and I'm not even on T.  I can't even imagine when I start!!

Yep, Nichole, it's always been a perpetual case of 'blue balls'...Sigh... I'm investing in a decent prosthetic, more for ME than any potential partners.  When I start T I'll likely be climbing the walls!

Jay

Quote from: Nichole on May 24, 2008, 03:55:44 PM

Quote from: Scratchy Wilson on May 24, 2008, 03:33:23 PM
It wasn't so bad before I started T, but now it's getting painful! 

Wicked, sweetie. I suppose this clinches it that FTMs are men. Sounds like they get 'blue balls.' 



Sorry, Scratchy, I simply couldn't help myself. Hope you become more fortunate soon.

N~

I for sure get blue balls, lol. Thanks for the support Nichole.

Quote from: sneakersjay on May 24, 2008, 03:59:54 PM

It's always been bad for me (not in a relationship, not dating) and I'm not even on T.  I can't even imagine when I start!!

Yep, Nichole, it's always been a perpetual case of 'blue balls'...Sigh... I'm investing in a decent prosthetic, more for ME than any potential partners.  When I start T I'll likely be climbing the walls!

Jay

Jay, dude, after T there won't be enough walls to climb! And prosthetics are awesome, if you find someone who's willing to let you use it that is.

Quote from: Scratchy Wilson on May 24, 2008, 04:13:45 PM
Jay, dude, after T there won't be enough walls to climb! And prosthetics are awesome, if you find someone who's willing to let you use it that is.

That's what porn and j/o is for...though you're right it barely is enough now.      

Jay

Hmmm...well this could be a stretch, but maybe they want to make sure that you are really with them, for them. Not just sex.

My boyfriend is the most stubborn thing in the world.  When we met, he was a virgin and only had 2 other boyfriends because guys got frustrated with him not "putting out."  However, he thought, "if they can't wait, they aren't worth it."

I had to wait 6 or 7 months!  But, to relate to your situation, for the first 6 months, he would be a tease, like your girls.  Things would be getting hot and heavy then he'd say "Oh man...I'm sleeeeeepy.  Night!" and turn over.  It was the most annoying thing in the world and he still does it sometimes.  Maybe these chicks are finding their own way to say "I'm not ready yet." or maybe just to make you want them more? 

One thing I've learned the past couple years, is a lot of woman want to be kind of dominated in the sack. You make the moves, they follow. Of course within reason, if she's saying no, can't argue with that. But I've been with a few girls who have flat out told me, after I got mad for them teasing and not following through, is "Sometimes when I say no, I don't really mean no, it just takes a little more work, don't stop". And the next time I heard "hehehe noooo" I kept going, and we had amazing sex. I dunno, women can be mighty confusing sometimes.
I don't know if it matters, but do you date hetro women? I've dated all hetro woman, except one. She was bi to the fullest, loved both men and women, and go figure she's the best sexual partner I've had thus far. But with the hetro women, I notice they get shy about "not knowing where to touch" etc.

Quote from: GQjoey on May 25, 2008, 09:24:49 PM
One thing I've learned the past couple years, is a lot of woman want to be kind of dominated in the sack. You make the moves, they follow. Of course within reason, if she's saying no, can't argue with that. But I've been with a few girls who have flat out told me, after I got mad for them teasing and not following through, is "Sometimes when I say no, I don't really mean no, it just takes a little more work, don't stop". And the next time I heard "hehehe noooo" I kept going, and we had amazing sex. I dunno, women can be mighty confusing sometimes.
I don't know if it matters, but do you date hetro women? I've dated all hetro woman, except one. She was bi to the fullest, loved both men and women, and go figure she's the best sexual partner I've had thus far. But with the hetro women, I notice they get shy about "not knowing where to touch" etc.

I've dated a few hetero girls, but I think most of the girls I've dated were bi. Actually, the hetero girls were way less shy than the bi girls and really enjoyed using prosthetics (which is my preference). Maybe I'm just having bad luck lately 

Ah, I'm in a similar boat, except I'm also gay. So not only am I having trouble being female bodied, no T, but I also like boys, who want to acknowledge me as a girl. If someone advances, I can't tell if they see me as a girl or a boy, and so I have trouble accepting anyone. Because I'm sure they'll go for me "femininely." The gay boys don't want me because I don't have a penis and the straight boys want me to open my legs. It's really tough... Sorry, I was kind of off topic

I don't know how to tango with girls, but they sure come after me. Lesbians and even straight girls really come after me, and I'm really not interested... Maybe after T the increase in libido could affect how I feel about that. Hard to say.

I don't want to have sex with anyone anyway. I only felt sexual attraction to my b/f of whom a break up seperated us last October (we were online) but after the breakup I found out I was transgender and now I'm mostly doomed of ever finding another boyfriend because they're going to go for the feminity of my body and not the manliness of myself (gee I'm modest) Well..the only sexual frusteration I had was thinking that if I had ever met my ex b/f when we were together I wouldn't have been able to show how much I care for him (in a romantic way not necessarily sexual) but I don't think he would've been a tease. Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. (and sorry for my off topic rant too)

I'm OK as I am, I don't have any friends in this country anyway- literally.
All of my friends live abroad and I see them like three times a year the most. So...

I got real close with this one guy, who'd known her as well as me and was fine with it.
Only he couldn't wait six months so we'd get together again, not that I expected him to. Meh.

Feel sorry for you guys ....

As "straight" post-op M2F I struggle to fight off attention from guys .... and end up going way way too far way too often.

Not sure if its a better position to be in ?

Laura x