So I was at Target yesterday and I found a pair of heels that I WILL have on my next payday and that got me to thinking about my grasp on gender (because high heels are associated with women and I have shunned the high heel for most of my life, but I WANT these shoes!!!) and it brought up a thought that I've had for a while. I do not associate things with gender. I tried the shoes on because I liked them. Things like clothing, makeup, sports, types of literature, music, etc. Now, that isn't to say I don't know that things are associated with gender, but I just don't associate them. For example, today I wore a skirt and a tank top, but I was feeling quite boyish. The other night, I was wearing a rather frilly shirt with a lot of lace on it, capri pants, and beaded sandals and again, I felt very boyish.
It first occurred to me a few months ago. I showed my pic to an androgyne person and they said, "that's a girl." That statement sort of got under my skin a little and all I could say was, "well, that's my face." I wear makeup, but then again, I used to hang out in places where EVERYONE wore makeup and it wasn't unusual to guys in skirts...this was at the local goth nights we used to have. I loved that everyone did whatever they wanted and it was a very natural place for me.
I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. Basically, when I pick out clothes or put on makeup, I don't even think about gender.