The weirdest thing happened today.  I got "Sir"ed at the passport office - and I wasn't even trying to  pass.  I was wearing makeup for pity's sake. (Gots to look purty for the photo.)  It actually made me a bit uncomfortable, because I knew I was going to have to immediately out myself.  Do any of you find that there are times when it just makes you self-conscious when you get "Sir"ed? Sometimes it bothers me a little, because I know the moment I open my mouth they're going to know I'm not "really" a guy.  Some days I just can't handle the apologies, or the "what a weirdo" looks.  I probably shouldn't care so much what others think, but I hate living in this half-man-half-woman limbo, never truly getting by as either. *sigh*  Still, I guess it means I'm moving in the right direction style-wise. 

The day I get my first SIR I'm throwing a party.  I still get ma'am-ed and 'that lady' all the time.

ARGH!

Jay

I've never been "sir"ed in my life. I'm with Jay--I'll celebrate when it happens to me. =[

I could see how it would be annoying, but maybe they feel like that's what you want to be called so they want to do what would please you ya know?

i never really thought of that brady.  im used to getting intentional hurtful names instead of what i want to hear.

i havnt been sir'd ever.  but i look pretty young.  when i was a little kid i was mistakefor a boy a lot of the time.  now that i have boobs, i think people get a little confused.  they arent aparent, but its enough to prevent the sir.  i havnt been she'd either...

I get sir a lot, or mr. Never makes me feel weird, it doesn't really phase me that much.

I couldn't help myself, I saw this on the front page.  I know I'm not the type you were asking but I'll give you an answer.  It doesn't bother me to get sir'd just because it's what I expect to hear from people.  Ok, so it bothers me a little but it can't be helped because when I open my mouth the sir is confirmed.

Always, I'm not my dad.  I'm not a sir.  I'm just a dude.

To me 'sir' might as well be 'gramps.'

Being 'Sir'ed is the blood of my existence.

Thought all the dudes wanted 2 be si'red but maybe its me   When I was pre-t I just gave it my best shot & talk in my most masculine voice.  nobody noticed anythin.  but  along time ago a woman called me "she" at the store.  I told her "it's he".  she said "so sorry sir, I apologize sir" & that was about it.  sometimes u just gotta tell them u know.

The very first time I got "sir"ed was when I was 15 and cut my hair short for the very first time. I laughed about it, mostly at the look on the guy's face when I said something to him.

But the more it's gone on and the more frequent it's become, the more I find I like it.

i love it.  makes my day.  I'd rather have that than Mr.  "Hey Mister" would make me feel really old.  I'm lucky i get sir, i look so young.  So when i get it it makes my day.

When i was early on i found that on the days that i wasn't trying, as in throw crap on and a quick errand, was when i passed the most.  So i get what you're saying that it can be a bit unnerving in that respect.  Mainly 'cause when i REALLY tried i failed.

Quotebut I hate living in this half-man-half-woman limbo

nobody said it was gonna be easy.  we've all been there.  hell i'm still there.  one day at a time, things will slowly start to come together for you.

Quote from: J.T. on June 24, 2008, 07:41:05 PM
nobody said it was gonna be easy.  we've all been there.  hell i'm still there.  one day at a time, things will slowly start to come together for you.

Thanks for the support, J.T.

Chris - You're right, it all really boils down to confidence.  Fake it 'til you make it, right? 

Hey,
      I'd like to say I am so glad I found this place and this thread. I love being called sir. It validates how I feel inside. It turns, well, you know. I don't try, It always has come natural. I have to calm myself down when I get the ma'ams, because the first impulse is to jump over the counter at the person. What matters most, however, is that I am comfy in my own skin. that is why after all this this time I am gonna go for it. Salutations

i got sirred on Mother's Day, in full dress, if you will, with barrets and a purse. i thought i was gonna die.

ahh, that bites ell.

I still think that being called 'sir' is one step away from being called 'Gramps' as in "Hey Gramps, shuffle over to the next section where the Geritol and walking sticks are."

Not at all - sure as hell bothers the F outta me to be "mam'd" though, especially when it's intentional. Like when people say it, then glance at you to see your reaction.

Quote from: J.T. on June 25, 2008, 06:35:53 PM
ahh, that bites ell.

*in a whiny voice*   unh hunh.

I want people to call me by my name, if they don't know it, I'll tell it to them mightly quick.  Of course, they are all 'boy' or 'girl' to me.