ive REALLY REALLY liked this girl for a long time now.  3 years actually.  and it makes me so mad!  shes pretty conservative and catholic and im like 99.99% sure shes not into girls, so i never told her that i liked her.  i didnt start my transition until the last day of school this year and when i did, i made a new facebook.  i saw hat she had an honesty box so i wrote in it and we started talking, but she began getting frustrated that i wouldnt tell her who i was.  i told her that i was scared because i liked her and i wasnt like normal guys.  she was okay for all of 2 seconds.  and wanted to know who i was.  so after much deliberation with a friend i just snapped.  and wrote "my name is Jonas" and thats all. she wont read it till tomorrow though because shes actually normal and sleeps at night.  so wtf... should i telher EVERYTHING?  or just let her deal with having my name? 

I think that you are in the best position to decide how much to tell her. You should try your best to be analytical (if that is possible) about it.

Ask yourself what is the best/worst outcome from telling her. How much emotion do you really have invested in her (or she you, for that matter). Did she know you before? Is she invested with her perceptions of you before? What exactly do you want from her? Is it friendship, or something more?

Most things of worth in life are more complex and scary then things of little value. An old cliché comes to mind "Nothing ventured, nothing gained" that said please don't take any unnecessary risks. If you don't think there is much of a chance of a positive outcome then why bother.

I wish you the best of luck, with whatever you decide to do.


Best wishes,

Holly

"My name is Jonas" is a really bouncing song by Weezer... by the way ; )

Hmn! I had this problem with a girl that I met a few months ago too... I think I did the wrong thing and just cut off contact with her :x. I guess now I'll never know. I would suggest thinking about who she could talk to that you wouldn't want her talking to if she ended up being totally immature about it and then remember that most things that seem huge to you are about half as bad in reality.

And! If you want to bail! Just tell her you were joking and posting the name of your favorite weezer song ; )