My youngest is 16 and my oldest is 19. I have no desire to give birth myself and essentially start the parenting process all over again.

Yeah, mine are in their twenties, and I'm looking forward to being a grandparent, spoiling them rotten and then shipping them back to their parents.

As much as I wouldn't want to bring a child into this cruel world, plus the fact that there's enough people already (6.5 billion and counting), and at present I lack the resources to take care of said child...

If things were different, I'd give anything to be able to give birth.  Anything.  A coworker of mine is 7 months pregnant and invited me to her baby shower next month.  I'm probably going to cry while I'm there but I'll try my hardest not to for her sake.  It really pains me not to be able to give birth because I know that will always be something that separates me from most of my gg friends (some can't have children for different reasons).  When I started HRT last year, my endocrinologist asked me if I wanted to store my "material" for later (my words not hers.  I can't say the actual word because it's not mine, but you know what I mean).  I told her if I can't give birth as a woman, then I don't want to have children.

Now I realize that eventually I may adopt, but it won't be the same as feeling someone grow inside me and knowing I can bring life into this world.

My mom (bio-dad) didn't give birth to me, but I am far closer to her in a mother-child way than I ever was with my bio-mom. I don't understand why some transwomen say, "If I can't give birth, I don't want babies." That bond doesn't have to be formed in the womb. I spent the first two years of my life with my mom, went without knowing her for fifteen-sixteen years, and discovered when we met up again that our bond survived that entire time. I don't even remember her from when I was little, but I always knew we were meant to be reunited (I'd stare at her old picture for hours as a teenager, wishing to talk to her just once). I guess my point is, once you've got a kid in your arms, whether or not it came out of you or your partner, it's something special. Anyway.

/endtwocents

Quote from: Yochanan on June 23, 2008, 02:03:25 PM
My mom (bio-dad) didn't give birth to me, but I am far closer to her in a mother-child way than I ever was with my bio-mom. I don't understand why some transwomen say, "If I can't give birth, I don't want babies." That bond doesn't have to be formed in the womb. I spent the first two years of my life with my mom, went without knowing her for fifteen-sixteen years, and discovered when we met up again that our bond survived that entire time. I don't even remember her from when I was little, but I always knew we were meant to be reunited (I'd stare at her old picture for hours as a teenager, wishing to talk to her just once). I guess my point is, once you've got a kid in your arms, whether or not it came out of you or your partner, it's something special. Anyway.

/endtwocents

I'm not saying it isn't special either way.  Having a child is something very special, but for me it just makes me sad knowing I won't be able to give birth to said child.

Quote from: fae_reborn on June 23, 2008, 02:10:17 PM


I'm not saying it isn't special either way.  Having a child is something very special, but for me it just makes me sad knowing I won't be able to give birth to said child.

I understand. It's kind of the same thing with me--I want children of my own (my own blood, not adopted), but I've no desire to have 'em come out of me, so I'm SOL. I've decided to settle for adoption once I get older and established. I make myself feel better about not having my own by thinking about how I can help a child already in need instead of bringing another into the world.

Hi Yochanan hon I do agree with your last post. As for me I passed the age of child bearing even if I could. But I did have the privilege of having had 11 children under my roof through the years, only three of them being my own. The last three I had in my care, one girl and two boys was 5 years ago now, I couldn't see them being separated. I enjoyed every minute although it did have it's trying times at times, still it was so worth it.

Cindy

The fact that I know that it will be impossible for me to ever have children naturally keeps me just as depressed as if you were to tell a normal woman that she can't have children.

I don't know why...But kids just annoy me...Even though I'm still one--I just don't ever see myself having a baby. To me; It just doesn't appease my taste.

A somewhat hesitant yes.  I'm far more attracted to women then men, however there is still the part of me that would love to. 

This is something i've thought a lot about.  In the past I did try and my hubby and I were never able to. Our new BF was married in the past and has 4 grown kids so I know he is able to father them. I'd like to be a dad I think....so since I still have the equipment...we're gonna just see what nature throws our way. I might not even be able to have em anyways.

Absolutely YES YES YES!

It's my one big sadness in life. I would cheerfully sell every single thing I had and give away all my not inconsiderable wealth if I could really have this miracle.

Sadly - at jolly nearly fifty it's age more than anything which would be the obstacle. Back when I had my SRS they were talking hopefully about possible ways to do this... but as you know in 25 years nothing has happened.

We eventually managed to informally adopt a rather troubled teen whom we rescued from a life where he had gone severely off the rails, so I have a grownup son but it's really not the same as if he could be my flesh and blood.

Re: Would you like to give birth to a child?

No. Really envy those who can though. Wish I would have had it in me.

This is one thing that won't be changed by changing gender for me - I always knew I never wanted to be a parent so saw to that matter years ago.

Yup

Quote from: tekla on June 23, 2008, 11:47:39 AM
  Little critters are real cute and all.  Still, it was good knowing I'd be giving them back to their 'rents, and not taking them home with me.

This is where I'm at with it also

I think children are wonderful  But I'm always glad when it's time to give them back 

been there, done that, never again

I would love to be able to both get a woman pregnant and be pregnant, I think.

Quote from: childofwinter on December 20, 2009, 10:32:08 PM
I would love to be able to both get a woman pregnant and be pregnant, I think.

Now that's just being greedy surely?

Being a mom can be rewarding- I already have 2 stepchildren with my SO that I just adore. I don't think I would choose childbirth, but then this is a completely hypothetical situation so it's hard to say.