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How did you choose your female name

Started by Krystal, June 14, 2008, 07:48:02 AM

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DeValInDisguise

Shortly after I came out to my wife we sat down and over the course of several weeks went through every name on one of those baby name sites.  We kept a list of all the possibles (for me and her once she realized she needed to change her name too).  As we neared the last of their names I was going over the short list and picked two that I like for first and middle name but neither Kyra Veronica nor Veronica Kyra quite fit.  Then with about 2 dozen names left I spotted it.  As soon as I saw Valerie I knew that's who I was.  Which caused this conversation with the wife:

Val: Valerie is it.  I'll keep Kyra as my middle name.
Wife groans.
V: What?
W: Valerie Kyra?  Val Kyra?  Valkyrie?
V: Screw it.  I like it.  It's me.

Val
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Ali Noir

I was going to choose Alexandra, to keep it close to a family name (Alexander), but I didn't really like that. So I chose something that I felt was close. And my middle name, Corinne, was my grandmother's, on my father's side, name. And my last name, I haven't decided if I'm going to keep it or change it. Depends on how my parents take it all once I come out :x

xoxo
Ali
xoxo
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Hypatia

Valkyrie means a powerful female mythological being-- pretty impressive. I like it.

There's nothing weird about "Tasha" in Russian, short for Natasha, a nickname for Natalia. It's neat.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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lizard

Valkyrie is pretty awsome.
live that one up :)
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pennyjane

i was named after a cat that i named.  penny was a stray who started hanging out with my mother-in-law.  once it was clear she was here to stay we had to take her to the vet and get her checked out, fixed if needed, and on and on....on the way my wife was reading the letter from the vet, seems we needed a name...it came naturally as all the expense was being related...."Lord," i said, "all that and she ain't worth a penny!"  hiya penny!

penny, it turns out, was a rather mischievious little critter.  she was always into something.  it didn't take long before yelling "penny!!!" at her would garner not much more then an ear twitch.  so somewhere along the way i added an emphatic "JANE".....PENNYJANE!!!"  well, it worked sometimes.

and then the computer age:  and then yahoo and an anomyous id.  shoot, pennyjane would work.  so, i came by it rather accidentally.  my first choice was always susan.  i always felt like a susan.  but when it came time for the legal change it seemed as if half the world already knew me as pj, and my sweet wife informed me that in fact i wasn't a susan at all, i was a pennyjane.  not penny jane, nosiree...that would be just too easy.  she insisted on one word, pennyjane!  now half of all my legal documents say pennyjane and the other half penny jane...<sigh> guess i'm just destined for a wierd name.
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amie

Quote from: Krystal on June 14, 2008, 07:48:02 AM
Hi all
I have been thinking a lot about my name lately. I have talked to some girls that say "oh I have always had a female name for myself" or "I have always thought of myself as (insert name here)". I have always avoided doing this since, well if the female me had a name she would be harder to deny.  Now that I am finally past that stage of my life and am starting to get involved in the local TG community I realize I need to start thinking about a name that  matches the real me. Even though I post here as Krystal I really just grabbed that name since I thought it was pretty but really don't think its me. After  a lot of thought and poking around on baby naming websites I have worked my list down to about 6 different names I feel fit me but  am having a tough time narrowing it down more. I did find a neat site that lets you look at a list of all first names that are used with your surname. You can click the name and see how common the use of that name combination is in the general population as well as giving you some other facts about both first and last name. I found it very helpful in seeing what names go together best. It has a search feature as well as a A to Z listing (Popular surname directory:)
http://www.isthisyour.name/
So I am curious, how did you choose your female name and why? Have you always had it or was it something you decided on during your transition?
Thanks
Krystal

Amie: it's cute, only two syllables, and has a delicate/feminine feel to it. Not to mention, I always wanted a girl name that's in a song: Pure Prairie League, "Amie". LOL. Gotta love it.
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cindybc

Hi Ali Noir. I love the name Corrine, it reminded me of the song Corrina, Corrina.



Cindy
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Krystal

Well I have finally narrowed my choice of names down to 2, Carrie or Katie.
While I am really not in a hurry with this so many of the  folks I have met in the local TG community say they just can't see me as (insert male name here). * smiles *  I know that until it's changed legally  I am not locked into any choice I make  however it seems like it will be a pain in the tail and a bit confusing for me and others to be  Katie for now then a different name later. So I really want to choose a name I will stick with from now on. I hope that makes sense. I like both of these names equally and might just have to ,draw from the hat so to speak, to make my final decision.
I greatly appreciate all of your input on this since picking names seems to be one of the harder things for me to do. Even for my cats it can take me months to name them. *giggles*
Krystal
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Stealthgrrl

I read my name in a collection of short stories by the Irish author Maeve Binchy. In fact, there were two male characters, in different stories, named Shay. I immediately loved the name. Two years before I went full time, I legally changed my middle name to Shay and started going by it. In the UK it may be a male name but where I live every Shay I know is female.

I think it sounds soft and simple, and it suits me perfectly. I've had any number of compliments about my name, which I really love since i chose it lol.

There aren't many other Shays, at least not here. One evening I was at a function and there was another gal named Shay there. I actually was a little put out about it lol. I wanted something distinctive, but that wouldn't sound bizarre.

I'll tell a little story. (hey, sit back down) I read a book called "A Good Dog" in which a man got a dog that cringed every time it heard its name, because it had mostly heard it when it screwed up. So a trainer suggested changing it. The man did, and that entire reaction vanished because the new name had no negative connotations. I feel the same way. I hate my old name while my new one has always been joy to me.

The only other name I even considered was Shannon.

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cindybc

Why not use the name Shannon as your stage name, unless it's been taken up. Or you could do what many here do by adding a number or something at the end of your name. I couldn't use just Cindy so I added the bc at the end, short for British Columbia where I live.

Cindy
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Kara Lee

My girlfriend and I had been throwing names around, mostly her, hehe...  Anyway, I had at first thought of Virginia Lee as first and middle.  Virginia because of Robert Heinlein's wife, I always loved her nickname of Ginny.  And Lee is my current middle name and I like it and needed a first name that went with it.  So one day I was tossed Carrie and the only thing coming to my mind was the movie and I didn't really want to go around thinking of that movie every time someone called out my name.  But a variation of that pronunciation, Kara, seemed to fit me very well.  Since I plan to keep my last name it also had to go with that and I think they all work well together.
Only recently did I realize that both Kara and Lee are 2 main characters of the recent Battlestar Galactica.  I just wonder how long it will be before people start calling me Starbuck, lol 
"Those who would give up Essential Liberty to purchase a little Temporary Safety, deserve neither Liberty nor Safety." -- Benjamin Franklin
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cindybc

Hi Kara Lee, I like that name. I loved all the Star Trek movies especially Captain Janeway of Star Trek Voyager. At the time I was living alone and never missed an episode they were my surrogate family. I also loved Star Wars and Star gate, especially Jack Oneal.  Welcome aboard Lieutenant Starbuck. Ensign Paris will see to it your luggage is taken to your new quarters, and he will show you around our formidable starship Lady Voyager. Later Mr Neelix will see you to brief you of our mission and your position and obligations in this mission to Betelgeuse.  ;D :icon_bumdance-nerd: :icon_drunk: Bon Voyage.

Cindy
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sarahb

Initially I had tried thinking of a new name and couldn't find one that I absolutely liked. One day I realized that I already had my name picked out for me...my last name. Since I had a girl's name for my last name (at least how it was pronounced) I decided to just switch my first and last name around and I had my name.

I know that some people would advise against this since it still has a connection with my male name and if I wanted to go stealth it could possible come back to me later on, however, I am fairly certain that I will never go completely stealth. Since my family is very accepting, my friends are very accepting, and everyone I've met so far is very accepting I have no need to hide that part of me altogether if it happens to come up. I, of course, don't go blurting out that I'm trans, but I'm not exactly hiding it either.
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JodieBlonde

Mine came out of a book that for some stupid reason was a favorite of my mom. She had the names "Jody" or "Jodie" all picked out for me..and actually it is on my birth certificate as a middle name...because she didn't want me to carry on the first name of my father..for reason that I have posted in my story.

I never really liked it much, but then I found the name to be rather unique where I live and it can be said phonetically without any real gender reference in it at all..so I kept it.

The soppy book by Marjorie soppy Kinnan soppy Rawlings called "The soppy Yearling"....was turned into a soppy movie with the soppy boy character having the same name..and mom just got it from there. I added the "Blonde" part...and I believe that the final "e" makes it female...the jury's out on that though as I can't get a good reference to that spelling. But I like it even if I can't Google it. 





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Flo

Flo

Real simple.  I have BS degree in hoticulture/greenhouse  managament. 

Flower...Floriculture...Flo...

Flo and Eddy...don't know them

Still like Flo

ME!
Never to old to find peace of mind...but time moves quickly
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michael 19 jones

Quote from: cindybc on July 07, 2008, 02:07:21 AM
Hi Kara Lee, I like that name. I loved all the Star Trek movies especially Captain Janeway of Star Trek Voyager. At the time I was living alone and never missed an episode they were my surrogate family. I also loved Star Wars and Star gate, especially Jack Oneal.  Welcome aboard Lieutenant Starbuck. Ensign Paris will see to it your luggage is taken to your new quarters, and he will show you around our formidable starship Lady Voyager. Later Mr Neelix will see you to brief you of our mission and your position and obligations in this mission to Betelgeuse.  ;D :icon_bumdance-nerd: :icon_drunk: Bon Voyage.

Cindy

Well I guess I'll repost sense my post for this one got deleted. I will be different but it will have the same idea.

Yay! Another Sci-Fi lover. I'm one to. I do enjoy watching star trek and stargate. I love both Series too. Plus I've seen all three Stargate movies.  :icon_yikes: :eusa_shhh: I mean two movies. please don't call the copy right police.

Oh ya. I got my female name from my dreams and meditative visions. I kept on hearing that name and wonder why was I being called Amrisa. Finally I took me to talk to my "real self" in a vision to convince me that I should be my female name. Believe me it wasn't easy to find out.
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le_joli_papillon

Well, my name is Mi'Shauna, which is close to my birth name. After several name changes (not legal of course), I came up with a first and last name that is somewhat similar to my name right now, so that its easier for some...
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Shana A

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Melissa

I picked it because of a girl I liked a long time ago.  Who that girl is will remain a secret that only I will know.  ;D
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