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Outed by accident....... HELP!!!!

Started by findingreason, August 09, 2008, 10:11:19 PM

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findingreason

Ok, so I've been away from here since the beginning of summer, but I'm back. Now here's the problem, I was outed by accident by my friend to my mother about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Bad situation...... I was away when it happened, so I was just informed by other SOs yesterday. My mother hasn't talked about it yet, and has been treating me bitter coldly since. She's tolerating me, that's all I can say. Apparently, from what I heard, when it happened, all hell broke lose, and she was ready to disown me completely. It nearly tore my family apart in the process. Problem is, I am going to see a therapist hope in the next couple weeks, as I don't know if I am TS or Androgyne. All she heard was that I wanted to be a girl. I am in a bad position right now, so I need some advice for when she does confront me!!!!!


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Janet_Girl

findingreason,

I would say to just be honest.  If she already has a knowledge then being honest wouldn't hurt.  If you can see your therapist first that would be better so that you can have some info for her. 

It really depends on what was said and how.  Were they trying to help or hinder.  Was it a slip up?

I really hope that everything turns out alright for you and your Mom.

Keep your chin up and don't let it get you down. I know it is hard but it is always darkest before the dawn.

We are always here for you, little sister.

Love,
Janet
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findingreason

From what I heard, I was talking to my friend, of whom has been helping me, and he called my father, who was happening to be with mother at the wrong time. She made him go into his email, and she read the messages.

And, I was just thinking recently too, that I may just dress feminine, get the beard zapped, shave my legs, and let my hair grow, but not transition, because I don't think it's right right now. Like I won't be comfortable with myself as a woman. But, now that she knows, it's brought another perspective, that now she knows, I could just go ahead. I know this may not be the right place, but I believe in reincarnation and would definitely be reborn a woman, but now I don't think I can handle it. But knowing that my mother knows, that partially knocked down a wall in my mind, and maybe I should just go forward no matter what.



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Janet_Girl

I would Girl.

Read my signature.  I live by that now.  Whether I am alone or not. I am happier now.  That is important to me ,now.

Love and Best of luck,
Janet
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Mnemosyne

I have had two people out me to others, at really bad times. one I found out about early on enough to paint her as being quite insane and then cut all ties. The second one I did not find out about until later because people were pretty terrified to approach me and by the time I found out about it, transition was right around the corner.
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