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Started by emoboi, August 16, 2008, 06:29:40 PM

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Patroklos

Quote from: Elwood on August 20, 2008, 12:13:53 PM
Except I'd never freeze my legs off, either. I live in fracking California where it doesn't get colder than 70.

1) You said "fracking", which appears in my favorite show Battlestar: Galactica and that makes me happy.
2) I live in California and it's rarely above 65 degrees. 40s and 50s are the norm.
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icontact

Quote from: Milo on August 20, 2008, 01:54:17 PM
Quote from: Elwood on August 20, 2008, 12:13:53 PM
Except I'd never freeze my legs off, either. I live in fracking California where it doesn't get colder than 70.

1) You said "fracking", which appears in my favorite show Battlestar: Galactica and that makes me happy.
2) I live in California and it's rarely above 65 degrees. 40s and 50s are the norm.

California's very temperature-diverse. Depends where you live. Where I'm at, the temperature's usually around 60-80, depending on the season, but often goes to like 35 in the winter, and 105 in the summer.
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Elwood

Quote from: Milo on August 20, 2008, 01:54:17 PM
Quote from: Elwood on August 20, 2008, 12:13:53 PM
Except I'd never freeze my legs off, either. I live in fracking California where it doesn't get colder than 70.

1) You said "fracking", which appears in my favorite show Battlestar: Galactica and that makes me happy.
2) I live in California and it's rarely above 65 degrees. 40s and 50s are the norm.
Which part?
I'm from the San Diego area. Although, currently, I am in the north bay area.

Yeah, I say frack on here instead of the standard F-word because I kept getting in trouble for cussing.
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Patroklos

I live on the Monterey Peninsula. Central Coast-ish.
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Mister

You know, Elwood, not everyone shopping for women's clothes wants to be stuck in carhartt and dickies.  It's probably also difficult to find a workplace where a flightsuit is appropriate attire, unless it's government issued and OD green.  Of course clothing made for work purposes are going to be more durable- you can thank the old time sailors for that.  But on the whole, men's (NOT BOYS) clothes are far more utilitarian.  They're routinely made with heavier weight fabrics to withstand more wear.  Decorative pockets on women's styles amazingly transform into actual functioning pockets on menswear.  Boys clothing is generally about as durable as girls' clothing, but little surpasses menswear for durability. 

As for your bike gloves/shoe example-- haven't you stated previously that you're <100 pounds?  Most female-bodied folk can easily wear men's gloves and shoes without them feeling bulky.  I have the opposite take on them as you- women's gloves are routinely far too short in the fingers, not large enough in the wrist, etc.  I'm above average height for a woman, but my weight puts me closer to the average than yourself.

And freezing your butt off in a dress is a very relevant example.  Dresses are the staple of female-based formal wear.  How often do you see men shedding their tux/suit jackets because of the heat and their dates gladly accepting them to keep from freezing?  Technically, dresses should be warmer than shorts of the same length (see the great glove v. mitten debate) but because of circulation/fat distribution, women are generally colder in skirts.  This is the same reason that female-specific sleeping bags are on the market- they have more insulation in the feet and butt to combat the ever-cold regions of the majority of women. 

But you're right.  Sort of.  There is no inherent male aversion to skirts and that is, yes, societal.  But gender is also a social construct...  so clothing IS gendered. If it wasn't, why would there be men's and women's departments?  Before there was clothing, there was the gender binary.  Social construct that says girls wear this, boys wear that and designers work accordingly. 

More women are victimized while wearing high heels than any other type of shoe.  Why?  They're targeted because women in heels cannot run away.  I was at a wedding two weeks ago where the men in the group escorted women wearing high heels across the soft lawn because they could hardly even walk on it.  How can you say this is practical?  The high heel is continually sexualized in the male-dominated media and thus women continue to wear them despite damage to their skeletal systems and at risk of harm.  Why? To be seen as attractive.  The media is the cause of the majority of this- it dictates what is made, what is sexy, etc., and society follows suit.  I doubt many people would agree that footbinding seems like a particularly hot idea, but until recently it was sexualized in Chinese culture. (please, do a google image search if you are unfamiliar with the appearance of this)  In a hundred years, our great-grandchildren could have the same view on the barbaric footwear practices of western women.
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Elwood

Quote from: Mister on August 20, 2008, 03:51:52 PMYou know, Elwood, not everyone shopping for women's clothes wants to be stuck in carhartt and dickies.  It's probably also difficult to find a workplace where a flightsuit is appropriate attire, unless it's government issued and OD green.  Of course clothing made for work purposes are going to be more durable- you can thank the old time sailors for that.  But on the whole, men's (NOT BOYS) clothes are far more utilitarian.  They're routinely made with heavier weight fabrics to withstand more wear.  Decorative pockets on women's styles amazingly transform into actual functioning pockets on menswear.  Boys clothing is generally about as durable as girls' clothing, but little surpasses menswear for durability.
I never said that was the case. It was merely my example. It isn't the only example. For instance, women's fitness clothes are designed for the female frame. Not all of them "look" girly since plenty of female athletes like the butch look. They do, however, fit better, which is safer.

Depending on the shop, a flight suit (used, obviously) will be cheaper than a jumpsuit. Best used for things like painting and on site work. You'd wear your semi-nice clothes under it. It protects you from whatever the work is you're doing.

Men's clothing generally is better. I never was suggesting anyone ALWAYS wear women's clothing or something. I just think it's mysogynistic to refuse anything that's slightly female because you fear it will hurt your "manhood."

Quote from: Mister on August 20, 2008, 03:51:52 PMAs for your bike gloves/shoe example-- haven't you stated previously that you're <100 pounds?  Most female-bodied folk can easily wear men's gloves and shoes without them feeling bulky.  I have the opposite take on them as you- women's gloves are routinely far too short in the fingers, not large enough in the wrist, etc.  I'm above average height for a woman, but my weight puts me closer to the average than yourself.
Yes, I am, but gaining weight will not make my bone size larger. My hands are the size they're going to be. T might widen them slightly.

Quote from: Mister on August 20, 2008, 03:51:52 PMAnd freezing your butt off in a dress is a very relevant example.  Dresses are the staple of female-based formal wear.  How often do you see men shedding their tux/suit jackets because of the heat and their dates gladly accepting them to keep from freezing?  Technically, dresses should be warmer than shorts of the same length (see the great glove v. mitten debate) but because of circulation/fat distribution, women are generally colder in skirts.  This is the same reason that female-specific sleeping bags are on the market- they have more insulation in the feet and butt to combat the ever-cold regions of the majority of women.
I don't see that sort of thing where I live because the weather is nice. Also, women are not REQUIRED to wear dresses. The is a right time and a wrong time to wear a dress. It's your own damn fault if you decided to wear a two piece in the snow.

Quote from: Mister on August 20, 2008, 03:51:52 PMBut you're right.  Sort of.  There is no inherent male aversion to skirts and that is, yes, societal.  But gender is also a social construct...  so clothing IS gendered. If it wasn't, why would there be men's and women's departments?  Before there was clothing, there was the gender binary.  Social construct that says girls wear this, boys wear that and designers work accordingly.
Gender is proven to be an actual recognized part of the brain. It might not be "biological," but the fact that my brain ought to register with my body but doesn't suggests that gender is more than just social.

Men and women's departments are again based on the stereotypes. But people are not OBLIGATED to shop there. You're actually pretty much abolishing what the transgender movement stands for; to dissolve the lines of division between the genders and accept gender expressions of all kinds. From what you're saying, cross dressers are damned or bad people because they don't "identify" as the gender they are presenting as.

Quote from: Mister on August 20, 2008, 03:51:52 PMMore women are victimized while wearing high heels than any other type of shoe.  Why?  They're targeted because women in heels cannot run away.  I was at a wedding two weeks ago where the men in the group escorted women wearing high heels across the soft lawn because they could hardly even walk on it.  How can you say this is practical?  The high heel is continually sexualized in the male-dominated media and thus women continue to wear them despite damage to their skeletal systems and at risk of harm.  Why? To be seen as attractive.  The media is the cause of the majority of this- it dictates what is made, what is sexy, etc., and society follows suit.  I doubt many people would agree that footbinding seems like a particularly hot idea, but until recently it was sexualized in Chinese culture. (please, do a google image search if you are unfamiliar with the appearance of this)  In a hundred years, our great-grandchildren could have the same view on the barbaric footwear practices of western women.
I never said high heels were a good thing. Whoever brought that up brought that up out of nowhere.

I said that SOME female clothing is practical BECAUSE it is tailored for the female frame, which, deny it as much as you will, transmen do have before transition. My fitness shoe example is nothing like your high heeled nonsense. A fitness shoe must fit the foot properly. Yes, SOME transguys will fit into boy's fitness shoes. But most won't before T. A fitness shoe must fit damn near perfectly, not just "sort of" or "mostly." It must fit like a glove.
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Mister

Brains, like the rest of the living word, are subject to evolution.  There is no proof that a binary based society influenced human brain development.

The transgender movement stands for blurring the lines? Maybe the umbrella term.  The 'movement' I belong to supports the transition from male to female and vice versa.  I'm not saying I don't support the gender queer folks or the cross dressers, but this forum is FTM transsexual talk, not the general transgender or androgyne forum.  FTM implies Female to Male, not Female to somewhere inbetween.
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Elwood

I never said it did.

You're only taking the gender roles and separating people more, disrespecting your brothers, sisters, and comrades who are genderless. You're pretty much ->-bleeped-<-ting all over anyone that's null gendered, androgynous, bigendered, fluid, or gender queer because they don't meet the "binary" system you like so much. :/

This may be the FtM forum, but I don't care where the frack I am. I respect my TS comrades unconditionally, regardless of their gender expression.
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Mister

Oh, Elwood. 

I love how you can take me debunking your ripping apart Aiden's thread on female clothing being impractical and take it to mean that I'm anti-un/bi/gendered folk, when the main reasoning of the thread was this....

You're small and most men's clothing does not fit.  Utility clothing is good for that, sure, but not what most women wear.  Casual men's clothing is built with my utility than women's. Those who introduce and promote the impractical clothing for women are the same group who continue to oppress them.


Posted on: August 20, 2008, 03:11:27 PM
And I haven't said a single word about gender roles.  I'm talking societal norms.  I don't believe women SHOULD wear heels or dresses.  I'm stating status quo.
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Elwood

Except I didn't rip anything apart. I expressed any opinion. What, can't stand a view that differs from your own? If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen.

You missed my point entirely. I was not saying that the only practical women's clothing was utility. Quality clothing is possible to find. Not at the department stores, maybe, but it does exist. Not everyone who lives as rough as a man wants to look that way. Not all women are dainty little nothings, and yet that's how you make it sound like. You make it sound like all women's clothing is useless, implying that women can't do any better. :/

You're getting way off track if you're thinking of accusing me of oppressing women.
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Mister

Having never accused you of oppression, I may very well accuse you of horrible reading comprehension for both thinking that I'm against anyone who's not a 'true' transsexual and that you're somehow dictating current fashion trends.

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Elwood

Oooh, what a man you are.  ::) Are you going to beat your chest and swat all the flies, King Kong?

You have proven to me that you are incapable of having an intelligent discussion with anyone who disagrees with you.
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Mister

i'm sorry, did I claim to be uber-man? i think not.

no, dude, you just have all the answers.  why you come on this board to do nothing but attempt to discredit others is beyond me.
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Elwood

Except you're the same way. ;D
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icontact

 ::)

Mister and Dan, let it go, will ya? Is this really worth your time? Or fair to the OP? Take it to PM if you're so riled up.
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Mister

Here's the difference-  I post from personal experience.  I've been on testosterone for quite a while, pass 100% as male, have had surgeries and consider my transition to be complete.

You post from what you've found on the internet or, to my best guess, from what you think is logical.  While neither of these are invalid, I refuse to have my points discredited from someone without a personal experience to trump my own.
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Elwood

Quote from: freespeechz on August 20, 2008, 05:36:03 PM
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Mister and Dan, let it go, will ya? Is this really worth your time? Or fair to the OP? Take it to PM if you're so riled up.
No, I'm done.

And Mister, I don't care if you're "more trans" than me with your testosterone injections and your "100% passing." That doesn't make you (figuratively) have more balls than anyone else on here. And maybe you don't think it, but I do pass always unless someone outs me.

Nothing I am talking about on here has anything to do with the fracking internet. My post about you being misogynistic is also based upon my personal experience. I don't give a flying rat's tail if you think being older or "more transitioned" makes you more informed than me; it doesn't.
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Mister

Ok, OP...

i'm sorry your mother wants you to wear clothing typically assigned to your birth sex.  perhaps a gentle nudge in the right direction would help.  if that's no good, start shopping for your own back to school clothes.  if you're forbidden from wearing clothing of choice, move out.  couch surf with friends, stay with a relative, move into a dorm. 

and maybe i'm confused because i'm getting so damn old...  but aren't a large percentage of emo boys wearing women's clothes these days? seems all the rage with the hipsters here in the bay area...  and you've already got the swoopy hair down.
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Elwood

Also, girl's clothing is getting more androgynous/masculine. At Target they sell underwear that looks like boy's underwear in the girl's section. And, no, it's just "->-bleeped-<-ty" because it's a girl's item. I bought boys underwear from the boy's section and-- GASP-- they're exactly the same except they have a real fly instead of a decorative one.

I'd buy boyish things from the girl's section when my mom had full control over my life because she liked it if it was from the girl's section, no matter how it looked. It disturbed her to take me to the boy's section to get socks. But only the boy's section had the length I wanted. Go figure.

Maybe your mom has the same stupid hang up, and if it says "Girl's Hanes" on the inside, but screams "boy's panties" on the outside, she might still accept it. It's a way of compromising until you move out.

Not that I'm saying you shouldn't fight for your place.
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Aiden

gehh!   This is stupid!   There are people of different body shapes.  For you Dan women's cloths may be more practical due to size.  For others size isn't an issue, so other matters are taken into account reguarding practical. 

Btw Don't treat me like an arse and then go and say the same dang thing I was saying.

I said that not all womens cloths were that way (go read again)  I did not claim that all women were skinny little things (I'm not that way myself)   But a lot of the cloths designs seem to be built around someone's ideas of what a women's body should be and not how they really are.

I myself, biologically female, even if wanted to I couldn't wear most women's blouses or shoes or gloves.  I'm definantly not straight up and down like most guys but to me it's more practical to get a man's glove that is insulated and fits well enough than a dinky little women's glove that is to tight.  Most places I go for shoes, a size 10w in womens is very difficult to find outside of high heels.  And still don't fit right.  It's more practical for me to get a size 9 in mens.  As far as shirts, most blouses always seem to snug around the shoulders for me. 
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