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Started by Arch, August 30, 2008, 06:19:30 PM

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Arch

My partner and I went out to lunch at a Red Robin in a large mall, and I needed a couple of shirts, and so...

We only went to two stores, but I could not get out of there fast enough. Ugh, I hate shopping. What a relief to be home.

Now that I've rediscovered something worse than depression (that is, shopping), I'm not nearly as moody as I was earlier.

Funny, that.
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Elwood

I don't know. I don't fit the male stereotypes. I love going to the mall. Mostly for walking around. I'll buy an ice cream maybe and window shop. I love to go to the bookstore. Bought a book today. I'll blog about it. I also love getting clothes. Maybe it's because I get to pass when I buy guys clothes so I feel great about it. I'm sure after I transition clothes shopping won't be so exciting.
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Lachlann

I don't like shopping either. I absolutely hate window shopping and I only like shopping if I can actually buy something or if its something I'm excited about.

However, sometimes you have to get out and do something fun or in your case, more distressing than your depression. When you get stuck in depression or a rut, a change of pace can really help.

Yesterday I was going crazy from being inside the house all the time. My parents took me out for dinner and to see Mamma Mia. I never thought it would have helped but it did.
Don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own
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Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold
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sneakersjay

I've always hated shopping, especially mall shopping.  Partly because there are too many choices and I can't find what I want; partly because of the overstimulation - people, elevator music, the upper floor that shakes, bright lights, signs, echoes -- okay, so I'm ADD.  ::)

My daughter hates shopping as much as I do; go figure my son LOVES shopping.

Anyway, last week, my daughter needed a hat, so off we go to find one.  Three stores later, we hit the jackpot.  Suddenly my daughter is enjoying shopping, and I was drawn to the plaid shirts like a moth to the flame.  $300 later we managed to escape.

We were having fun.  And my daughter says, gee mom, now that you're a guy, you like shopping!  Which is true.  Now that I'm in the men's department I LOVE IT!!

Okay, I'm weird.  But I already knew that.  Can't wait to go get that first suit!!  But will wait until I pass more.

Jay


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fluffy jorgen

Shopping does my head in.

Not because I don't like it, but because there are no shops that sell clothes that I want around here and I have to travel 2 hours to a place where they do sell them and I never have enough money or time.

Noone looks at you there anyway, because everyone's too wrapped up in their own worlds to notice and most people who go to my shop look "odd" as you may call it, anyway.

Or maybe, it's me, who's wrapped up and hasn't noticed anything. Who knows.  ;D
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Jack Daniels

DEpends on what it is, if its guitar shopping its great. If anything else, then its boring.
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Elwood

Frack. Am I the only guy who likes to... I don't know... explore? I like to think of myself as a detective like Jack Webb's detective character or a uh, uh... adventurer like Indiana Jones. Manly enough for ya?

I personally enjoy over stimulation. Part of being OCD and anxiety-ridden. It distracts me from... well, the crap I have to deal with each day.

I DO NOT however, enjoy spending money. I guess I'm a window shopper. Buying stuff makes me extraordinarily nervous. Bought a book today and I can feel my bank account getting smaller and smaller...
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Lachlann

Indiana Jones was my hero when I was 4. :laugh:
Don't be scared to fly alone, find a path that is your own
Love will open every door it's in your hands, the world is yours
Don't hold back and always know, all the answers will unfold
What are you waiting for, spread your wings and soar
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Sephirah

Sorry to intrude on your thread, guys, but... I absolutely can't stand shopping. Unless it's for my girlfriend, I treat any form of retail incursion as a military operation.

Synchronise watch. Get in. Get merchandise. Avoid SAM (Someone After Money) sites. Get out.

But that maybe because I'm largely antisocial and awkward when out and about... but nevertheless... I believe the only form of therapy to increase my stress levels is retail therapy. :-\
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sneakersjay

Quote from: Leiandra on August 30, 2008, 07:42:37 PM
But that maybe because I'm largely antisocial and awkward when out and about... but nevertheless... I believe the only form of therapy to increase my stress levels is retail therapy. :-\

Exactly how I used to feel, pre-transition.  Even though I don't pass, I have so much more self-confidence and far less awkwardness than I used to have.  I used to feel like everyone was staring at me, judging me, and it made me hugely uncomfortable.  Not any more!  Though its a double-edged sword.  Now I spend more money... ::)

Jay


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Nero

I hate shopping too. Yeah, Dan looks like you're the lone clotheshorse here.  :laugh:
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Arch

Well, I have to admit that back when I was younger and thinner, I didn't so much MIND shopping for guy clothes, especially ties. But I really do hate shopping in general, and I dislike having to browse. My idea of doing it right is knowing exactly what I want, getting in, and getting out. Thank god for the Internet, but I even find online shopping tedious and irritating.
"The hammer is my penis." --Captain Hammer

"When all you have is a hammer . . ." --Anonymous carpenter
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Mister

Now that I've had chest surgery and the magic of testosterone has melted away my hips, I love shopping. :)
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Janet_Girl

With the exception of a few, I think shopping is a guy worst idea of fun.  Before, in my other life I hated shopping.  In and out and home.  But now I love to shop especially clothes and the ever popular shoes.  My credit cards have a habit of hiding whenever I enter a store.

Like today I went to three stores looking for satin sheets.  I found them at Bed, Bath and Beyond.  I am in love with that store, it was the first time I ever went in to it and Peg and I were there for an hour and half.

If I ever have an SO, he or she will take away my credit cards. :(

"When the going get tough, the tough go shopping"  ;D

Janet
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Elwood

Quote from: Mister on August 30, 2008, 09:57:22 PM
Now that I've had chest surgery and the magic of testosterone has melted away my hips, I love shopping. :)
......

-CLING-

HAH! We've got ourselves a TWO MAN TEAM!
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Mister

Quote from: Elwood on August 30, 2008, 10:36:04 PM
Quote from: Mister on August 30, 2008, 09:57:22 PM
Now that I've had chest surgery and the magic of testosterone has melted away my hips, I love shopping. :)
......

-CLING-

HAH! We've got ourselves a TWO MAN TEAM!

Dork.    :P
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Elwood

Straight from the 1950's.  :icon_ciggy: I'm a full on legitimate class-A dork.
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Mister

Quote from: Elwood on August 30, 2008, 11:10:10 PM
Straight from the 1950's.  :icon_ciggy: I'm a full on legitimate class-A dork.

Smoking's bad, mmkay?
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Elwood

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JonasCarminis

haha you guys are funny. :P  and i <3 shopping!
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