It is ethically wrong for me dress as woman and use make up when I am with my grandparents that do not accept my transsexuality. We are more than one hour each and every day together. Is it wrong for me to go hairdresser and get more feminine hair?

Posted on: August 31, 2008, 05:14:00 AM

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I have eaten estrogen nearly a year and my feminine straits are quit visible. I have nearly completely removed my facial hair. I have changed my name to female. I am getting speech therapy at this fall.
I really need to  go full time 24/7. I hope that you do not see it ethically wrong because it hurts my grandparents?

No.

It's not ethically wrong, and I think it's very honorable that you've considered their feelings and are genuinely afraid of hurting them.

It may hurt them to see you this way, maybe they don't understand or they simply aren't used to it, or are used to seeing you as male, but it's not wrong to do what you are doing.

It's NEVER wrong to be yourself. Have you tried talking to them? Even if they don't understand, don't stop what you're doing. They may never understand how you feel, but don't let that get you down. It's really important that you do what makes you happy.

I hope this helped.

I know how hard it is for you to not want to hurt you Grandparents.  Ethically wrong, No.  You love and care for them.  But it is ethically wrong for you not to be true to yourself.

I imagine that they are very old school.  And you have had many a talk with them.  The only thing you can do is be you.  They may never accept the 'New' you, but dont let that stop you from being you. 

Maybe you can develop a style that is androgynous when seeing them. And dress it up a bit after you leave them.

Janet

(Maybe you can develop a style that is androgynous when seeing them. And dress it up a bit after you leave them.)

Thank you for advice. I have done it for couple of  years. I am still unhappy and very depressed. I feel being very tired of my family situation.

Quote from: Secretgirl on August 31, 2008, 05:26:15 AM
It is ethically wrong for me dress as woman and use make up when I am with my grandparents that do not accept my transsexuality. We are more than one hour each and every day together. Is it wrong for me to go hairdresser and get more feminine hair?

Posted on: August 31, 2008, 05:14:00 AM

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I have eaten estrogen nearly a year and my feminine straits are quit visible. I have nearly completely removed my facial hair. I have changed my name to female. I am getting speech therapy at this fall.
I really need to  go full time 24/7. I hope that you do not see it ethically wrong because it hurts my grandparents?

Why are you spending an hour a day with people who don't like you? That's an hour per day you could be spending with people who do. That's an hour per day that you could be spending practicing your speech.