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Isolation & Transition... etc

Started by jixe, September 05, 2008, 12:53:02 PM

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jixe

I know this is undoubtly a widely covered topic in the forum archives...

it's been a tough few weeks for me, I almost feel depressed like I did pre-hrt, just in a different way now, my family simply don't want to talk about my gender, and will usually go cold and frosty if I bring it up, I have only a few friends too, and two of them are off to college in sept now, which sucks :-(
I didn't know isolation could be so hard! - especially when you are going through big stuff, with nobody to seriously talk to.
I missed my monthly trans meeting, which has always been really heartwarming the past few months.
I live with all girls but it is still really hard to talk to them about this.
blergh :-I
So anyway, I miss my trans friends because they seem to understand lots, and I wish I had more too, I need the support more than ever it seems.
I guess this is my first thread on here, so hellllloo also to the susans community! I think it might be nice to get more involved here, perhaps I will feel more connected with others, we'll see !

Jo
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christene

Yes, just get out. I go through these at times once and a while too. It's usually my own insecurities, but then I get up and say, GET OUTSIDE CHRISTINE....and stop worrying so much. It can definately be hard when those you are close to and love don't want to talk about it, but maybe they will come around. They probably really have no idea what your really going through....it's tough....
Just go out and make new friends, they're really are a lot of supportive people out there that will like and love you for who you are. I strongly suggest not isolating yourself, it tends to have a negative spiraling effect, which usually falls into depression and the crap that comes with that. YOU have nothing to loose here and will certainly find people to talk to. I never go to support groups but have often thought I should once and a while at least...just to remember I am not the only one dealing with this situation...and hey maybe I can help someone else too.
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Hypatia

Trans friends can be few and far between. Very soon after coming out, I noticed that I was probably not going to make many trans friends. I got much more out of mainstreaming myself. I found tons of friends in the Pagan and LGBT communities who were very supportive of me. I have not had a problem with isolation since then, as coming out transformed me from a social recluse with no friends into a butterfly with very many friends. My life only started when I came out. On this basis I've built up a good personal support network and lived a terrifically enriching life. Coming out unleashed my human potential which had been stifled all those years. I discovered that I really like people and it became easy to socialize, something I'd always been inhibited at previously.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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jixe

I know !!!
I am a pagan too, and so is my partner, we like the shamanic side of life, which is certaintly highly alienating and isolating in itself, I've not seen her for a while, so thats the most dominant factor in the loneliness really.... Plus I've found college really good for being busy with myself and others, but there is none of that for another week.
:I  Probably I just need to party a little more and be more outgoing, maybe add a little more positivism & humour, and then.... * :D
plants are very good friends to me ;)
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