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changing shirt in public

Started by katiekins, September 08, 2008, 05:36:17 PM

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Do you feel comfortable changing your shirt in public?

Yes
7 (15.6%)
No
33 (73.3%)
Other (please explain)
5 (11.1%)

Total Members Voted: 20

katiekins

I have not yet started transiitoning.  but even as a guy I've never ever been comfortable changing my shirt in view of other people.
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Elwood

As a guy I've never been comfortable taking my shirt off since I started having boobs.

But sometimes, when I'm really hot, I find myself saying, "frak it," with the shirt right up to my nipples realizing that I'm not "allowed" to take it off. Until I have top surgery, it's against the law for me to be topless in public. Can you believe that? I really hate that law. There is nothing obscene about breasts.
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Elwood

Quote from: Tasha Elizabeth on September 08, 2008, 06:44:12 PMi have learned how to change bras under my shirt and even change shirts underneath another shirt....
I had to learn that magical technique living as a girl... people were always impressed.
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Nero

Quote from: Tasha Elizabeth on September 08, 2008, 06:44:12 PM
i have learned how to change bras under my shirt and even change shirts underneath another shirt....

yeah i've done the bra thing for years. wasn't letting anyone see me shirtless.
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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Nicky

I don't mind it, but as I age I'm getting a bit Tom Selleck like and am not so keen.
Actually I feel a bit self concious doing it. 
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Kaitlyn

Yeah, I hate taking off my shirt in front of people.  It's pretty hard for me to go swimming as a guy.

I also wrap the towel around my upper torso like a girl.  I don't know when I started that, but it somehow just feels better.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
— Plutarch
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alexkidd

I hate changing infront of people, I always wear a t-shirt (even over my binder, so ppl dont see it) or something just in case. I have to change everyday at work (well twice, into my uniform and out of my uniform), its so uncomvertable.

However around the house it doesnt bother me, I walk around in my boxer shorts all the time.

When I get surgery Ill probably be one of those guys who never wheres a shirt, lol.
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fae_reborn

Quote from: Nephie on September 08, 2008, 08:50:20 PM
I also wrap the towel around my upper torso like a girl.  I don't know when I started that, but it somehow just feels better.

I've done the same thing for as long as I can remember Nephie, even when I was little.  Even when there's nobody around I still do it.  :D

I can change my bra under a shirt too, but anything else I go to the ladies room and change in a stall.

Jenn
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tinkerbell

Quote from: katiekins on September 08, 2008, 05:36:17 PM
I have not yet started transiitoning.  but even as a guy I've never ever been comfortable changing my shirt in view of other people.


When I was "pre-everything", I used to feel the exact same way.  I never removed/changed my shirt in front of people (even family members and close friends), I felt exposed, displaced, a horrid, horrid feeling that I can't even begin to explain with words.

tink :icon_chick:

P.S.  I have added a poll for you, Katiekins!
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Natalie W

I'm fine with taking my shirt of in front of other people if I'm in a locker room or in my dorm room, but taking off my shirt at the beach or the pool will never happen.  Too many, too much dysphoria. 
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sd

I have always hated changing in front of people.

I always liked doing the towel thing, but never wanted to be caught doing it so I always put on a shirt before leaving the bathroom or pool then wrap the towel around my waist. I never even liked wearing shorts, though now that I shave my legs I like wearing them.  :D

Never associated any of that behavior with dysphoria.  ???


I am pre everything, and no one has asked about my legs being shaved.
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Northern Jane

Not since I was 10!!!! Since 13 I think it would have been illegal. Since 24 it HAS been illegal!  :o
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Kaitlyn

Quote from: Elwood on September 08, 2008, 05:38:42 PM
Sometimes, when I'm really hot, I find myself saying, "frak it," with the shirt right up to my nipples realizing that I'm not "allowed" to take it off. Until I have top surgery, it's against the law for me to be topless in public. Can you believe that? I really hate that law. There is nothing obscene about breasts.

I can believe it - it's just another expression of our patriarchal, heteronormative social mores.  There are NO valid health or safety concerns surrounding exposed breasts.  It's all about male perceptions - the thoughts of the female-bodied come in a distant second.

God, that must be bizarre for you FTMs.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
— Plutarch
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Jay

When I was thinner I used to infront of people but I would turn my back so they couldn't see anything. Now I go out of the room.. or turn my back again.. depending on who is there.

I dont change my shirt in the actual open.


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Shana A

Even before I ever knew I was trans, I felt extremely uncomfortable changing my shirt in front of anyone. I would always swim in a t shirt at the beach so I didn't have to go topless.

Z
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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deviousxen

Quote from: Elwood on September 08, 2008, 05:38:42 PM
As a guy I've never been comfortable taking my shirt off since I started having boobs.

But sometimes, when I'm really hot, I find myself saying, "frak it," with the shirt right up to my nipples realizing that I'm not "allowed" to take it off. Until I have top surgery, it's against the law for me to be topless in public. Can you believe that? I really hate that law. There is nothing obscene about breasts.

Oh wow... D:

I never thought of it that way. I wonder if I'd ever get arrested in boy mode for it. Hahaha.

Who are cops to medically judge which tits are which?
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Kaitlyn

Quote from: deviousxen on September 10, 2008, 02:42:09 PM
Who are cops to medically judge which tits are which?

Especially since there's no difference between male & female breast tissue.

Who are the cops to be telling me that I can't walk around without a shirt if I'm female, period?  Not that I'm eager to do that, but the taboo is just so stupid.  Thank you, Puritans, for your life-denying medieval attitude.
"The mind is not a vessel to be filled but a fire to be kindled."
— Plutarch
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Elwood

Quote from: Nephie on September 10, 2008, 01:11:56 PM
Quote from: Elwood on September 08, 2008, 05:38:42 PMSometimes, when I'm really hot, I find myself saying, "frak it," with the shirt right up to my nipples realizing that I'm not "allowed" to take it off. Until I have top surgery, it's against the law for me to be topless in public. Can you believe that? I really hate that law. There is nothing obscene about breasts.
I can believe it - it's just another expression of our patriarchal, heteronormative social mores.  There are NO valid health or safety concerns surrounding exposed breasts.  It's all about male perceptions - the thoughts of the female-bodied come in a distant second.

God, that must be bizarre for you FTMs.
I know it is for me... It's socially acceptable for a boy to take his shirt off, but I can't!

Posted on: September 10, 2008, 01:23:08 PM
Quote from: deviousxen on September 10, 2008, 02:42:09 PM
Quote from: Elwood on September 08, 2008, 05:38:42 PMAs a guy I've never been comfortable taking my shirt off since I started having boobs.

But sometimes, when I'm really hot, I find myself saying, "frak it," with the shirt right up to my nipples realizing that I'm not "allowed" to take it off. Until I have top surgery, it's against the law for me to be topless in public. Can you believe that? I really hate that law. There is nothing obscene about breasts.
Oh wow... D:

I never thought of it that way. I wonder if I'd ever get arrested in boy mode for it. Hahaha.

Who are cops to medically judge which tits are which?
I really don't know. It's up to each individual what is "obscene public exposure."

Quote from: Nephie on September 10, 2008, 03:15:43 PM
Quote from: deviousxen on September 10, 2008, 02:42:09 PMWho are cops to medically judge which tits are which?
Especially since there's no difference between male & female breast tissue.

Who are the cops to be telling me that I can't walk around without a shirt if I'm female, period?  Not that I'm eager to do that, but the taboo is just so stupid.  Thank you, Puritans, for your life-denying medieval attitude.
It all has to do with shape/size.

If a woman has has a mastectomy because of breast cancer, she can walk shirtless because she no longer has "female breasts."

Mine may be small, but they have the "female shape." The round flesh and the perky nipples.
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isterriis

Noway my boobies arn't huge but there still boobs  ;D
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deviousxen

Yep... Milk glands are so effing offensive I cant even bear this thread anymore...
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