wow, I have not bee online in ages (stupid lack of internet)
Anyway, on movies I woulf have to say Gabriel from Constantine, played by the lovely Tilda Swinton, the fact that Gabriel cannot be classified as m/f does not fit in either category, almost as if it transcends those boundaries. Another great one (played by the same amazing actress) is Orlando, though he does switch from being physically male to female, the change is unexplained. You're never sure why it happened or if it is permanent, ir if Orlando will last in that form for a while before changing into something completely different again.