Hey the best think about forums like this is you can get a range of opinions (hell, just ask me and Nichole and we can give you five opinions between the two of us) and options, and things to consider. It might not all apply to you (and add the word 'yet' to that, as some things might well apply in the future) and some are happy, others sad, but that's just real life. So read and ask, and find what works best for you. Despite the number of people on this board (or any internet board for that matter) who feel like they get to fill in for god on his day off and issue pronouncements about 'how it's suppozed to be' - at best and worse, its their life,and their life only. It might not apply to all.