Well, in the area I'm in and becasue the school system hated me I was outed while and in the early stages of going full-time.
I ended up in the early stages (being only 15 when the world in my eyes was innocent) not telling men and then assuming they'd break up with me I just moved on to the next one (a serial dater as it were)
Then, men started to actually want that SOMETHING from me that I was not ready or willing to give. So I ended up letting them go without explanation. When I turned 16 I found a guy who was everything for me, I told him after dating him for a MONTH. Yes, it's true. and He stayed with me until some unfortunate events forced us apart.
Well, then around 16-18 I started to just tell people straight out. People were quite receptive actually. There were those who didn't believe me. Those who laughed and left. Those who supported me. Those who encouraged me. Some said I was comendable, others just said nothing. Some lied and said "Let's just be friends" and then disappeard from my life completely.
But then, recently I met a man who I absoloutly fell in love with, and still am even though I shouldn't. He was 22 and known around our town as sort of a "man-whore" who basically would have sex with any girl he could get his hands on. But I was the girl he ignored. One day, he texted me and we hung out. Next thing I knew, I was dating him. We spent every waking moment together. I moved in with him, his son and his parents.
He had a 4 year old with one of his previous girlfriends and I loved that child with all my heart. He was straight and I knew it. He was also the most attractive guy to date that I had ever gone out with. I loved him so much. Well, after dating him for a while and only giving the conventional way of sex to him that I knew how, he asked why I never offered him the other type. He said he loved the bjs but there's more to sex than that, where was my satisfaction?
I didn't know what to say and that night, I told him. Tears filled his eyes and he basically through tears said "I can't blame you for that, I really want to be with you" I fell in love that night. And we dated for a year... it's over now. Partially becasue he felt ashamed of being my boyfriend. His friends talked about me and made fun of him. People we didn't even know pointed and laughed. It was too much for him. He started to cheat on me with actual girls, and started to break commitments, we fought constantly, but he claimed he still loved me. There were other things wrong, but I would rather not bring them up.
Basically, I was in a bad relationship with a good person. Becasue now he treats me like it never happened. Which is sad.
Woah, I did NOT meant to write that much...But I think you can avoid a lot of heart-ache and probably complications if you just tell them. If they don't like you, it's no sweat off your back, there are more people out there and they're just waiting for you.
The only thing to keep in mind though is, "just becasue they accept you, does not make them right for you" Just becasue he accepted me, doesn't mean he'll be the one I want in the end.
