Searching for Normal

http://maurphish.wordpress.com/2008/09/28/searching-for-normal/
9/28/2008

Liz over at <http://pattiedelish.blogspot.com/> recently wrote that life after transition is mostly mundane if you are fortunate enough to blend seamlessly in to your new gender. I hope one day to experience that mundanity because my transition does seem to affect and even dominate everything in my life right now. Gender is so fundamental to every interaction in society, (I would argue it is the most important 'signifier' we have in today's society) so I guess it isn't surprising that it would be the central focus in the life of someone who is uncomfortable with theirs.

As I said on a similar thread posted under post-operative life, I love being an ordinary, mundane woman!    On a different note, if after transition and SRS, people keep talking about their on-going GID problems, perhaps they still have some unresolved issues they need to work out with their therapists (or themselves). 

tink

Quote from: Tink on September 29, 2008, 08:30:26 PM
As I said on a similar thread posted under post-operative life, I love being an ordinary, mundane woman!    On a different note, if after transition and SRS, people keep talking about their on-going GID problems, perhaps they still have some unresolved issues they need to work out with their therapists (or themselves). 

tink

wait! what? didn't you transition to be a 'professional transsexual'?

ordinary, mundane woman

A victim?  Or perhaps the person who is so worthless that we send her out for coffee while we having the meeting?  Or the person who gets run over by the car with people waving out the window yelling 'sorry' while all the people around you have better things to do with their time than pick you up - kind of mundane and boring person?  You aspire to that?

Quote from: Natasha on October 01, 2008, 06:06:06 PM
wait! what? didn't you transition to be a 'professional transsexual'?

Mind game my dear? no, I didn't transition nor did I have SRS "to be a professional transsexual"  LOL  , but I'm certain that there are some that do.  I said it before, and I will say it again, again, and again until you understand it (if you can, of course) . I'm just a girl in every sense of the word (ordinary, mundane, regular or normal if you will) finally living a life that makes sense without all this "trans" baggage that consumed me (day in and day out) for almost two decades.  I am not "special", "different" "extraordinary", "exceptional", "more or less" than anything...just a woman like the zillions of others who roam the earth.  Am I making myself understood or should I go on? Come on Katia, you're a smart girl, and I am sure you know perfectly well what I'm talking about. Mind game over! 

tink

Actually, most of the people who at least write & talk about others being "professional transsexuals" also seem to classify themselves as "classic transsexuals." And I think the terms are both familiar enough to those of us who read all the TS blogs, articles, etc to know just exactly who seems to be pushing the "transsexual" jargon.

Of course, sometimes they're "women" and sometimes "classic transsexuals." Clarity of the language might be in order.

And, No, tekla, she ignored it, but I'll speak for her. She isn't talking about "ordinary beat down." She means she is not a "special case" woman. And, she isn't. There's a difference, and a distinction.

Nichole

Quote from: Tink on October 01, 2008, 07:37:47 PM

Quote from: Natasha on October 01, 2008, 06:06:06 PM
wait! what? didn't you transition to be a 'professional transsexual'?

Mind game my dear? no, I didn't transition nor did I have SRS "to be a professional transsexual"  LOL  , but I'm certain that there are some that do.  I said it before, and I will say it again, again, and again until you understand it (if you can, of course) . I'm just a girl in every sense of the word (ordinary, mundane, regular or normal if you will) finally living a life that makes sense without all this "trans" baggage that consumed me (day in and day out) for almost two decades.  I am not "special", "different" "extraordinary", "exceptional", "more or less" than anything...just a woman like the zillions of others who roam the earth.  Am I making myself understood or should I go on? Come on Katia, you're a smart girl, and I am sure you know perfectly well what I'm talking about. Mind game over! 

tink

hahahaha!

Quote from: Tink on October 01, 2008, 07:37:47 PM

I'm just a girl in every sense of the word (ordinary, mundane, regular or normal if you will) finally living a life that makes sense without all this "trans" baggage that consumed me (day in and day out) for almost two decades.  I am not "special", "different" "extraordinary", "exceptional", "more or less" than anything...just a woman like the zillions of others who roam the earth. 

tink

Tink, you speak such simple truth so beautifully!  I too am such a woman.  Finally happy, finally *normal*.  I never knew such peace existed.

And as I tell some people who don't get it.  I just changed my gender, not my IQ!  If you treat me as second rate, or second class you will find out how much of a vocabulary this lady has!

-Sandy

Quote from: Kassandra on October 02, 2008, 02:23:27 PM
Tink, you speak such simple truth so beautifully!  I too am such a woman.  Finally happy, finally *normal*.  I never knew such peace existed.

Thank you, Sandy and of course you are!

Quote from: Kassandra on October 02, 2008, 02:23:27 PM
If you treat me as second rate, or second class you will find out how much of a vocabulary this lady has!

-Sandy

LOL    it would be interesting to hear you talk with a different vocabulary, Sandy, but I just can't picture it.

Quote from: Natasha on October 02, 2008, 02:11:27 PM
hahahaha!

There it goes into oblivion, a post wasted with a "ha ha ha".  You might as well type "oh", "yes", "no", "uh-huh", "yeah" or post single smileys on every new thread to increase your post count!   Come on now, I have seen much better from you.  You can make history! *giggles* Testing me isn't quite a good idea  , please trust me when I say it, it isn't, for I always keep a dish of fava beans and a bottle of Chianti by my side just in case I have a "friend" for dinner! I'm teasing you BTW  

tink