Hm. I'd be really interested in hearing an answer from a bigender or two-spirit/system. Anyone know if Wesley/Lexi, Mia/Marq, or other systems use Susan's?

Quote from: freespeechz on September 09, 2008, 06:33:33 PM
Hm. I'd be really interested in hearing an answer from a bigender or two-spirit/system. Anyone know if Wesley/Lexi, Mia/Marq, or other systems use Susan's?

They don't seem to be around anymore.

I'd take being a cisgendered female (matching my mind.) in no time.

Although I've come to accept myself as transgendered, it doesn't mean that if I had the CHOICE to become a cisgendered female like that I wouldn't take it. I mean, it'd save me all of the trouble of coming out, and yeah, life would be a lot easier... and I'd be 100% female. Too bad that's not a possibility. T_T

I'd rather be cisgendered. I don't care which way. If I was a cisgender male that would be awesome, but if I was a cisgender female I wouldn't care about losing my current personality because...it never would have existed. So much of my thought pattern and behavior is determined by my discomfort with my body.

I guess I wouldn't mind being cisgender female because, if I was one, then I wouldn't mind being female. The idea is repulsive to me in my actual state of course.

I would like to live this life with the male body I've got... then live it again as a woman body, then compare experiences at the end and see which one i preferred.

Impossible for me to answer easily. As a little kid, I would have chosen cisgender male, no question. I was a complete tomboy, and I didn't fully understand or quite believe that I was going to turn into a real girl.

As a teenager, I likely would have chosen cisgender female, just because of my female body and because I was so down on myself that I thought I was a sicko perv who probably didn't deserve to live. Despite my weird fantasy life, which I kept carefully compartmentalized from everything else, I thought at that time that I was a girl. And it would have been wonderful to feel comfortable with that sex and gender.

However, I've never been fully comfortable with my sex and gender.

If you ask me now? I don't think I could have done anything other than what I'm doing, but it would have been so great to grow up and live life without all of this turmoil and strife. Yet I am what I am. So I guess my fully informed response would be that I wouldn't change anything. But that still isn't a fully satisfactory answer.

Ask me again in a year.

I'm not sure it's possible for me to give a meaningful answer. My original impulse was to say cisguy (that is, body to match the brain), but if I'd been born cisgendered, my experiences would have made me a different person.

I think I would have had it easier had I been cisgendered male, but I also think that the experiences I've had and the self-examination I've had to do have gone a long way towards shaping my character and personality into something I'm proud of.

I might be happier as a cisguy, but I also might be shallower.

I really don't care which, but I would have been very happy to have been born into a body that was commensurate with my brain. In this world, I must say it would be easier to be born male, but that's not why I'm ftm, obviously. I would have been happy being a girl if I had been born that way... instead, however, I was born a guy in a girl's body. Forget life experience from being trans. People have enough to deal with in this life without having to deal with social ostracism and absolute unhappiness with their own bodies. Alas, I have no choice. I'm doing the best I can with what I have.

SD

bio dude. no t shots. no meta. no phallo. no hysto. no nothin. just me & my dudes body 

Right here right now I am simply a girl, something which is painfully obvious in a number of ways. Getting the body in line would be very welcome indeed.

Biological male. My life would have been radically different, but at this point I'd pretty much choose any life other than the one I got. I'm convinced that living female through most of it just made it that much worse.

Though I greatly dislike my birth defect, so much of the lessons i learned in life and my level of consciousness and self-awareness was gained because of my transsexualism If it was all taken away, what will become of me? A shell of who I am now? Would I be as deep and connected to the world? Would I still be as smart and aware?

I doubt it.

Wow Gracie, I really liked that.  So true.

Besides, if I had a choice I'd been born as a Kennedy Girl, or something like that.

As I have said before, if today I could be given a pill that made my brain match my genetic body (male) I wouldn't take it. May be when I was younger, scared, ignorant and confused I would have gone for being cisgender either male of female but now I am happy and even proud of who I am. It wasn't easy but being transgendered made the journey much more interesting, chalenging and exciting. I have learned a lot about general assumptions but mostly about accepting and even celebrating variety in all aspects of life.
Without having to face so many questions I could easily have ended up as either a bored old bitch or a boring old fart.  
ET VIVE LA DIFFERENCE!
LLL&R
Maebh

I definitely would want to be cisgender female.

Make me a princess
  All giddy inside
Make me a temptress
  With nothing to hide.

If I had a choice I would choose to be able to cycle through all the other options: cisgender male, cisgender female, transgender male and androgyne... for one week each, to get a brief understanding of the feelings and thought patterns associated with each one. Then I would return to being myself, get on with my life, and hopefully put the knowledge and experiences gained to good use in trying to help others and trying to find my place in the world.

I'm not with Pangloss.

Life has been good to me, at least good enough; I won't complain. But neither will I pretend that it couldn't have been far, far better.

I would definately vote to have the body that matched my brain. I have always been a girl and I have suffered severe abuse and torment as a boy with a girl's brain. So if I could turn it back I would have loved to been called to dinner like "CC, it's time to come to dinner honey."

Quote from: Alyssa M. on October 02, 2008, 05:15:23 PM
I'm not with Pangloss.

Life has been good to me, at least good enough; I won't complain. But neither will I pretend that it couldn't have been far, far better.

Me three. Cis guy first. Trans guy second. There is no third choice for me. I just can't imagine life not being a guy, even though I had to pretend to live it for so long. If I'd known back then how the cost/benefit of transition worked out so heavily weighted on the side I did, I'd have done it earlier (if I'd known it was possible - I only ever heard of FtM's 8 years before I transitioned).

But life has been good now that I know who I am, and I wouldn't send that gift back for anything except a chance to live it over as a cis guy.

Dennis