I grew up really feeling different with this whole transgendered thing.  Always questioning, was I born this way or became it socially?  I finally came out to my brother who in turn tells me he's also transgendered!  All this time neither of us knew.  I've been reading the forums a lot and seeing a little trend that other people have family members that are transgendered as well.

My brother and I are extremely close, so either born or socially could work in my mind.  I always wanted it to be that I was born this way but now I'm questioning it.  I'm wondering what are everyone's thoughts?  How common is it for multiple transgendered persons to be in the same family?   

My biological father is trans--she's my mom now. I don't think it was social for me, because she wasn't around when I was growing up. I didn't meet her until I was seventeen. It's good because she will be able to help me with my transition when it comes time, because she has already gone through it, but the downside is, everyone will think I am imitating her, trying to be like her... but that makes no sense, 'cause if I was trying to be like my mom, I would be a girl.

Quote from: Yochanan on September 27, 2008, 10:54:51 AM
My biological father is trans--she's my mom now. I don't think it was social for me, because she wasn't around when I was growing up. I didn't meet her until I was seventeen. It's good because she will be able to help me with my transition when it comes time, because she has already gone through it, but the downside is, everyone will think I am imitating her, trying to be like her... but that makes no sense, 'cause if I was trying to be like my mom, I would be a girl.

Thats actually fascinating cause I know what thats like.


D":

Like... I staffed a convention once. A previous worker for it was mtf, and I was SO afraid of telling her or anyone else, cause oddly enough... I had that same thought, "I'd be just "copying" them"'

Not to mention she got bad rep... So any TG person who would staff after her would be instantly looked upon like some idiot.

Quote from: deviousxen on September 27, 2008, 11:22:16 AM
My biological father is trans--she's my mom now. I don't think it was social for me, because she wasn't around when I was growing up. I didn't meet her until I was seventeen. It's good because she will be able to help me with my transition when it comes time, because she has already gone through it, but the downside is, everyone will think I am imitating her, trying to be like her... but that makes no sense, 'cause if I was trying to be like my mom, I would be a girl.

That interesting to know, that since you weren't around them, and you still trans.  I always felt also it was biological for me as well seeing as my earliest memories were of playing with dolls and wanting to dress up. 

Also pointing to possible biological is the fact that my brother and I being really close in age and being mistaken for twins all the time.  Maybe we are made up of the same thing and thats why.

When I told my little brother (1.5 years difference) recently he told me we are more alike than I think, and that he's definitely had some of the same thoughts I have. Just not to the same extent probably since I don't necessarily think he's transgendered. We haven't discussed it yet though, still adjusting to things. Perhaps it relates in some way to an overbearing father that always pushed us into sports etc? It's hard to say.

Quote from: FallenLeaves on October 05, 2008, 06:19:12 PM
When I told my little brother (1.5 years difference) recently he told me we are more alike than I think, and that he's definitely had some of the same thoughts I have. Just not to the same extent probably since I don't necessarily think he's transgendered. We haven't discussed it yet though, still adjusting to things. Perhaps it relates in some way to an overbearing father that always pushed us into sports etc? It's hard to say.

Thats very interesting and actually I was in a similar environment. Thanks for sharing.  Yeah I was wondering when I started this thread how common it is for family members to have these feelings.  I know at the same point finding out is another issue.  First you have to be honest with yourself then tell your family and then they also be honest.  For all this to happen, it's not very easy and is hard to tell just how common it is.

My cousin at this stage of his life is transgendered... keeps saying he wants to be a girl...

So I watch over him, and treat him like a little sister. Wish I had someone to watch over me who had been through what I have been through.

*Wonders if this entire thing is genetic...*

Quote from: Heartwood on October 06, 2008, 09:02:31 PM
My cousin at this stage of his life is transgendered... keeps saying he wants to be a girl...

So I watch over him, and treat him like a little sister. Wish I had someone to watch over me who had been through what I have been through.

*Wonders if this entire thing is genetic...*

I think there are a ton of different reasons at once for TG...

Increasing chemicals in our environment, Genetics, and hormonal levels of the parent. And they all play off of each other.