hello. I am new here. What attracted me to join this group or whatever was a posting about transgender liking their "penis". I am mtf pre-op transgender, and when I read all the technical mumbo jumbo detailing this and that, well. I wanted to provide my own thoughts about it. I know I know I should have replied directly to the post, however I couldn't figure out how to do that. So with all that said I am of the opinion that there are different degrees of ->-bleeped-<-. Now I dont have any technical mumbo jumbo to substantiate my beleifs, because it is simply my beleifs. I have come to this conclusion by hearing others talk (other mtf's) and knowing how I feel. I can only tell you how I feel, which is to say that I seriously consider my "penis" to be s major birth defect. And its presence is completly embarassing. I am extremly humiliated by it and very ashamed. No man I have ever been with has been allowed to see it and god help him if he ever touched it.
So there you have it. Please understand I respect others feelings and never belittle anyone for them. All I ask is that you please dont belittle me for mine

lol that was probably the topic I started.

I just think that different people feel differently about certain things... it seems some people don't really care much about their face for example.. but realllly want srs.  Some people seem to care much more about everything other than the penis.  I can also see how some women out there could find things to actually like about having a penis.

I don't think you should have to be one who feels they need srs to be considered transsexual.  To me, transsexual means that you feel you are the the "other" gender than what the body you're born into says.. and usually transsexuals want to change their bodies to match who they are inside... and whatever they do to 'change their bodies' is up to them.

I myself am not sure yet what I'll do about my penis... there are things I like about it, but I think most of the time I'd rather have a vagina.  I'll have to wait and see how I feel about this in the future.  I am scared of surgery, and the idea of never being able to 'go back' scares me too.  I'm also worried about how good it would look, and how good it would function.  Things can go wrong with surgery.

My psychiatrist doesnt believe I am really transgendered simply because I don't want to operate down there - and have little issue with my penis.
I really like women - A LOT.
I am married already and I don't want to get rid of it, yet I am completly dysphoric about my maleness - Taking hormones was one of the best descisions I ever made - but god forbid anyone take my orgasmic ability away from me - I don't mind that thing too much you know.
I also prefer being third gender- rather than being seen as just female - I like to be recognised as a two-spirit and am quite out about my transsexuality.
hope that helps someone - its OK to be you!!
:-D

Quote from: divatswun on October 08, 2008, 10:56:46 AMI know I know I should have replied directly to the post, however I couldn't figure out how to do that.

It was probably locked. This sort of discussion tends to elicit extreme reactions, and unproductive arguments.

As for me, I don't care what anyone's opinions of their own genitals might be, whether positive or negative.

By the way, jixe, your therapist shouldn't care either. For example, access to hormones under the Standards of Care is certainly not restricted to those who desire surgury of any type. You might consider finding a therapist with more experience regarding gender issues.

~Alyssa