Well, it is done! I called up the HR person a little bit ago and spoke with her.  She was very polite and understanding. I'm going to send her some information by email. She's going to give me a call on Tuesday after she's had some time to learn more about it and then we can get together with my manager. So, now that the cat is out of the bag, I'll see where it goes from here.

Melissa

Congrats Melissa, that must be a huge weight off your shoulders. Keep us posted on how it goes

Dennis

CONGRATULATIONS Melissa!!!!

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Michelle

ALRIGHTY THEN!

Secretively I've been waiting for you to post\tell us that...
Ya a girl read some of your on-line diary too
In any case,
I think my little girl said it best;

QuoteWish you all the best !!

CONGRATULATIONS....
"JUST WAIT UNTIL THE BATHROOM ISsUE POPS UP!"

sky's the limit
Chynna

Thanks Dennis, NightAngel, Chynna.

Chynna, I haven't updated my diary in a while, because I've felt more comfortable posting here lately.  About the bathroom issue, I mentioned that.  The stuff I sent to HR suggests using the normal bathroom and having people who are uncomfortable using an alternate bathroom.  Plan B is for me to continue what I've been doing and using the handicapped bathroom, but sometimes people occupy it for quite a while.  So, that's pretty much what I'll say to them.  The people are great that I work with though and I suspect that this also won't be a problem.

Melissa

I noticed when you dropped off in your diary you were more so active here.

Know this you will be suprised what people are going to suddenly have an issue with you or there demonor suddenly has changed...
CYA just a word of advise but then again I know you have that covered....Congrats again I really am envious\proud of you!

Chynna

well Im off to take my coworkers out in the parking lot we are all curious to see what happens when we add mentos to a 2 litter of diet coke
Hey its friday!

Envious?  I still don't know how everyone will react.  We'll see.

Mentos and diet coke? See it here:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-1450915772177922792

Melissa

Congratulations, Melissa! The saga continues...

And Chynna... I want to work for you!

Annie

Envious...For lack of a better word I don't know why I guess it was just up lifting pivitol time in my life where I looked back and said now I have accomplished something...
oh to relive that moment!!

on a off the subject personal note:
And the diet coke thingie we seen it on line but all the girls here wanted to actually see it happen!!So I sent a Data entry clerk out to wal-mart (she needed a break anyway)to buy a pack of mentos since we already had the diet coke. it was a very intriguing event!]
Got to go home now and change im kinda covered in diet coke!!! LMAO

Chynna

Melissa,

Congratulations!  I am so incredibly happy for you!

There is a book at Amazon that might help your HR person.  It's called Transsexual Workers: An Employer's Guide and I found it to be very good.

Go forth and conquer!

Chaunte

Way to go girl.
Best of luck that it all turn out right for you.

Jillieann

I have the book, free for the asking.

Leigh

Cool.  I almost bought it today, then cancelled my order.  Ok, could I borrow you book please Leigh?  I'll be at pride on Sunday and maybe Saturday.

Melissa


Posted at: June 16, 2006, 09:11:03 PM

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Update:

I found out the HR person is flying out and will be here June 26-27th. We are going to tell my manager at that time.

Melissa

Borrow hell.   Its yours.

I'll be in the Dyke March Saturday evening and then in the parade on Sunday so it should be easy to meet up.  I'll be the one in 7" platforms, big hair, makeup by Sherwin Williams, petticoats and crinolines.

Leigh

Hi Melissa:
That's wonderful, sweet heart.  Hope you keep us posted about this new HR person....I am so excited for you!!!!  Let me tell you one more thing, I am new here, but I am beginning to like you a lot!!!!

tinkerbell

Thanks Leigh. I will look for a very tall woman.

Thanks tinkerbell.  I will definitely keep everyone posted.  It really is fun living a life that people enjoy experiencing vicariously.  I feel like I am the director of a movie, except it's not fiction.  Also, you may be new here, but you're not new at life.  Feel free to contribute anything to Susans as long as it remains in the rules.

Melissa


Posted at: June 16, 2006, 11:18:49 PM

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[*UPDATE*]

I talked to the HR person on the phone this morning and we went over my concerns and it doesn't sound like there will be any big issues.  I gave what I thought would work the best in a few situations such as the bathrooms.  I said the only person I was concerned about not being respectful was my boss and the HR person said she had the same concern.  I guess I am good at reading people.  Hopefully that will go well though.

I also mentioned about giving some sensitivity training and she mentioned that she was planning on giving something about avoiding harassment and thought that it would be something good to add to that and I agreed.  So, things are looking good.

Melissa

How in the world did I miss this thread.

Congratulations Melissa! It sounds like things are going great and I wish you the best.

I just noticed something.  In the email signature of the HR person I have been communicating with is this quote:

"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body...but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming, WOW! What a ride!" - Eddie Hinman

I guess that would have been a good clue that she's open if I had read that before.

Melissa


Posted at: June 20, 2006, 02:55:17 PM

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[*UPDATE*]

Well, I talked to the HR person again and now I need to come up with a FAQ before monday.  I've seen some good ones, so I shouldn't have any trouble with this.  On Monday at 8:30, I have a meeting set up with my manager and the HR person to go over everything.  He still doesn't know.

Melissa

Melissa,

What type of facts are ou looking for?

Chaunte

It's mostly a sheet of questions and my answers that I think are important.  It's to give to others that may feel uncomfortable approaching me.  I think I've gather enough info to throw something together.

Melissa


Posted at: June 22, 2006, 10:33:51 PM

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[*UPDATE*]

Well, now my manager knows.  We told him this morning and he is fine with it.  He said that as long as work keeps getting done, he has no problem with it.  I think my work will actually improve, so I don't see it as a problem either.  We are going to come up with a timeline either later today or tomorrow.

I finished the information sheet and gave that to both the HR person and my manager.  He was actually the person I was most worried about, so I think the rest should be much easier.

Melissa