I've given that a great deal of thought over the years. And I have come to the conclusion that it doesn't matter.
Whether or not I was hard-wired or it was just an irrepressible urge does not change the way I feel by one iota.
I have and always will feel like a woman. And me trying to convince myself that it was just an urge, did nothing to relive me of the agony of having the wrong body. Also trying to forgive myself for these feelings by saying it wasn't my fault, I was born this way did nothing to relive me of the agony either.
If you broke your arm, it really doesn't matter *how* you broke it, it's STILL BROKEN!
-Sandy