My wife has made incredible strides in accepting me in the last weeks and I am astounded. She has supported and allowed me to go out with some girl friends. She has given me linger1e and loaned me a purse. And yesterday she bought me a fabulous pair of Gloria Vanderbilt black jeans and a nice top! but I didn't really care for the top so she and I take it back and go shopping for another! (guy mode though) 

This is the woman I told about my dressing within the first two weeks of meeting almost 20 years ago. This is the woman that allowed me to dress before kids and even participated intimately. This is the woman that asked me to do intensive cognitive theraphy for over 3 years to cure me so we could have children. Wwe have two beautiful children. She is also the woman that said repeatedly for the past two and a half years that she cannot support nor accept this part of me for fear of what it would mean to her and our children.

She is a very strong and confident woman with a Ph.D. in psychology. But believe me, that degree hasn't helped her in facing the things that she is facing now with our life together.

But she says she really loves me and does not want to lose me. So for the first time she really accepts the real me!

What a blessing. What a few days. What a better future.

I can't believe this is happening for me.

I couldnt be happier for you....that is wonderful news. She must really love you to have stuck this out for so long. Your very lucky. It must have really made your day/week!!

Christine

Quote from: Christine on October 30, 2008, 04:04:12 PM
I couldnt be happier for you....that is wonderful news. She must really love you to have stuck this out for so long. Your very lucky. It must have really made your day/week!!

Christine

Thank you Christine. YES, IT HAS MADE MY LIFE!

awww i just love reading stories like this, its nice to know that people out there are still accepting and willing to support you in any way they can. Human nature can be a wonderful thing sometimes i can imagine how happy you must be CC

good luck hunny.

May the Goddess continue to bless you.  Your wife sounds like a great woman.

I'd just like to say "YAY!" and send hugs!

Congratulations to you both

WR

ahhhh....cc....if that ain't about the most wonderful goings on in the world i don't know what could be.  whatever ya'll are doing, keep it up!  God bless you with....

Thank you all so very much for such heart felt comments and wishes. It is a special thing when one has special people that wish them well. I'm very blessed.

CC

CC,

Sounds like you ad I are the lucky ones! I can't say that anything has ever made me happier then having my soul mate accept me and love me.

Best wishes to you and keep the good news coming.

CC and Ellieka... I hope I am as lucky as both of you in the long run. My wife is sticking with me for now, but understandably can't make any guarantees about staying with me if I "go all the way" with this...

Quote from: mtfbuckeye on November 07, 2008, 07:52:45 PM
CC and Ellieka... I hope I am as lucky as both of you in the long run. My wife is sticking with me for now, but understandably can't make any guarantees about staying with me if I "go all the way" with this...

Its tough for them but the best advise I can offer is to just be honest with her... and be honest with yourself. Don't try to convince yourself that its "only this" or "only that". If you don't know what you want in the end for yourself yet take your time and really thing about it. I made the mistake of trying to lie to myself and to those who love me in an effort to convince myself that it was just a fetish.

But what ever your decision is in the end I sincerely hope you all the best. Its tough but being happy is worth it.

 Ellieka..
I'm taking things slowly, and planning to keep my wife informed and involved at each step.. You seem like a success story... I'd love to talk to you more about this..

By all means! feel free to PM me

CC,

What a wonderful place to be in.  It looks like you are truly ready to unfurl your wings and fly!  I hope your wife will continue to support the beautiful girl she has set free.

Thanks so much for sharing.

HUGS....

Kristi

This past week my wife bought me a complete set of the make up I wanted. Then we discussed the different items. So it was wonderful girl talk. She still has not seen me fully made up and I'm not sure when and if she will be ready for that. But my instincts tell me it will be someday. She also let me spend the whole evening at her Mother's winter home by myself to practice and play with my new make up. What a fabulous evening.

Then just yesterday she was telling me a story and our son butted in to add something. So my wife without knowing I'm sure said "let me tell HER the story. HER?? Wow!

So keep your fingers crossed.

<giggle>  hi cc.  well, not only is that "girltalk" just about as fun and intimate as life gets, it's productive!  "her"  <giggle>  "her".  that tickles me all the way across the cyber universe.  God bless with...

her................................

Quote from: CC on October 30, 2008, 04:00:23 PM
This is the woman I told about my dressing within the first two weeks of meeting almost 20 years ago. This is the woman that allowed me to dress before kids and even participated intimately. This is the woman that asked me to do intensive cognitive theraphy for over 3 years to cure me so we could have children. Wwe have two beautiful children. She is also the woman that said repeatedly for the past two and a half years that she cannot support nor accept this part of me for fear of what it would mean to her and our children.

That's really wonderful that she's chosen to support you more strongly.

I think wives have a lot more at risk than we realize. We are the ones with the internalized personal battle that makes it hard for us to engage the larger social world. But when a wife is faced with how to respond, she has lots of fears, especially in regards to continually being able to take care of herself and her children, in case she ends up losing her spouse. And so many changed expectations for the future. Everything we gain by them giving to us, they also lose something.

She must trust and love you a great deal to feel comfortable supporting you like this, or at least is doing the best she can to make sure that you're around and able to engage her. It almost doesn't matter how much head knowledge one has, as you suggested in the OP; the heart still is afraid and hurt by the changes.