I finally got a date.  Hes taking me out this tuesday.   Hes a little younger than me but no bad 25, 20.  I haven't had a date forever.  The best part is he knows about my situation and is ok with it.  I met him at the local barnes and noble after chatting online with him for a few weeks.  Hes cute and seems like a nice person.  Im kindof discombobulated.  lol  I can actually see myself dating him.  Ill let you all know how it goes.

Audrey

Woo hoo! Way to go Audrey!!!

(seethes with jealousy)

Any idea where you're goin'? Whatcha gonna wear?

Kate

Yay thats such great news hunny,

im so happy for you (joining Kate in the jealous corner )

yes do tell, what are your plans.

Red Robin.  I am going to wear a green longsleeve shirt under a cute vest, the puffy ones, with black leggings and a jean miniskirt and my ugg boots.  Ill put up a photo sometime.   Im really excited and want to look really cute. 

Audrey

That's great news im very happy for you and i hope it works out ok.

grabs a deck of cards and goes to stand in the growing jealousy corner

  OMG, OMG, OMFG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT'S LIKE TOTALLY MONDO TUBULAR!!!!!!!!!

Cute and likes books?  A man from the heavens.  (brings along some champagne to the jealously corner.  We may not have dates, but we can still partay).

Cute ... check.

Reads ... check.

Of course, the real test is if he does the dishes.

Congrats Audrey, hope you have a fantastic time!

~Simone.

Awwe, that's so cool Audrey. I'm excited for you, and I hope you have a wonderful date. You will have to give us all the juicy details (and pictures) afterward

(I, too, will join the others in the jealousy corner. I was recently turned down after coming out to a guy, so I'm happy to hear that there are some out there who can get past this little detail in our lives.)

I am so glad for.  I hope that is a fun and relaxing time for both of you.

Hey Fox deal me in.**As she turns and heads for the jealousy corner**

i hope you have a great time on your date Audrey

The date was ok.  Mostly me asking questions about him.  He didn't ask me anything at all.  Im assuming hes not that interested after all.  He did mention today that hes scared because im 25.  BFD get over it.  I think I will date guys who are a little older and more mature from now on.

Audrey

Sorry it wasn't spectacular, Audrey. The big galoot doesn't know what he's missing, for sure.

Sorry it didn't go well hard to believe someone that well read would be so close minded well he jsut dosen't know what hes misisng. Im also 25 where young and in the prime of our life how can anyone think thats to old to date boggles the mind.

Quote from: Emme on November 12, 2008, 05:20:12 PM
20-25 is kind of a tricky age gap.  I was 20 and my soon to be husband-turned-ex-husband-but-not-nearly-soon-enough was 27 when we met.  I hit 21 and wanted to do the typical 21 year old things.  I wanted to have a drink.  I wanted to go to a club or two.  I wanted to live my life.  At 27, he was past that whole stage.  He had 30 staring back at him, with different goals, and different priorities, none of which included me or my needs, but that's a different thread heh.  I think dating a someone slightly older than you, or within a year younger would be a good thing to try.  Increases the chances you'll be at the same stage of life.  I'm married, so I'll bartend for the next date.

That was the exact ages of my husband and I when we met, Emme. I was 20, he was 27. Worked out perfectly for us, but he was rather wild, typical bad boy who never grows up, so we were on the same page.

Audrey,
I think age gaps don't make much difference at all unless it's the woman who is older. And that's because women are usually years ahead mentally than men their age, so this puts a huge gap in maturity when she dates a younger guy.
The maturity gap between male and female is never more painfully obvious than when you're ftm and waaay behind your supposed 'peers'.

He needs to get a clue.  Age is just a number.  Yes maturity is an issue, but my ex is eight years my junior.  And it was not an issue.

The guy I like really well is seven years my junior. What is it about younger ones that I am attached to?  Oh well. 

Hmm... something doesn't add up.

Ah well, probably nothing *shrugs*.

That's a shame, Audrey. Don't be discouraged, honey. You're very beautiful, seem really nice, and no doubt will make some guy very happy when you find the right one. *hugs*

Also last nite he mentioned that he wants to "do naughty things" before he settles down.  I told him that Im not into the whole friends with benefits thing and Im not going to be his "naughty" experiment.  Sigh oh well.  I think I am going to give up on dating right now until after I get SRS.

Thanks everyone for your advice/comments.
Audrey

Discombobulated is a really big word.

My brain hurts.

AWESOME

Sorry for the disappointment Audrey hon. What an arse.

~Simone.