Naaa. It just makes you who you are. You probably have other ways that you like to express your sexuality and affection. I've never seen a manual that says oral sex is the only right way to do it any way.

Quote from: Jamie-o on November 28, 2008, 06:01:05 AM

Quote from: Stealthgrrl on November 27, 2008, 05:41:48 AM
She said, it's fine you find certain men charming, cute, blah blah, but do you want to go down on one?

Erm, I'm not too keen on the idea of going down on a man or a woman.  Does that make me asexual?   

Nah, it just means you don't like oral sex. So what? That leaves two out of three, right?? 

BTW, I'm not fond of oral sex either. Giving or getting.

Sexual orientation? I have never been that sexually active with either a female or male partner, mostly only had sex with a female because that was supposed to be the in thing for guys to do. When I got married the relationship was mostly based in a desire of having a family, that relationship failed miserably, and I will leave it at that.

For many years I have not been interested in having sex with either male or female but since the surgery four years ago men have come to be more attractive but still not in a way of having a desire for physical sex with them.

I am still not at all that interested in having physical sex with either a woman or a man, but I do have a wonderful intimate loving relationship with my present partner who is also TS.

Cindy   

Quote from: Stealthgrrl on November 27, 2008, 05:41:48 AM
but do you want to go down on one? And my answer is and has always been, um, thank you but no. So much for confusion about men.

Hi, I'm new here and this is my first time blogging here, or anywhere regarding this subject, so I hope I don't do anything wrong. I just had a thought about this comment.

I never have but I would. I have felt like a girl inside my whole life and while I have never had sex with a guy I would like to. But I am not interested in gay sex. I don't want it to be equal. I want to be.....um "taken" for lack of a better term. I want to feel the weight of him on top of me. And I would love to go down on him but not just any guy. It would absolutely have to be the right guy. Does that make any sense at all?

Jeni,

Your comment makes perfect sense! I think you'll find a lot of folks here who feel the same way. You might check out the Sexuality forum, for example.

And I'm very glad you said you'd hold out for "Mr. Right." I'd be worried if you didn't. Unfortunately, a lot of T-girls get so excited that they lose their common sense, and they take up with the first dirtbag who comes along.

Oh yes, welcome to Susan's!

Thank you for being so welcoming MarySue.

It is very nice to meet you. 

Um...I don't know where the sexuality forum is. I did look. I just can't seem to find it. It's probably right in front of me. I can be like that sometimes.

In regard to sexual orientation I do not have alot of first hand experience.
When I was younger and a teenager I had no attraction to either sex and have always had a very low libido which I sometimes suspect may have been related to a low T count. In my early 20s I found out i had some atraction to men but still none ever to females. The only time I would ever look at a female body was in envy. Im 25 now and have only had experience with 3 guys and no girls (had 1 girlfriend in hs kissed once and it was most ackward thing ever) and by technical sandards im still a virgin. I have participated in oral sex but do no find the experiece pleasurable at all once semen taste nasty and two I have a bad gag reflex . After taking estrogen I have developed a more solid attraction to males but still no strong sex drive and thus I remain celebate. I would not mind eventualy getting into a relationship with a guy especialy for the social companion aspects but I will never lose my virginity until my body is no longer male.

Hi Jeni, welcome to Susan's. I pray that you will find many of the answers you may be seeking here. There are many nice folks here to share and make inquiries.

Hi Fox, sounds like your story is much like.

Cindy 

That Avatar is the cutest Fox!

Thanks and hi Cindy

Quote from: MarySue on November 28, 2008, 01:54:15 PM
Jeni,

Your comment makes perfect sense! I think you'll find a lot of folks here who feel the same way. You might check out the Sexuality forum, for example.

And I'm very glad you said you'd hold out for "Mr. Right." I'd be worried if you didn't.

Unfortunately, a lot of T-girls get so excited that they lose their common sense, and they take up with the first dirtbag who comes along.

Oh yes, welcome to Susan's!

Giggles, I was headed down that road in spring. I switched from asexual to ON. I still remember the hug from the dirtbag it rocked my world. I would of done anything for love. My girlfreinds saw that i losted my mind and got me. They let me know that i did not want to be a S**T!

My Sexual orientation is open and willing to any relationship that is HEALTHY. I had hang up for 35 years i can do without them now.

I'm 2 years in this life i want to live and would like to share it with someone nice.

Quote from: Jeni on November 28, 2008, 01:26:48 PM

Quote from: Stealthgrrl on November 27, 2008, 05:41:48 AM
but do you want to go down on one? And my answer is and has always been, um, thank you but no. So much for confusion about men.

Hi, I'm new here and this is my first time blogging here, or anywhere regarding this subject, so I hope I don't do anything wrong. I just had a thought about this comment.

I never have but I would. I have felt like a girl inside my whole life and while I have never had sex with a guy I would like to. But I am not interested in gay sex. I don't want it to be equal. I want to be.....um "taken" for lack of a better term. I want to feel the weight of him on top of me. And I would love to go down on him but not just any guy. It would absolutely have to be the right guy. Does that make any sense at all?

Amen to that Jeni, you sound just like me!! And welcome to the boards!!!

When I was going through puberty I realized that I didn't feel a strong attraction to women, only a little bit. I wondered if I was gay, but I found that wasn't gay. Then I heard about being asexual, and thought "well that must be what I am!" but I'm not really that way either.
After all this confusion I thought "Well then I must be straight after all!" I thought it was settled, but then I often found myself thinking about sex with men. I still didn't feel attracted to men and kinda like Jeni said; I didn't want gay sex. I still find that I'm attracted to women, but I don't feel much of a sexual drive for them. On the other hand, I am not attracted to men at all, but I feel a sexual drive to sleep with a man, as a woman. I kept finding myself thinking about really embarrassing things. It confused me, and I'm still confused. I hope that someday I can go on HRT and maybe it will help me figure things out. I think it is normal for people like us to get confused about these things.

Hi Aelita, that makes two of us then that are confused. I to have dreamed of making out with a man, not just any man, like a good one who could make me feel like a woman but still have doubts about actually having sex with one. I have met many a wonderful gentlemen that have made me feel special as a woman but that was as far as the fantasy has went.

I have had sex with women but never enjoyed it, it felt wrong. I feel right about my body now that I am a woman but still uncertain about sexual orientation. Although I have never loved and trusted anyone before in my like as I do my beloved.   

Cindy

Quote from: Icephoenyx on November 30, 2008, 06:22:40 PM

Quote from: Jeni on November 28, 2008, 01:26:48 PM

Quote from: Stealthgrrl on November 27, 2008, 05:41:48 AM
but do you want to go down on one? And my answer is and has always been, um, thank you but no. So much for confusion about men.

Hi, I'm new here and this is my first time blogging here, or anywhere regarding this subject, so I hope I don't do anything wrong. I just had a thought about this comment.

I never have but I would. I have felt like a girl inside my whole life and while I have never had sex with a guy I would like to. But I am not interested in gay sex. I don't want it to be equal. I want to be.....um "taken" for lack of a better term. I want to feel the weight of him on top of me. And I would love to go down on him but not just any guy. It would absolutely have to be the right guy. Does that make any sense at all?

Amen to that Jeni, you sound just like me!! And welcome to the boards!!!

Thank you for your nice response Icephoenyx. And for being so welcoming! It's awefully nice to know that others feel like I do and that I'm really not all alone.

Quote from: cindybc on November 29, 2008, 12:38:47 AM
Hi Jeni, welcome to Susan's. I pray that you will find many of the answers you may be seeking here. There are many nice folks here to share and make inquiries.

Hi Fox, sounds like your story is much like.

Cindy

Thank you so much Cindy! 

Thanks eneryone. This forum is wonderful! This discussion has been very helpful. I have come to the conclusion that my brain is hardwired as a woman but my male hormones were fighting my true inner self. Now HRT is getting my chemistry correct. By the way I have decided on an orci now as SRS is many months away and there is no turning back. I know the submissive female is who I have always been and my sexual orientation is really not important; I may be bi but what is really important is how wonderful I feel now that I have fully accepted my womanhood. I feel completely relaxed and happy walking around in a nice skirt and top with my hair styled and a fresh manicure and pedicure. I will accept what ever orientation shows up and not worry about it.

Pam

Its good to see that your coming to terms with who you really are. Its a great feeling to be free.

QuoteI know the submissive female is who I have always been

Just be careful not to be too submissive. Women have struggled for decades to be treated and respected as equal to men. Don't let society tell you that just because your a woman means you have to let them walk all over you. It's ok to be strong and independent. 

Excellent point but I think I can be submissive and feminine and still stand up for myself. My brain is reverting to its female self so I don't have aggressive or need to be in charge thoughts. Just because I don't like to drive does not mean I won't have input in to where we are going. My view of the world is so very different now and I have gentle thoughts and feelings. Sexually I am completely different. It takes much time for me to get in the mood and my thoughts are for my partners pleasure rather than my own. It feels wonderful to have my partner carress my hairless feminine body and I feel so warm and wonderful when she enters me. I feel complete when she has an orgasm; mine is difficult and not that important to me.

Pam

Totally agree with you there Pamshaw. Its nice to not be plagued thoughts that make us feel like aggressive jerks. I'm so much calmer now that I'm on HRT.