I had Thanksgiving lunch with my mom's side of the family. I'm only out to my parents and one aunt, and they're lukewarm about the idea, at best. So my uncle recently remarried, and his wife's family came to lunch. Her father, who is probably in his 70s and hard of hearing, kept talking to my parents about their son. Me. I was sitting there, unbound, being both amazed and sortof uncomfortable. I didn't want my parents getting mad at me for it afterwards. But yeah. That continued for the whole day. "Have you had any cake yet?" "-trying to sound really feminine- Um, no, not yet." "Someone get this boy some cake!" I wanted to grin and jump for joy, but I always had to tense up, waiting for someone to "correct" him. It really made me hope that someday, my family won't think he needs to be corrected. Sortof gave me a taste of what that might feel like..

I would be ecstatic to pass under any circumstances!

Did your parents "correct" them at all in the end?

My parents kept calling me she, and my obviously female birthname, and mentioning that I was probably texting my boyfriend (I do like guys, but I don't have a boyfriend rightnow) but he either didn't hear or refused to believe them. I took to avoiding him because the whole situation was just so awkward.

Maybe he did hear them and deducted exactly what was going on?

Did your parents end up getting mad at you?

Maybe he DID realize exactly what was going on. That would be epic win. And no, they didn't get mad. They mumbled together about how they didn't want to embarrass him by correcting him directly, but my dad did jokingly say he should've "taken him outside and set him straight." I think they had to choose between getting mad and having to think about it more, or writing him off as a half-deaf old man and ignoring it. My parents, especially my mom, like to ignore the issues.

it worked out in your favour in the end 

I reckon he figured it out, it would have been nice if he had no reason to figure it out, but it's still a win I would say

I'm not seeing why this was bad.  I'm seeing like this-

- you received a good bit of affirmation, even if it may have been from a half blind old dude.

- your parents saw that people WILL see you as male, not as a woman forever.  this is one of the hardest things for parents to grasp, IMHO.

*echoes Mister's sentiments* I can't wait for that to happen to me.

I suppose you guys are right. Though my parents likely believe it's just because my hair was so short. That's what they've said some of the other times this has happened. But I guess I take passing for granted sometimes. I ought to try and stop that..

what you said.

I've had that happen. When we had sky+ fitted the bloke was referring to me as a male in fount of my dad, whether he caught on or not is a different matter. But he was saying "he" and stuff.

Must have been cool dude but more awkward than cool like you said!

I've had this problem a lot. None of my friends know at school, but this one kid I just met this year thinks I'm a guy (I love that, although it makes me paranoid about my appearance because I can't bind). So he comes to talk to me, with one of my other friends right next to me. He talks to my friend a little bit about me, and he's using male pronouns, and my friend is using female pronouns, so you can see where this is going. Very awkward, but somehow I make it out without having to 'correct' either person.

But that really sucks that you were stuck at a party with an old guy that doesn't know exactly what/who you are. Extremely awkward, but if you can get over that part, it feels really good. I also have a problem with other friends correcting strangers that called me a boy. They're like 'No, she's a girl'. And then tries to make me confirm it for proof. I just glare at them, suppressing the urge to rip their head off.